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My self-summary
DISCLAIMER: I chose my screen name long before that porn fiction book became so famous so please don't contact me asking to be whipped. (It happens). That's at least second-date territory. Sometimes the name you chose to symbolize the infinite possible representations of an individual becomes synonymous with masochism, whoops.

Rather than define and limit myself for easy consumption, feel free to say hey if something in this profile catches your eye.

OK, a few generalities: Midwest-transplant. Musician. Romantic. Endlessly curious. I value quality over quantity, time over money and integrity/kindness over everything. I turn my phone off frequently.

this may help: INFP.
What I’m doing with my life
My last picture is pretty dead on.
I’m really good at
I can tell you where to get the best coffee in at least 100 cities across the country. It's a mild super power, I know, but it definitely comes in handy.
The first things people usually notice about me
If you're an Asian tourist, you most likely mistake me for Conan O'Brien. It's really not that close, but I understand. We all look alike to you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I agree with Duke Ellington when he said there are only two types of music: good and bad. Some of my favorites range from Stevie Wonder, Marvin Gaye, Ravel, Charlie Parker, the Strokes, Kings of Convenience, Prokofiev, Mingus, Jobim and Elis Regina. 50's/60's Sinatra. Amy Winehouse RIP I'm open to anything as long as my ear likes it. Always looking to discover new music. Oh, and I have a slight obsession with records. You know, the real ones.

If I was sure there was a God, I would thank him/her/it/abominable snow monster everyday for the Daily Show and the Colbert Report. Ditto for: Arrested Development, Louie, and Curb Your Enthusiasm. If you know and loved the movie, "Waking Life", what size is your ring finger? R.I.P. Tim Russert.

Groundhog's Day.
Bill F'ing Murray

I'm on a bit of a non-fiction kick right now. Just finished reading "Proust was a Neuroscientist". Currently on "Thinking, Fast and Slow".
I spend a lot of time thinking about
This quote:

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity - "Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived."

Also: the anonymous, de-humanizing, online-catalogue feel to this site often turns my stomach.

As well as: Does the fact that my favorite winter pastime is drinking hot chocolate and watching the ice skaters fall on their asses make me a terrible person? Or just an honest sociologist? (Please don't suggest ice skating as an activity. While I'd actually like to, karma has been waiting for that moment for YEARS)

And: the packs of wild, vicious dogs that control most of America's major cities. Why is no one talking about this?

Is anyone else mourning the end of a brilliant cultural phenomena = Stephen Colbert?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In 7th grade I permed my hair to resemble my favorite WWF wrestler. As if junior high wasn't awkward enough......that's right ladies, brains AND beauty. Hey, you build character through beatings in junior high, right?...Right???
You should message me if
I'm still trying to find the right balance of working hard for the possible future while enjoying life as if it could end tomorrow. I'm looking for someone who keeps life in perspective and has a passion that they pursue. Someone with a curious disposition and a kind heart. Someone who looks around and realizes just how incredibly absurd the world is, then laughs and enjoys it.

Preferably, you don't text at dinner but do always say thank you to the waiter. The ability to say, "That's a good point" in a heated debate is an incredibly rare and wonderful personality trait, not because I want to hear it, but because I can say it. People devoid of humor, personality and curiosity worry me.
Also, if you like dirty, mustachioed hipster guys wearing their little sisters' jeans, I'm not your guy. I'm a creative/artistic person who values individuality, I don't need a trendy uniform to show that. Especially one that cuts off the circulation to my crotch. Let's go ahead and add "crotch" to the list of words best NOT used on a dating profile. Crotch.
The two of us