ShadowoftheCat
44 Roslindale, United States
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My self-summary
***ON HIATUS. Am admitting I do not have time to date anyone but my current local partner/long distance partners.***

Single Mother. Student. Lunatic. Lover. Artist. Mystic. Poet. Scientist. Musician. I finally figured out what I want to do with my life the year I turned 37. It's never too late for that, you know...

With an eight year old daughter, various loves including a pretty serious poly partner, various creative projects and Grad School for intermodal Expressive Therapy at Lesley University, I'm a tad busy. I am sufficiently busy that scheduling is a challenge. But not impossible! If you are looking for a Primary-type relationship, if you are looking for a regular weekly date night.... I am not your gal, well met, good luck out there in the online dating jungle!

I am a strange blend of wacky mystical artist and scientist and smartass. On the science end, I am obsessed with cuttlefish and one day will probably return to school for a PhD in Marine Biology so I can study them. When I'm 65 or so.... my retirement career!

Regarding religion: I am spiritual rather than religious, and influenced by multiple streams, Sufism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Shamanism, Gnostic Christianity. If I had to encapsulate it I guess I am more shamanic than anything, but I do meditate and practice mindfulness as well and have learned quite a bit from reading Thich Na Haan and Pema Chodron. Sufism is well encapsulated by the Sufi poet, Rumi, it's very love based, the symbol I love best from Sufism is the Sufi Winged Heart. Did you know that in the Gospel of Mary Magdalene she was his first Disciple and Partner.... and that she was never a whore? Some nasty pope spread propaganda turning her into a whore and perverted the scriptures much later in the 12th century.... go look it up! Ultimately my thoughts on religion and spirituality can be summarized thusly: I believe that Divinity is itself energy, flow, current which we can connect to directly, but often while incarnate in bodies, we feel more comfortable employing the User Interface of a Religion, a God(dess), Angels, etc. Under the hood I believe that all religions are reaching to the same Source, so I tend to ignore or point and giggle at "One True Way" mentality.

Meier's Briggs:
INFP, but Ambivert, so ENFJ, too.... I switch. Switching is a big thing with me. ;-)

I am feline, labyrinthine, and ridiculous
What I’m doing with my life
Becoming an Expressive Therapist. In grad school for this.

Walking in the woods and visiting the ocean every chance I get.

Singing my heart out. Writing new songs. I bought my first drum in 2013 and I am having fun playing that, too!

Poems. Mixed media art. And quite a bit of activism these days.

Exploring love with an awesome free spirited lad.

Laughing at the antics of my little girl, who is made of much awesome.
I’m really good at
Cooking. Loving. Massage. Healing. Mischief. Pattern Recognition. Creative expression in various forms. Making my loved ones (friends and kid too, not just romantic lovers) feel loved and cherished. Calling you on your shit with love and respect. Being called on my shit with love and respect.
The first things people usually notice about me
The smartass grin? The devil horns? The general aura of whisker quivering mischief? The fact that I'm often singing to myself whether I realize it consciously or not?

I truly do not know. Feel free to enlighten me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books:
Anything by Madeleine L'Engle, "A Winter's Tale" by Mark Helprin, "Pedagogy of the Oppressed" by Paulo Freire, "Art Heals" by Shaun McNiff, the Kushiel books by Carey, Thich Na Haan, "Be Here Now" by Ram Dass, "The Places that Scare Us" by Pema Chodron, the Anita Blake books by Laurell K Hamilton (guilty pleasure), the Sookie books by Charlaine Harris, Skin by Kathe Koja, Snow Crash & the Diamond Age by Neil Stephenson, "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coehlo, various by Michael Crichton, a gazillion other books. If I listed off all the books I love, it would take hours, result in pages and pages of text and still not capture them all, yes, I am a bookworm, books were my first drug of choice.

TV Shows:
Game of Thrones (new season has begun, squee!), Walking Dead, Treme, True Blood, Homeland, Torchwood, Doctor Who, Heroes, Babylon 5, Buffy, Angel, Battlestar Galactica, Caprica (it's dead, sigh), House, Firefly, Smash, Project Runway.

Movies:
Star Wars (original trilogy), Serenity, Amelie, the Prophecy, Poltergeist, ET, Lord of the Rings trilogy, Highlander, Pan's Labyrinth, the Muppet Movie, the Great Muppet Caper, the Matrix, the Princess Bride, Flatliners, Thunderheart, Braveheart, Elizabeth, the Dark Crystal. Requiem for a Dream is fantastic but so twisted and upsetting to watch that I can't quite list it as a fave, know what I mean?

