SapphireLioness
44 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
Lover of life...
I love comfort and freedom, being and exploring.

I value the full range of life from the subtle and quiet, to the passionate.

I love it when a man can be present, and take the time to understand me and himself.

I delight in being met by an equal. When a man let's me see the secret sides of him, that can completely open up both of our worlds.

Because it's a crazy beautiful broken world, I love to be protected and protect back.

I revel in a man's differences, and am not ashamed that of course women need men, we all need each other.

Need isn't a dirty word in my book, it's an understanding of how nature made us.

There is nothing more exciting to me than opening to a man through my feminine, and feeling safe to surrender.

Honest men of deep character who are motivated to care for and protect others AND themselves are my favorite.

A man who is committed to being trustable AND in touch with his beast melts me.

I don't need perfect, or performance (and I certainly can't offer them). Presence, openness, and willingness are the qualities I seek.

I most often resonate with men who are involved in some form of men's work/ psychological/spiritual or social change work.
What I’m doing with my life
I've been a therapist for nearly 20 years. My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of alchemy, transforming shadow into gold. I am as intrigued by the downs as much as the ups, because there's life, truth, and wisdom there too. I've been doing the work for so long that I feel free to be playful and creative in how I go about it. It's become increasingly light and joyful for me.

I'm passionate about helping people experience trust, love, and pleasure, and I'm walking the path too.

It gives me great satisfaction to help people live from a deeply sourced place, in ways that create happiness.
I’m really good at
Bold, fresh, feminine insights.

Depth of perception.

Once I know and trust a person, a surrendered joyful girly innocence.

Typologies are like maps, not the actual territory, but helpful. I'm an ENFP in the Jungian based myers-briggs:
http://www.16personalities.com/enfp-
The first things people usually notice about me
I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this sparkling way of relating. You're truly connected, responsive, and expressive. You have a quick dynamic intellect and put ideas together in brilliant new ways. You're truly living what you're talking about."

Honored :-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
These days any books that offer liberating insights into our animal natures, and the many ways that we are made to bring out the best in each other.

I eat words for breakfast, lunch, and dinner :-)
I have an appetite for learning, and opening up to new understanding.

I love music! From the pleasures of r&b and hip hop, to the soulful perceptiveness of India Arie's "Back to the Middle", "Talk to Her", and "Beautiful" to Josh Garrels prophetic poetic album "Love and War and the Sea in Between".

I love dance, on my own, with a partner, or for a man who loves to watch ;-)

I eat mostly local, organic, lots of plants, and a little bit of ethical animal. I've got a hedonist side too, and enjoy doing it in a healthy way.

Cooking together, cooking for each other, adventuring out to foods that nourish the body, yum. Connected conversation over food makes everything taste better :-)
The six things I could never do without
Hmm...there aren't any Things I couldn't do without.
There are ways of Being that I couldn't do without...

Truth and laughter!
Intellectually stimulating conversation
Wisdom, in all of it's sacred and profane forms
Love and sex positivity swirled together
Music and dancing
Adventures in the wild
Art of all kinds, from everyday raw beauty, to fine art.
Deep insights that emerge from surfing sorrow and joy, and discovering the grace in the grit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to live a fulfilling life with an awake, free, and open heart.

Taboos, which one's to honor, and which one's to break.

How to create an amazing life at home.

With that said, I'd love a partner in crime in adventuring in the world.

I've traveled to some beautiful places, inner and outer, and am ripe for more.

🐠 Snorkeling off of a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish.
🌟 Floating in a glowing bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above, like floating in the cosmos.
💦 Plunging into crystal alpine lakes, ringed by white smooth granite boulders.
🐚 Soaking in a local beach hot spring with hundreds of glowing lime green and purple sea anemones blooming on the towering rocks.
🌵 Hiking the wild calm of the canyons of the west. Coral hued hoodoos, etched in vertical lace, rising to meet the boundless blue sky. Massive whimsical stone, arched in sensuous defiance of gravity. A sanctuary in the desert expanse.

Other things I think about while navigating this crazy modern world...

How can we "be the change" and live sustainable pleasure, in ways that contribute to a beneficial relationship to each other and nature. We ARE nature after all. I'd love to meet a man who is inspired to walk a healing path, and a green path.

You value wisdom in it's reverent and irreverent forms. You're doing work that you feel meant to do; it contributes to people, and supports you back. You're on a wise path, with strength and heart.
On a typical Friday night I am
Chilling out and having dinner with a friend and playing with my new puppy. Or going out on a date...

One at a time tho... ;-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Jewish, mindfulness, feminine wisdom, earth based spirituality, and the liberating roots of christianity, these all feel like home.

*Raw fresh vanilla* and *conscious kink* (emotionally safe, sober, consensual, and healing for both people) are my favorite flavors. I'm a confident feminine feminist in my everyday, and I love to surrender in the bedroom in ways that set both people free. Men who have a trustable loving dominant side, take pleasure in strong women who can reveal their vulnerability, ring my bell.

I don't believe the myth that a long term relationship leads to sexual boredom. Honesty, keeping our fingers on the pulse of desire, taking emotional risks together, adventuring, this opens up more possibilities than we often dare to hope. Learning how to let ourselves have what we want is the biggest challenge as far as I can see. It's my growing edge.

I want a partnership in which we help each other climb out of the illusion that we have to do it all alone.

I want a partnership in which we see through our fancy minds, to true needs, and meet there.

I heard recently that true freedom is being loved well, and that resonated as 100% true. I want that.
You should message me if
You sense that something is possible with me, and want to discover more. You're the kind of guy who would do whatever it takes to create an amazing relationship. You willing to take the time to get to know me for real.
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