StillWatersSF
37 San Francisco, United States
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My self-summary
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ― Rumi

This is some of the best advice I know about love, relationships, and living. I have read the so-called 'dating advice' books written for both men (e.g., The Game) and for women (e.g., The Rules). In my opinion, while the methods may very well work, they are performances like magic tricks, and when the show is over you pull back the curtain and discover who the Wizard of Oz really is.

The core problem is that I don't believe those books teach us how to more courageous, more vulnerable, and more loving, which this planet desperately needs.

I want the veil to be lifted and discover the extraordinary person that you are, where the 'magic' is what emanates from the core of your being, and I want you to discover the same in me.

So much more interesting to me are books like Brene Brown's "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead," because they give us insight into how to lead authentic lives and grow into the magnificent beauty that is latent within us.

WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR
I am attracted to women who have a great sense of humor, are gentle yet refined, classy yet sweet, spiritual yet grounded, and creative yet practical. These are qualities that match scores don't reveal and are hard to find all in one person, so I really treasure those who have the majority of these qualities and would love to meet you if you do.

CHARACTER
People, especially women, have spontaneously told me that I am "compassionate, sensitive, intelligent, thoughtful, funny, genuine, insightful, caring, gentlemanly, classy, spiritual, honest, handsome, ambitious, a leader, deep, and one of a kind."
Since women are always right, I figure it must be true. ;)

That being said, I have my rough edges like all of us. I get absorbed in things and lose sense of time.

SERVICE
My life is devoted to the service of others, particularly in helping be a catalyst for their growth to their full potential. I work on this in my writing, my volunteering, and my work creating a product to enable Internet freedom.

BELIEF
I believe that the greatest gift we have, and ultimately the only thing we can fully control, is our consciousness and its ability to elevate us. Yet the world has clouded our vision, and so sometimes we need a trigger to help us remember who we truly are.

WORK
Working with top photographers on fashion campaign

EDUCATION
* Swarthmore College, Religious studies and Philosophy
* Hebrew University
* CCA's MFA program in Creative Writing (going part-time)

HOMETOWN
Portland, Oregon

PETS
I have a pet dragon. His name is Smaugsy. He's really nice once you warm up to him.
What I’m doing with my life
I asked myself: What is the one thing in the world, above all others, that fills you with the most joy, fulfillment, and meaning?

And is it so meaningful to you that you would be willing to sacrifice other things, even potentially great things, in the name of excellence in this one thing?

My answer was that one thing is creative writing and yes, I would make that sacrifice. So recently, I started a graduate program for a Master in Fine Arts program in Writing.

I am writing a novel about a young person in search of himself. It is guided by my belief that we all have an ever-burning candle inside of us, a light that is waiting to shine across the world, but because of various notions and uncertainties we acquired, we, to varying levels, have both lost touch with that light and we don't feel confident enough in sharing it. But once we do, that light will shine so bright that it can illuminate the entire earth, helping others find that light inside of themselves.

As Mariane Williamson wrote:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? ... And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
I’m really good at
• Making you laugh. You have my iron clad guarantee on this. :)
• Being present for you
• Being laid back and also ability to have deep conversations
The first things people usually notice about me
That I listen to you with my whole being.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS
I like books that are spiritual (like The Alchemist, Zhuan Falun, or Tao Te Ching), reflect a hero's journey (like The Odyssey) or are poetic (Like The History of Love).
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MOVIES
I like movies that are inspiring or enlightening (think Inception, Life of Pi, and Beasts of the Southern Wild), thrillers (think James Bond, Mission Impossible) or don't take themselves too seriously (think Silver Linings Playbook) and plays or performing arts in any of these veins.
The six things I could never do without
1. The sound of children laughing on a playground

2. The taste of chocolate soufflé, warm in the mouth

3. The smell of just picked lavender, crushed between the fingers

4. The sight of the nape of a woman's neck

5. The touch of Egyptian cotton sheets, warm and freshly laundered

6. And hopefully, the sight, the smell, the sound, the touch, the taste of you...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Do the body, heart, soul, and mind each want the same thing, one layer fitting perfectly around the other like Russian nesting dolls?

Or is it like Blaise Pascal wrote? "The heart has reasons that reason does not know." ("Le cœur a ses raisons que la raison ne connaît point.")

Is the mind's dream of perfection in people, the same as the soul's dream of a soul mate, the heart's dream of finding and giving unconditional love, and the body's raw feelings of attraction. Is it possible to feel all of these for one person, and if so, will I meet her?
On a typical Friday night I am
Opposed to so many that say their Friday evenings aren't typical, the schedule, at least, of the first part of my Friday night actual is:

From 7-10 pm every Friday, I study and discuss Buddha teachings about self-improvement, letting go of things holding us back, and how to be more compassionate and patient.

What will happen after that, like all of life, always remains a mystery.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
• Never married. No kids. Looking for the one.
• I keep the cash in my money clip organized by denomination and all facing the same way.
You should message me if
CONGRATULATIONS
If you actually read everything up to here, then I'm both impressed and flattered, and we must be on the same wave length, which is both rare and a blessing. Everyone being on this planet is special, yet there are some of us they call old souls. I have been called that and my guess is that you are one of those as well.

So I'd like to to get to know you. Message with even just a "Hi" and I'll take it from there.

THE FIRST STEP
It takes a bit of risk to begin this journey or even take the first step like sending a message or meeting for coffee, but sometimes the risk not to is even greater.

As Anaïs Nin wrote,
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
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