SexyNerdIndeed
30 San Jose, United States
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My self-summary
I love the Bay Area, and I would love to end up here one day. That said, I'm not in a place in my life to have ended up anywhere like that yet. There are still places to go and things to do. That said, I still have so much of the Bay to see before I leave, possibly this summer.

I consider myself an egalitarian. I believe everyone deserves the same consideration and rights regardless of sex, gender, race, beliefs, etc. I mislike the terms feminist and men's right advocate because they have both come to be associated with sexism in a way that I am uncomfortable with.

I try to always be compassionate, and consider the other party's point of view before making judgments. I've been told I'm a sweet person, and I value sweetness and compassion very much in other people as well.

I love cats, fencing, reading, and occasionally computer games. Unfortunately, injuries in my twenties have slowed me down a bit with regards to fencing, so I stay active other ways.

I really want to meet someone with whom I can communicate effortlessly and comfortably, ideally, but in the vein of openness and inclusiveness I am open to talking to anyone who has something to say.
What I’m doing with my life
Searching for my perfect career option - I have a promising career in logistics, but I find it unbearably boring. I need more intellectual stimulation in life, and I haven't found it in logistics.
I’m really good at
Making things happen, cooking, letting things go, and adventure. I wish I could bring in an outside consultant for this question, honestly.
The first things people usually notice about me
Apparently my eyes. I've been told by some that I have piercing eyes, others say sultry, and still others say intimidating. I guess it depends on my expression?

Note that I change my appearance fairly regularly, so the hair/facial hair in any given photo isn't likely to reflect my current appearance in those areas.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm a bit of a fantasy and sci-fi nerd, but lately I've been reading more non-fiction. I enjoy reading anything science related, whether it involve Richard Feinman, Stephen Hawking, Carl Sagan, or any of scientists of note. Also, I like readying about eastern philosophy. My all-time favorites are Dune, and The Picture of Dorian Gray. A song of ice and fire isn't bad either. Update: Lately I've been reading a lot of short stories rather than books. I blame the internet for altering my attention span! Really into H.P. Lovecraft and Isaac Asimov.

Movies? I don't watch them too often. I really liked The Man From Earth, I enjoyed the LotR series back in the day, I thought A Clockwork Orange was a pretty good adaptation of the book. Oh, and I identify with the characters in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

As far as music goes, I have a wide variety of favorites. My all-time favorites are Tom Waits, NIN, VNV Nation, Rammstein, Covenant. My current favorite is Phutureprimitive. Can literally never go wrong with some triphop. I also enjoy something electronic I can move to. Variety is the spice of life. Lately Florence and the Machine has been cranking up my feels in a very enjoyable manner.

Food is something I'm passionate about, but not in the way you might expect. I don't care all that much about eating it, I just love to cook. It's like a form of meditation to me. I enjoy inventing new recipes and sometimes just picking some ingredients and outright winging it. Always seems to turn out well.
The six things I could never do without
My computer
Human companionship
A well-stocked kitchen
Cats (or any mammalian friends, really)
Nature
Intense physical activity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life, the universe, and everything. I love thinking about the concepts of physics and science in general.

I try to spend some time every day in a state of self-reflection, taking a mental inventory of my thoughts and feelings.

I spend a lot of time thinking but I tend to be focused on tangible things, not constantly stuck inside my head.
On a typical Friday night I am
Trying to turn a pleasant evening into an epic adventure. (I hear it's cliché, but it wouldn't have gotten there if it wasn't fun)

Attempting to do something atypical.

If all else fails, on reddit.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have PTSD. So there's that. Fun. I don't like to talk about it, and please don't ask me if I've killed anyone.
You should message me if
You enjoy good conversation, need someone to talk to and don't have anyone, want to meet and have some fun, or are just plain curious.

I am unlikely to message anyone first, so if you have any hope of making a connection it's a good idea to say hi or something equivalent. Preferably followed by something interesting or relevant.

Oh, and I've been wanting to try playing D&D so if anyone has a group I can join please let me know. I DM'd a lot back in high school and never got to play. Seems to be a thing people do around here.

It's important that you're at least accepting of polyamory.
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