I'm a self employed fine woodworker and carpenter evolving into a craft artist. I dance a lot socially, mostly contra and waltzing and blues/two-step/zydeco. I like hiking, camping, being in the woods. I am musical, intellectual, and I enjoy reading and good conservation. I love cats especially and critters in general. Gemini sun, Leo moon, Scorpio rising, Venus in Taurus, Mars in Leo, grand cross, grand trine. Possibly tridoshic. Too close to the center of the Myers-Briggs scales to accurately type. Autodydactic polymath.
Liberal/progressive politically. Feminist. Environmentalist. Often brave/foolish enough to stand up for what I believe.
I describe myself as pagan because that's what fits best. I am not very organised about it. I am much more into an intelligent, open minded, and open hearted consideration of spirituality than fantasy role playing, costumes and accessories, and elaborate rituals. I find truth in different paths, and I see no contradiction between pantheism and monotheism. I often find ethical atheists to be more 'spiritual' than religious folks. I recognize the 'personhood' of all critters and beings; the cat people, the bird people, the insect folks, and the faeries are just as much people as we are, and are certainly not inferior.
I am a mammal who makes his own heat, with plenty to share, and I am more comfortable in cooler weather. Hopefully you like to snuggle; I will warm you on chilly nights. My eyes, ears, skin, energy, etc., are very sensitive. I love my night vision, walking through the woods on a moonless night is easy. But full summer sun and halogen flashes blind me without proper protection. I can often hear conversations in the next house or mice and bugs under the leaves on the forest floor. I empathise well and intuit keenly.
There are basically two classes here, in terms of what people are seeking. Most want a primary dyad, monogamous long term life partner, married or might as well be, kind of relationship. And then there's the 'others', folks who like being single and actively dating, open marriages and polyamorous people, those in transition who for various reasons aren't looking for forever, and anyone else who is open to a non mainstream connection. I'm in the second group. Solo poly is the label that fits best.
OKC's system is pretty good, but I have some frustration with the questions. Collectively they do a good job of describing and matching, but many of the questions aren't written well &/or don't offer adequate answers. I've answered a bunch, and continue to do so, but many were before the 'explanation' option existed. I'm not going to redo 1000+ questions, sorry. So if you look through my questions, know that some of my answers are the best possible compromise, and without an explanation they may not give the most accurate concept for a specific situation.
So many women complain about the type and quality of the photos in men's profiles. Some of you would make a better impression if you took a more critical eye to your own photos. Quickmatch is replete with horrible photos. Do you think your profile pic is attractive? Is it well framed, or is only half your face visible at the bottom? Are you squinting at your phone, or smiling at the camera? Are you hiding your face? Clear, well lit, in focus? For God's sake take off the sunglasses! I want to see your face just like you want to see mine. Photos of groups of girlfriends are confusing. Which one is you? And I can't understand why so many women put pics of their kids in their profiles. I don't want to date your kids and you don't want them identifiable by online stalkers. Yes, mention that you have kids, but don't show them.
I have mad skills. I'm a fine woodworker and carpenter by trade, craft artist, user and fixer of machinery and tools. Constantly solving problems and designing solutions.
Doing art and Making music.
I love social dancing and the subtle language of touch. I love communicating with critters in general and petting kitties in particular.
Other stuff, too.
The concept of 'favorite books, music, food, (flavors of women)' does not compute. I own enough books to fill a box truck, and my dream house will have a library. Currently on the table are:
Chilton repair manual for Isuzu Trooper
Chart Interpretation Handbook – Arroyo
Planets In Synastry – Neville
Appalachian Trail Thru-Hiker's Companion
Only Four More Miles – 2010 Appalachian Trail Circle Expedition
Sex at Dawn – Ryan/Jetha
The Ethical Slut – Easton/Liszt
Polyamory – The New Love Without Limits – Anapol
The Botany of Desire – Pollen
Legacy of the Heart – Muller
Drama of the Gifted Child – Miller
Centering – Richards
The Way of the Superior Man – Deida
The Brain That Changes Itself – Doidge
The Brain Trust Program – McCleary
(the above is last year, now there's wilderness survival manuals, wild foods and tree field guides, maps, I love maps, we could make a whole date out of retiring to the couch with a bottle of wine and an atlas, and
Spark -- Ratey
Loving What Is -- Katie
The Complete Walker
The War of Art - Pressfield
More Than Two - Veaux/Rickert
How To Love - Thich Nhat Hahn
Sometimes I want to make a longish list of more specific music that I like, cuz when we see something of strong mutual interest in a profile it gives us something to like in each other and talk about, but I like so much musically that I sometimes skip reading this section. It's fun to discover mutual interests in person, although aesthetic compatibility is important. See, here's an example of my dueling inner natures: I recognize that seeing stuff you like in my music list may inspire you to want to contact me, but I'm also eager to discover wonderful new stuff in your music. Being a cellist and dancer, I prefer lyrical music with some structure and often passion, whether that be Vivaldi or Tori; hence, rap, electronica, and bebop are usually near the bottom of the list. There are always exceptions. And then there's the wind in the trees, the babbling brook, the chorus of bugs.
Whatever woodworking or art project I'm involved with,
And of course, sex and current flirtations!
Yeah, smartass answer; you get the private stuff in private.
I have recently begun exploring shibari and am discovering that i may be more kinky than I thought I was. I am more interested in sensual connection than dominance, although trussing you up and having my way with you (consensually) does have its appeal. I would love to find women interested in getting tied up. If that isn't you, no worries, I have been happily mostly vanilla most of my life. Always interested in exploring new territory and stretching my boundaries.
There is something ineffable about chemistry which is impossible to convey online. There's a lot of value in the essays and match rates, but no matter how good someone looks here or on facebook, we won't know until we meet what our eyes and noses and guts will say, whether our skin wants to connect. The details about what we like are negotiable and less important than that electrobiochemical connection. So some correspondence is fine to establish mutual interest, but I want to meet relatively soon to see if we like each other in person. My goal is real life interaction, and less, not more, time spent online.