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My self-summary
I love connections. I particularly love connections with amazing people. I most particularly love those connections when they fit the long game- however they arise or appear.

I'm a musician, teacher, performer and lots of other things that don't really end in "er".

I don't know if we're the sum of our experiences, but as I look back at various jobs and roles I've had, it's been really interesting. Among other things, I've been:

- A Domino's Pizza delivery driver
- An orchestral flutist
- Library assistant
- A paper delivery girl
- A server
- A roller coaster operator
- Keyboard player in an Afro-pop band
- Girl Scout leader
- Horse barn manager and riding instructor
- A church soloist
- A facilitator in anti-oppression trainings
- An opera conductor
- An opera singer
- A marching band drill instructor
- A wedding singer
- A marine mammal educator at Seaworld
- A visiting lecturer at a University
- A special needs teacher
- A photographer

And back to something closer to the present....

Eight years ago, I left my home and career back in Boston in the States to live and study here in London. I finished my master's degree in music theatre and have been paying my rent in all sorts of interesting ways. When I'm not working (work is hella interesting though), I'm outside, playing frisbee (though not as much since I've arrived in London), walking around London, or thinking up practical jokes to play on people. I also love traveling and prefer a backpack to a suitcase and hostels to hotels. Though maybe I should grow up a bit, I don't know.

Contributing to the well being of the world is important to me. Doing, making and creating art and things that are meaningful and benefit others is important to me. Shaking up the status quo is important too, whether it's shaking it up in my own life, or how I see things.

I aspire to be worthy of giving a TED talk, though I'm not sure I would take them up if they offered.

I'm pretty liberal too.

I am wondering, wandering, and looking that way.
What I’m doing with my life
Carving it out with a blunt edged sword.

Changing my hair.

Exploring and diving deep with my partner, Sapiotone, who has deeply enriched my life and continually amazes me with his wisdom and passion.

You know that Edward Monkton drawing of life with the wrinkled up line all piled up and the the guy next to it looking rather confused? That's a good description of what I'm doing with my life...but not in a bad way, just in a human way.

I moved here from the US over eight years ago to do my master's and not really having any plans after that, I just kind of stuck around.

Now, I'm piecing together a life that includes queer cabaret performing, teaching kids with autism, working in theatre- both on stage and off-stage, working in creative multidisciplinary arts projects with disabled kids, directing a community choir, running inclusive sex education workshops for youth and adults, organising kink events and various other random things that catch my interest.

Other than that, getting out, hanging out and exploring all sorts of things in life- physical, mental and emotional......
I’m really good at
Most things involved with music, playing the flute, hearing songs and playing them back or writing them down, singing, massage (seriously, international acclaim), sensual things, getting groups of kids to do what I want, facilitating groups of people and getting them to be enthusiastic about things, riding horses, hearts, some selected video games, listening to people and understanding what they're going through.

Also, I recently found out that I'm really good at teaching severely autistic teens. Dunno what that says about me though...
The first things people usually notice about me
Umm...I'd love to say my bright eyes or glowing smile, but I think it's my moppy hair at this point.

Also, I've been told that this profile makes me seem much more serious than I actually am in real life.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
All of these are constantly in flux:

a. Anything by Tom Robbins, Noam Chomsky, Neil Gaiman, Tolkein. I really liked The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime, and live by Kenny Werner's Effortless Mastery. I've recently rekindled my love of Carl Sagan. His writings just make me fall in love with the world, the universe and all the crazy people in it all over again. He was a scientist with the soul of an artist and a poet.

b. Donnie Darko, American Beauty, Spirited Away, O Brother Where Art Thou, To Kill a Mockingbird, Harvey, Lost in Translation (for the atmosphere) and many more that I can't think of at the moment. I do love Doctor Who as well. David Attenborough's Planet Earth will literally make my heart beat faster when I watch it and watching Carl Sagan's "Cosmos" series as a kid shaped a lot of how I see the world. I'm not really one who judges people based upon what they like and don't like, but I will say that if you loved "Dancer in the Dark" we will have words. That movie was so bad on so many levels that I will vehemently tell you what I think about it and why :)

c. My musical taste is weird and eclectic, but probably not obscure enough to be cool. Since I've worked as a musician in most genres (except death metal- but give me a year or two), most of the music I listen to is an act of intentionality.

d. Bubble Tea!!
Six things I could never do without

I've just had a bit of a think about this one. I used to have a list up here with stuff, and things, but I've been realizing that there are a lot of things that I've managed to do without just fine. This was recently reinforced by the fact that a couple of years ago, my flat was broken into, ransacked and I was robbed of all of my most valued possessions and I still haven't been able to replace them. Also, I got to spend most of last year homeless and couch surfing (now happily settled). While much of this wasn't ideal or thriving for me, I still managed to get by without a lot, and it's a good feeling to know that.

Except for friends, family, and my sense of self. Those were the only things that remained constant in one way or another. So I'll just have to add three more random things to make it a list of six.


the little rubber knobs on the bottom of my phone

poems on the Underground
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to live my life ethically and well.


Lonely old people.

My community and my Community, how to build them and how to tell the difference between them.

What other people's lives must be like and what their stories are.

The rapid privatization of water and it's consequences.

Whether or not Fair Trade is worth the tacit permission it gives to liberal westerners to still over-consume our share of resources by getting us to feel less guilty about it.

How (or even if) I'm going to pay for a PhD.

Privilege in it's many forms, how it affects and limits people and how to dismantle it. (mine included)

Why most of the people on here are white.

What I'm going to do next with my life.

Pondering romantic partnerships and how they'll fit into my life and change me.

Marveling at how amazingly wonderful it can be in all it's messy, gooey, beautiful glory...
On a typical Friday night I am
There's so much more to people and their lives than whatever activity they happen to be engaged in one night in a week, don't you think?

You would get no useful or meaningful information about me from the answer to this question.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
These aren't private things, but rather things that may not be so apparent on first examination:

I was arrested for being stupid once.

I'm really afraid of robots. No really, they seriously freak me out. There is a story of childhood trauma around this involving an animatronic singing animal and how it all went terribly wrong at a birthday party.

Certain episodes of Pingu will bring a tear to my eye.

Oh yeah,and despite my rather atheistic leanings, Kurt Vonnegut talked me into going to church and I still go.

I'm probably a bit more genderqueer than I appear.
You should message me if

(if you can include your eyes when you smile)

At this point, I am happily committed to exploring and growing my relationship with my partner, and there are some people in my life who are very important to me and defy labels but enrich my life none the less. I welcome new connections, but remain committed to my current connections and will happily explore how others can fit with my current commitments and love. I don't really do casual relationships.

If you would like to ride roller coasters with me. The scarier the better...(I mean the coasters...unless you're talking about the "It's a Small World" ride at Disney...that's just too scary for me)

Or if you can teach me poi...I really really really want to learn that this summer!

If you happen to be Louis Theroux, then please message me! You rock!

(and while I'm not a fan of negatives, I feel the need to leave just this little note: I'm not really going to be impressed by your money. I mean, if you make lots of it and drive a fancy car or something, I'll do my best not to hold it against you because who am I to judge? But at the same time, it'll probably be something I'll have to get past because it could just indicate that the things that are important to you are rather different from the things that are important to me.)
The two of us