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My self-summary
I'm a mensch. I look like a mensch, I talk like a mensch, and, most importantly, I act like a mensch. What is a mensch? In my opinion, a mensch is a stand-up guy who does the right thing, even when -- no, especially when -- it's difficult. He doesn't act this way out of vanity or for glory. He does it because that's who he is. If you ask me, every woman should want to be with a mensch. Not so. Trouble is that a lot of us mensches look like mensches. Mensches don't tend to look like Cary Grant (not that Cary Grant never played a mensch). They usually look like, well, me. But then, in a pinch, who do you want in your corner? Someone you can count on or John Edwards?

More about me: I'm very funny, smart and verbal. And modest. Really. Like Larry David, but nice (if that's possible.) I am kind and considerate and perceptive. And very dry and irreverent. I have three independent and brilliant kids, all out of college or in grad school. I was a newspaperman for most of my career until newspapers started dying. After leaving the Baltimore Sun, I co-wrote scripts for a couple years for a David Simon mini-series on the assassination of Abraham Lincoln. Now I'm a reporter for a web-site run by the Pew Chariable Trusts. I love conversation and debate. I'm very curious about people. I love movies -- especially "independent" ones -- plays and music. I can't be without a book (I hate to pick a number one, but Catch-22 and the Farewell to Arms are way up there.) I read The Times and The New Yorker, and -- my guilty pleasure-- Entertainment Weekly. I like restaurants, but not fancy ones. I don't much like bars because you can't hear conversation. That's why I like cafes. I prefer ethnic foods. I used to run everyday, but after injuries, switched to a Nordic Track. I grew up in Maine, which I hated then and love now. Even so, I have the sensibilities of a New Yorker. I love the bustle of the city, the diversity, the characters, the subways. I'm not exactly outgoing but I'm also not introverted. I love travelling and so much want someone to go with. I like the winter a whole lot more than the summer, but I'm game for anything outdoors. I love being around opinionated, confident people who like to bat around ideas and views. I am an odd combination of cynical and soft-hearted. I am not in the least fragile and take great pleasure in laughing at myself. I enjoy repartee, mixing it up. I hate cliche and platitudes and treacle. I also hate ignorance, racism, homophobia. My idealized view of the perfect woman? Terry Gross and Emmylou Harris.
I'm looking for someone who is warm, kind-hearted, loyal, forthright, opinionated, sexy, brave, and confident with an abundance of humor and sense of fun. I want someone who can be herself while also being with someone else, who can give wholeheartedly but receive wholeheartedly too. Someone who reads incessantly and has strong opinions but always is open to discussion. Someone eager to be a lover but also a devoted companion and who wants the same in return. Someone fierce and gentle, tough but gentle-hearted, loving but strong. I'll say it. I still hope to find the love of my life.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a lifelong journalist. Right now I cover health policy, but for most of my career, I specialized in narrative story-telling. I raised three smart, funny, kind kids. Now, I'd love to devote at least some of the time to traveling the world. With a companion if possible.
I’m really good at
Entertaining, surprising conversation. I write well. I'm an excellent critic of popular entertainment and politics. I could touch-type even before there were computers. And, I'm no slouch at changing tires.
The first things people usually notice about me
My sparkling repartee. That and fingerprints on my glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite authors and books: Dickens, Austen, Philip Roth, Ian McEwan, Catch-22, His Dark Materials.
Movies: Doctor Zhivago, On the Waterfront, Coen Brothers, Woody, Mel, Cary Grant, Jimmy Stewart, Carole Lombard, Marx Brothers.
Music: Emmylou Harris, Springsteen, Gillian Welch, Low Anthem, Beyonce, Paul Simon, Sinatra, Gershwins, The Band.
Love all ethnic food. Spicy.
Six things I could never do without
Books, my iPod, a warm coat, love, family, friends, memories, my poorly trained but loving Springer Spaniel.
I didn't say water, but that's assumed, right?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Fantasizing about a wonderful woman falling in love with me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching a movie at home to unwind.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Beneath a tough, cynical exterior beats the heart of a romantic. This should be shared with no one.
You should message me if
You are smart, confident, sexy, opinionated, adventurous. If you love witty conversation. If you are open to falling in love. If you can see the beauty beyond a balding head. If you like to hold hands. If you want someone you can share your exciting tales with and want to hear his too.
The two of us