I'm not exclusively looking for a partner right now. I'm not opposed to the idea, but feel that it is much more important to take time to become good friends before considering a relationship. I care about a lot of people who are wonderful to spend time with but simply are not prepared for a mature relationship. I am not preoccupied with chasing sex. Don't believe me, and I cannot prove to you something you don't believe in yourself. There are more unique and interesting goals to attain, despite the opinions I hear from other men. If you are a good person, I am interested in finding a weekend square and contra dance partner, or someone who would like to take waltz or salsa classes together. Or perhaps a fisher who would cast from the bow of the canoe I'm paddling. ...A musician or an artist to practice with, or someone to accompany to a play or symphony, or try out a new local restaurant and beer. I have many skills yet to learn and many avenues yet to explore, and hope to always be able to share the things I love with others, and hope they will share the things they love with me.
Long term, if you are interested in a relationship, you must be a strong woman. You must treat yourself with respect and be well rounded. You don't have to maintain an immaculately clean house, but you have to be the type of person who takes initiative to feel good within your own space. You don't have to know how to fix your car, but you can't be afraid to get a little dirt under your nails. You must have some sort of faith in the people of this world, despite how many times you may have been knocked down. You cannot be rescued from one destructive relationship just to jump into another. We have all been hurt by caring for someone who does not care enough about themselves, but you cannot save someone from themselves.
I enjoy the rewards of building with fresh cut lumber and nails, but I also swing a dictionary as freely as a hammer. As often as I find myself looking to see how something is constructed, I've got my head in the book to make sure I spelled all the parts correctly. I'm still a touch unsure about a bit of grammar I used above, but I can't truly value language rules without smashing them once in a while just for fun. I proudly call myself a word-nerd because I revel in the phonetics and use of our rarer bits of language.
I don't keep a lot of things. Some of my friends have called me a minimalist. I buy what I need and spend my time doing the things I find truly enjoyable and rewarding, like practicing new skills and spending time with people.
I wonder if, "What I'm doing with my life" is a directional question like, "Where do you see yourself in ten years?" If so, I'm not giving the right kind of an answer at all. Really, I smile when I think about that. Time makes for so many moments and opportunities, and wherever I am, I'll be happy. There are so many things in this world to experience, and though I'll never try them all, I don't plan on missing out either.
I go to bluegrass shows in town like the Music on the Lawn and Bynum Front Porch. I listen to someone in every genre of music from electric guitars to the washboard, melodies to maelstrom. This month at the library I found a wonderfully upbeat album from Q-tip and saw a light acoustic guitar duet at a festival and danced until my feet hurt. I like movies that can make me cry. And no, I don't ever sob, just a well placed tear at the right moments.
If life is an adventure, and you want to go do a square dance, contra dance, banjo picking, rock jumping, or just in general know how to have fun.
If you climb. Mountains, rocks, trees, etc.
If you expect something special from people because you see the beauty they carry inside. If you communicate your feelings.