Music:
Techno, Trance, Classical, Musical Theater (esp. Sondheim & William Finn, oh and Wicked!), Evanescence, Sarah McLaughlin, Imogen Heap, Tori Amos, a-ha, Peter Gabriel, Heart, Fleetwood Mac, Marillion, gazillion others.

Food:
This needs its own box, I am a Foody. Olives, artichokes, Feta cheese, good sharp cheddar, salami, Mortadello, banana peppers, indian food, sushi, chinese dumplings, homemade chicken soup, biscuits, tollhouse cookies, Tom Kah Gah soup, pickles, saurkraut, homebrew beer and mead. Good red wine (with occasional dips into good white wine in the Summer), Bombay Sapphire gin.
The six things I could never do without
I can do without a lot of things, for as long as necessary.... but I would prefer not to do with the following: Love (of many different kinds). Delicious food and drink. Books. Artistic expression in many forms (both experiencing it as a witness/audience, and creating it as an artist/writer/singer/performer). Sacred study and practice and community. Sleep.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Healing. Art. Music. Writing. Politics (way too much time). Spirituality. Transhumanism. Tree frogs. Monkeys. Cuttlefish. Bowhead Whales. Narwhals. Cats. My kid. FNORD. Science fiction show plotlines (in particular Walking Dead, Game of Thrones and Doctor Who these days). The intersection between artistic expression and healing. Random weird art installations and pieces I'd like to create, plots of stories/novels I'd like to write... plots of stories I am currently working on, art projects that are in process. FNORD. The Rock Opera I may someday finish writing about the Fall of Atlantis... HEY! Stop snickering, it's going to be EPIC and AWESOME and maybe just a little silly, but you'll love it, it's going to be much better than Cats, you will want to watch it again and again..... :P
On a typical Friday night I am
There is not really a typical Friday night anymore.... sometimes it is enjoying the yodeling and singing and speaking in tongues emerging from my daughter's room and then, once quiet, getting reading done for school and maybe a wee bit of relaxing with TV before bed. Sometimes with childcare arranged, I venture forth to attend the Shenanigans. Sometimes I find my way to a quiet sharing of meditative peace with other like minded souls.... I surrender to the Now as much as I can.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I occasionally inflict "your mama" jokes on my kid. Yes, I expect this will bite me in the ass at some point, no, I can't seem to help myself.

Yes, the user name is a veiled reference to Kitty Pryde from the X-Men. Yes, you get points if you picked up on that before I told you.

I am often not competent to make coffee when un-caffeinated. This conundrum has created many a humorous scene in the AM. Example: Leaving the Dunkie's Iced Caramel in my car and having an epic quest searching for it when it was not on my desk at work. Or loading up the coffee machine with unground beans, or better yet, forgetting the coffee entirely and watching stupidly as I make a pot of hot water. Ooops.
You should message me if
IF YOU CAN WRITE A THOUGHTFUL GREETING MESSAGE LONGER THAN ONE WORD, OR LINE. That shows you ACTUALLY READ MY PROFILE and are responding to the KIND OF HUMAN BEING I AM.... not the fact that my DNA HAS FAVORED ME WITH SOME PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS. Thanks much.

And.....

**You are super chill about scheduling. As mentioned near the top of this storm of words I call a profile, if you are looking for a Primary-type relationship, I am not your girl. If you are looking for a dedicated once a week date night type relationship, I am not your girl. Sorry! I'm sure you are totally awesome! But I am busy. If you are good with seeing each other when schedules align every few week or whatever, OK, we might be able to make this work.... :) **

** You are interested in ethical honest non-monogamy. This bit added because I keep getting pings from folks looking for monogamous commitment. I am not playing the field until I find "the One," I am happily dating multiple people in non-hierarchical polyamorous relationships. I am quite deeply in love with one long distance and one local partner.

** You have deep thoughts that are well balanced by a sense of humor and absurdity.

** If you care intensely about other humans, and the fact that we are destroying this planet and should stop doing so before it's too late!

** If you share my obsession with the neuroscience of cuttlefish.

** If Project Runway is one of your guilty pleasures (OK if you are a shameless fan, too).

** If you like to dissect Torchwood, Doctor Who and/or Battlestar Gallactica.

** If epic combat with lightsabers sounds like pretty hot foreplay to you and/or just good times in general.

** If you can write an introductory email with content more interesting than "U R so hott" or "hi, lets chat." Now in my 40s, I am a stuffy curmudgeon who absolutely requires intellectual stimulation from potential partners, I literally will not become aroused without it and netspeak gobledygook like "U R" is a massive turn-off unless used in ironic self-deprecation. (LOL, OMG, ROFL are fine, but not the whole of your initial message, mmkay?)

** If playing Cards Against Humanity is your idea of a good night with friends.
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