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My self-summary
(Note: I only date politically progressive men who are paying attention to what is happening in our country.)

Lover of life...
I love most things transformational, from the intimate to the planetary.

I value the full range of life from the subtle and quiet, to the expressive and passionate.

I love it when a man can be fully present with me, and take the time to understand me.

I love to be met by an equal. I love it when man let's me see the secret sides of him, and understand him in the ways that completely open up both of our worlds.

Because it's a crazy beautiful broken world, I love to be protected and protect back.

I delight in a man's differences, and am not ashamed to acknowledge that of course women need men, we all need each other.

Need isn't a dirty word in my book, it's an honest understanding of how nature made us.

I delight in the excitement of opening to a man through my feminine, a dynamic dance of strength and delicious surrender.

Honest men of deep character who are deeply motivated to authentically care for and protect others AND themselves are my favorite.

A man who is committed to being trustable AND in touch with his beast melts me.

I don't need perfect, or performance (and certainly can't offer them). Presence, openness, and willingness are the qualities I seek.

Men who are involved in men's work, sincere spiritual practice, healthy relationship and sexuality awareness, and love nature, are kindred to me.
What I’m doing with my life
I've been a therapist for nearly 20 years. My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of interpersonal alchemy, transforming shadow into gold. I savor the downs as much as the ups, because there's life, truth, and wisdom there too.

I'm passionate about helping people experience their birthrights of trust, love, and pleasure, and I'm walking the brave and tender path of learning too.

It gives me great satisfaction to help people get present, sense their animal bodies, feel honestly, and live from a deeply sourced place.

It gives me even deeper satisfaction to be with a man who is walking the path with me, a man who takes the risks to lay his ego down, and relate to me with revealed honesty. That's where the most irresistible qualities arise, in my eyes.

There's so much about man woman relating that opens to the mystery, yet I know for sure that the ability to relate in trustworthy ways lights me up...and from the right man, it takes me farther than I could ever go by myself. I wanna go there.
I’m really good at
Bold, fresh, feminine insights.

Depth of perception.

Once I know and trust a person, a surrendered joyful girly innocence.

Typologies are like maps, not the actual territory, but helpful. I'm an ENFP in the Jungian based myers-briggs:
The first things people usually notice about me
I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this sparkling way of relating. You're truly connected, responsive, and expressive. You have a quick dynamic intellect and put ideas together in brilliant new ways. You're truly living what you're talking about."

Honored :-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
These days any books that offer liberating insights into our animal natures, and the many ways that we are made to bring out the best in each other.

I eat words for breakfast, lunch, and dinner :-)
I have a tremendous appetite for learning, and opening up to new understanding.

I love music! From the pleasures of r&b and hip hop, to the soulful perceptiveness of India Arie's "Back to the Middle", "Talk to Her", and "Beautiful" to Josh Garrels prophetic poetic album "Love and War and the Sea in Between".

I'm also crazy for dance. I can do it for hours, dancing on my own, with a partner, or for a man who loves to watch ;-)

An eco flexitarian, I eat like a bonobo most of the time; local, organic, lots of plants, and a little bit of ethical animal. I've got a hedonist side too, and delight in creating lucious and healthy food.

Cooking together, cooking for each other, adventuring out to foods that nourish the body, yum. Connected conversation over food makes everything taste better :-)
The six things I could never do without
Hmm...there aren't any Things I couldn't do without.
There are ways of Being that I couldn't do without...

Truth and laughter!
Intellectually stimulating conversation
Wisdom, in all of it's sacred and profane forms
Love and sex positivity swirled together
Music and dancing
Adventures in the wild
Art of all kinds, from everyday raw beauty, to eclectic fine art.
Deep insights that emerge from surfing sorrow and joy, and discovering the grace in the grit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to live a fully turned on life with an awake, free, and open heart.

Taboos, which one's to honor, and which one's to break...
for pleasure, love, and healing, otherwise known as f r e e d o m.

How to create an amazing life at home, so that I don't need to escape to experience freedom, joy, and awe.

With that said, I'd love a partner in crime in adventuring in the world, and in our worlds together.

I've traveled to some beautiful places, inner and outer, and am ripe for so much more.

🐠 Snorkeling off of a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish.
🌟 Floating in a glowing bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above, like floating in the cosmos.
💦 Plunging into crystal alpine lakes, ringed by white smooth granite boulders.
🐚 Soaking in a local beach hot spring with hundreds of glowing lime green and purple sea anemones blooming on the towering rocks.
🌵 Hiking the wild calm of the canyons of the west. Coral hued hoodoos, etched in vertical lace, rising to meet the boundless blue sky. Massive whimsical stone, arched in sensuous defiance of gravity. A sanctuary in the desert expanse.

Other things I think about while navigating this crazy modern world...

How can we "be the change" and live sustainable pleasure, in ways that contribute to a beneficial relationship to each other and nature. We ARE nature after all. I'd love to meet a man who is inspired to walk a healing path, and a green path.

You value wisdom in it's reverent and irreverent forms. You're doing work that you feel meant to do; it contributes to people, and supports you back. You're on a wise path, with strength and heart.
On a typical Friday night I am
Dancing my booty off, OMing (Orgasmic Meditation), yoga, dropping into sacred time through shabbat, reading something riveting, talking about Jungian psychology with a dear friend, fantasizing and getting ready for my next adventure in the beautiful wild...going on a date with you?

One at a time tho... ;-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I connect with the divine on most days.
This brings me back into alignment with true north time and again.

Jewish, embodied mindfulness, feminine wisdom, and earth based spirituality feel like home.

*Raw fresh vanilla* and *conscious kink* (safe, sober, consensual, and healing for both people) are my favorite flavors. I'm a confident feminine feminist in my everyday, and I love to surrender in the bedroom in ways that set both people free. Men who have a trustable loving dominant side, take pleasure in strong women who can reveal their vulnerability, and are willing to risk being seen and felt, ring my bell.
For the right man I'd delight in singing the song..."You can ring my bell, ring my bell."

*Monogamish* is the relationship form that excites me the most. It balances my desire for depth, rock solid trust, and for adventuring together.

I don't believe the myth that a long term relationship leads to sexual boredom. Honesty, keeping our fingers on the pulse of desire, taking emotional risks together, adventuring, this creates more juice and opens up more possibilities than we often dare to hope. Learning how to let ourselves have what we want is the biggest challenge as far as I can see. It's my growing edge too, and I'd love a partner on the journey.

I want a partnership in which we hold each other, in the ways that feel right to each of us, when we fall into the illusion that we have to do it all alone.

I want a partnership in which we see through our fancy minds, to true needs, and meet with curiosity and presence there.

I want to become more of who I'm meant to be...and help my partner become more of who he is meant to be.

I heard recently that true freedom is being loved well, and that resonated as 100% true. I want that.
You should message me if
You resonate. You feel inspired to talk. You sense that something is possible with me, and want to discover more. You want a smart empowered woman who surrenders from a place of genuine trust. You're the kind of guy who would do whatever it takes to create an amazing relationship. You willing to take the time to get to know me for real.