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My self-summary
For starters, I work full time, own a business, and im in an open relationship. So let's get to know each other and find some fun to get into when we are free! My profile is both superfluously dense and filled with information that will either make you hate me or love me... So I will abbreviate it for you real quick in the form of a half serious and poorly crafted resume'...

Name: Michael

Occupation: Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Instructor

-Martial Arts (BJJ, Judo, Muay Thai)
- Dancing (Any, seriously)
-Brainy, sciency subjects (Philosophy, Psychology, Physics, etc...)
- Ethical Non-Monogamy (I have no interest in BS, or hurting people's feelings).
- Radical Honesty (With tact and concern for others of course).
-Kink (If you want to know, ask :-)
-Connection; Be yourself, be honest, and don't expect or assume
-Travel: all over the west coast, but I just got back from Rio De Janeiro in March...Carnival, beaches, culture...I am going back.

With all that said, if you'd like to know more, read on!

I was born in SF and raised playing Baseball, Skateboarding all over the city, and rebelling against a parent that was so permissive she didn't notice.

Went through a chubby phase until I grew a foot in 9th grade, thankfully I have had pretty smooth sailing since.

In college I studied Philosophy and worked as a sex positive safer sex educator.

I have been training in Judo (Black belt), Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (Brown belt), and Muay Thai Kickboxing for almost a decade. I own a Mixed Martial Arts Academy.

Romantically/Sexually I am happy to share my story but rather than try to explain the complexities of my personal life in my profile, let's just say that I don't expect or desire to be the only person you see and you won't be that for me either, but I expect and I'm all about respect, fun, honesty, and connection.
What I’m doing with my life
-I spend 40+ hours a week teaching, training, or competing in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

-Slowly learning Brazilian Portuguese and Japanese (hook it up, even if you are as bad as me, it will be fun)

-Making my partner look good while dancing to anything. Challenges are being accepted.

-Podcasts: JRE, DTFH, Radio Lab, The Savage Lovecast, Hardcore History, Skeptic Tank, Serial, Mating Grounds, Tangentially speaking, The church of what's happening now.

-Staying up to date on wierd facts about sexuality and evolutionary psychology; I'm always talking about something that either makes people want to tar and feather me or join my conversation.
I’m really good at
-Being radically, unabashedly, wildly honest.

-Expressing my feelings and taking responsibility for them.

-Finding the worst possible thing to say, realizing it is terrible, then saying it anyways in a tone that shucks all personal responsibility.

-Conversation...I can wax poetic about anything, but I have two ears and only one mouth so...

-Flirting, building intimacy, sexual exploration...I know modesty is a virtue, but so is honesty; That being said, I may be terrible at it with you, I have no idea what you are in to, and thinking I necessarily know what you want better than you do is as asinine as you saying the same about me. It sure is awesome that we can communicate, laugh, and discover each other's interests without pressure, or expectations right?


English A+

Japanese C- (Two years of Japanese × Six years of no one speaks Japanese = Wakarimasen)

Portuguese D+ (Falo português como uma criança bêbada.)
The first things people usually notice about me
#1. That guy kind of looks like a Who from Whoville.

#2. "Wait, what the fuck did he just say?"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books:

Mating in Captivity
The Hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy (Life the universe and everything)
Sex at Dawn
Radical honesty
The complete works of Plato
Anything by Alan Watts
The Aldous Huxley Collection
Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance
The Ethical Slut
Why Women Have Sex
Animal Farm
The Mating Mind
Why is the penis shaped like that?
The Lathe of Heaven by Ursula K. Leguin.
Black Elk Speaks
The Lucifer Effect
Obedience to authority

A midsummer night's dream
Still haven't seen the book of mormon 😭

Old Eddie Murphy
Youth without youth
All of Trey Parker and Matt Stone's work.
Marriage 2.0

Game of thrones
Boardwalk empire
Masters of sex
Black sails
Its always sunny in Philadelphia

The ones who walk away from Omelas

Musical Artists?

N.E.R.D, Ray Charles, The Beatles, Led Zepplin, jimmi Hendrix, Pink Floyd, Lynyrd Skynyrd, Marvin Gaye, Otis Redding, Sam Cooke, Cab Calloway, Mos Def, Talib Kweli, Red man, Method man, Wu-Tang Clan, Black Sabbath, Jill Scott, Simon and Garfunkel, ELO, Aretha Franklin, Etta James, Billie holiday, Charlie Parker, Ravi Shankar, Miles Davis, Green Day, Bill Withers, Big L, Notorious BIG, Tupac Shakur, Willie Nelson, Snoop Dogg, MGMT, Crosby Stills Nash & Young, Honey Honey, Thievery Corporation, Charice Pempenco, The Tempatations, Michael Jackson & the Jackson 5, Lake Street Dive, Fetty get the point.

Video Games: A good audiobook, some dabs, and an RPG always works for me when I need a break.

Elder scrolls series
Civilization series
Mass Effect series
Fallout series
1st person shooters (COD, Battlefront, etc)
Six things I could never do without
1. Jiu-Jitsu.
2. Ridiculously irrelevant life changing philosophical debates.
3. Dancing (Swing dancing is a specialty of mine).
4. Stand-up Comedy.
5. Healthy food.
6. Cuss words or my car....not sure which of the two I use more.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to best extinguish the fears and misconceptions around Ethical Non-Monogamy, and being a 6'1, 200 lbs, white guy who teaches martial arts, and uses his privilege to talk about things that make most people uncomfortable.

How Prince charming is unrealistic, quite sexist, and probably couldn't think, charm, or fuck his way out of a rotting pumpkin after midnight.

How much I despise the word,"inappropriate".

How being a sex-negative Feminist is similar to being a preachy vegan who kicks their dog and tips cows on the weekend.

Demisexuality...Im pretty close to it at this point.
On a typical Friday night I am
A cozy night in, dancing, dining out, drinks, movies, a burlesque show, watching stand-up comedy, local live music, etc...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I look waaaay more vanilla than I am. Consentual, judgement free, exploration of mutual fantasies is what seperates us from boring people.
You should message me if
You can explain to me the difference between a, "Fuckboy", and a, "Slut". Or talk me out of the expectation that there will be Fuckboy walks to end Fuckboy shaming in the next 20 years.

Just do it, I guarantee that meeting me will be easier, less complicated, and more fun than you might overthink it to be. If we hit it off, we could have a great time. If we don't hit it off about a million unicorns could die, but that's a risk I am willing to take!
The two of us