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My self-summary
My romantic philosophy is sort of a combination of my favorite romantic movies: Wall-E, Up and March of the Penguins. Depending on how you look at it, love is...
...overriding your programming,
...carrying out a fantastic dream in your loved one's memory, or
...a 62-mile march through a vast frozen wilderness, sustained by a little hope, a lot of duty, and an amazing display of the southern lights.

I am an ISFJ.

I have 10 years vested in a pension, so I'm probably not leaving OC until I retire. I also have family here and love our hiking spots, small music venues and Disneyland! Someday, I'd like to have some land for a hobby farm, but for now I content myself with growing Meyer lemons and raspberries on my patio.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a graduate degree in Creative Writing and work at a major research university as a writing tutor and fellowships advisor. I enjoy helping others achieve their biggest dreams.
I’m really good at
Building IKEA furniture
Arguing about politics

I like to play ukulele although only my dog thinks I'm "good" at it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Things They Carried (O'Brien), In Our Time (Hemingway), 1984 (Orwell), Slaughterhouse-Five (Vonnegut), Close Range (Proulx). My favorite short story is Raymond Carver's, "A Small, Good Thing."

Movies: Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, Star Wars, Divergent, Clerks, High Fidelity, The Breakfast Club, Beetlejuice. I watch a lot of documentaries, too.

TV: Vikings, Game of Thrones, The Walking Dead, Sons of Anarchy, American Horror Story, Breaking Bad, True Blood, Firefly, Star Trek, Ancient Aliens, Orange Is the New Black, House of Cards, Narcos, Stranger Things, Falling Skies, Jericho.

Music: sentimental, folky acoustic rock (Augustana, Yellow Red Sparks, R.E.M., the Smiths), 90's grunge and alternative, shoegaze, classics (Social Distortion, The Cure, The Clash, the Ramones), goth (Gene Loves Jezebel, London After Midnight, Bauhaus).

Concerts I attended in 2016: KROQ Weenie Roast, The Buzzcocks, TSOL/45 Grave, The Cure, The Cult, Psychedelic Furs/The Church/The Fixx, Empire of the Sun, Duran Duran, The Offspring, Jack's 11th Show, Young the Giant, Morrissey, Temple of the Dog

Food: Three years ago I developed a serious allergy to sulfites & intolerance of some other foods. I have become a good cook.
Six things I could never do without
Creativity, education, fidelity, kindness, logic, nature.
On a typical Friday night I am
Skyping with my Libertarian friends, watching live music, enjoying some Netflix and my dog's company, planning a hike, pondering the stars...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My grandfather, when he was dying of cancer, would often go quiet, his eyes wistful, while he took in everything and everyone visiting and chatting around him. If we asked what he was doing or thinking about, he'd say, "I'm making a memory." Happy moments can be rare and brief, and it's important to hold onto them, treasure them and be grateful for them. I want someone who gets this.
You should message me if
You're an unconventional person who still wants a conventional relationship.

"Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, and don’t put up with people that are reckless with yours."
--Kurt Vonnegut
The two of us