I grew up in CT, moved to Boston for school, and came to NYC for even more school and to be closer to family. Now I've graduated law school and am starting a career as a lawyer working for the government in D.C.
I'm a nerd for the kind of useless information that makes me the best partner for pub trivia. It's probably because my grandmother watched Jeopardy whenever she babysat my sister and me.
Did you ever watch Doug growing up? It's surprising how often I have daydreams like he did based on whatever is going on around me.
I'm on this site because I don't like the idea of meeting people in bars or clubs. It's a great place to spend with friends or meet for a first date, but trying to pick someone up in one? No.
I'm looking for my best friend: someone who has a few interests in common with me so we can make that initial connection, but with some un-shared interests too so we can learn to do new things together and grow as people.
I had a few extra-curriculars back in law school. I used to run its a cappella group as well as its musical theater show. Which means that after a few dates, I will sing.
Also I love to make jokes and just generally be silly. But fair warning: my sense of humor has a very "Chandler" quality to it.
I have a strange skill in which I can turn almost anything someone says into a song cue. Which also means I might respond to something you say with an obscure movie quote. The results will surprise you.
And while it's not the first thing people notice, I have a Harry Potter-esque lightning bolt mark on one of my front teeth. Make of that what you will.
Movies: I love old movies, and by that I mean stuff made before 1960. I like mysteries (Laura), screwball comedies (Bringing Up Baby), and some of the interesting stuff that falls in-between (The Thin Man). One of my all-time favorites is Cinema Paradiso, an excellent, romantic movie. That and Rob Reiner's Sleepless in Seattle and When Harry Met Sally. I'm also a huge James Bond nerd. And I love the cult classics Clue and The Rocky Horror Picture Show.
Shows: I don't watch that much TV anymore, but there is a list of shows I want to watch when I find the time. Awhile ago I was on a kick watching old episodes of SNL (70s/80s). But the classic go-to is Friends. I have been getting into some shows on YouTube channels too. But my favorite show is I Love Lucy, whenever I visit my parents, my mom and I will watch Lucy in the morning and race to guess which episode is playing based on the opening...we've seen every episode so many times, our game never lasts more than a few seconds!
Music: I'm pretty open in terms of my taste in music. Anything that makes a good karaoke song is good for me. But at any given time I have an obsession song, which I will happily listen to 100 times on repeat until I find the next song.
Food: I was a picky eater as a kid, and now I'm making up for lost time by trying just about everything that's out there, including liver and onions. But my comfort food favorites are Caribbean/Cuban and Chinese takeout.
My collection of recipes
A good book or movie to curl up to
I also wonder what part of the city to explore next. DC seems to have an unlimited supply of hidden gems: shops, cafes, places to eat, places to people-watch, and other places that don't fit a category. It's like the Internet, if you can imagine it, for better or worse, it exists somewhere in the Beltway.
Ok fine, here's a real response. I love taking friends to see the Rocky Horror Picture Show with audience participation. Sometimes I dress up, and while I might not have all the call-outs memorized, I time warp like nobody's business.
You'll notice the relatively large age range I've listed. I've met so many women nearer me in age, with whom I could not relate. And I've met older women with whom I could talk for hours, and who's company felt just right. I want an emotional connection; someone at a maturity level compatible with mine. That transcends age, and I'm not going to limit myself based on a social assumption of what a proper age range would be. That said I don't feel comfortable venturing too far in the other direction, sorry 18-early 20s year olds.
I'm happy to get to know you before we meet so we can figure out what we have in common and if there's a connection, I usually wait 2 or 3 messages before asking to meet anyway (helps to get a better sense of the person before meeting in person, and do I have a story about that).
Finally, I'm not averse to a casual relationship if that seems to fit the situation: if at that time, one or both of us is not in a place to enter a relationship right away. However the terms of that would need to be clear from the beginning: I once fell for a woman I saw casually because I thought a relationship might be possible and she wasn't in that place (the blame there falls on me for not being honest with her about my feelings). That hurts, I don't want to do that to you, and I don't want you to do it to me, so communication is paramount.
I don't list "casual sex" on my preferences because there is a difference between random sex and having a lover with whom you can develop a special intimacy without other obligations. My worst sexual experiences were those that had no meaning, no tenderness behind them. Even if we aren't dating and a relationship does not develop, I would want a tenderness to exist that would make sex feel intimate. And I would worry that including "casual sex" in my preferences would send the wrong message.
That was a lot to say, but the best way to attract the kind of woman you want is to first be clear about who you are.
Think you can take me? Let's dance!