I tend towards relationship anarchy or non-hierarchical polyamory and I'm comfortable with a pretty fluid boundary between friendship and sexual/romantic relationships. I have friends I who I started out dating; friends who I hung out with platonically for a while, slept with a few times, then reverted to platonic friendship; etc. I know some people like to keep things more clear-cut and have very good reasons for that, and that's obviously cool too. Let's have a conversation about it. :)
I in one committed sexual/romantic relationship, and several more casual ones at the moment. I have a fetlife profile, which I'm happy to share if you're interested. My sexual attraction is very predominantly towards women, and I'd also class myself as hetero-romantic. I have, however, had a few nice sexual experiences with people outside of that category and would like to have more. I find it somewhat hard to sort out all my feelings on this, and so can only make the obvious point that you don't know what you like until you try!
I'm political, but in a relatively rarefied way (I'm more likely to write an article than go on a march). I'm all about (intersectional) feminism, anti-racism, anti-colonialism, animal rights, LGBTQI rights, sex workers' rights (i.e. full decriminalisation), consent culture, free speech, prison abolition, open borders, drug legalisation, etc. I'm generally "left of centre" in the redistributionist sense, but sceptical of state power, tending towards anarchism. I use the Chrome extension for OKC to screen profiles, and we will not be friends if your politics are lousy. I'm currently really keen on a paper called "A capitalist road to communism". My blog is mostly just links to stuff I've enjoyed reading recently, with a few substantive pieces of my own.
I know that all makes me sound very serious and humourless - when I write I go into "academic mode". :D In person, you'll find I'm one of more laid-back people in the world, and I'm constantly fooling around and telling jokes, often at my own expense. I'm big on cuddling too! (though I'll always ask first). I've been described as "a big bottle of social lube"
A lot of people I know in real life are also on OKC, and I often wish the site had more social network features. So, until, OKC decides to get on board with this idea, I've decided to achieve a crude approximation by simply linking to a bunch of people (with their consent, of course)...
In recent months, I've been quite busy doing some freelance research on a campaign for sex work decriminalisation in South Africa (some of my handiwork is visible here under 'handy downloads'). I'm also responsible for most of the domestic work in our household, which is relatively substantial since my partner and I both work from home. I'm also trying to write a book about power dynamics in relationships, though like any big writing project this tends to go on the backburner as other things that come up.
I've being doing a fair bit of work at sex parties and similar events to improve sexual consent and communication, mediate conflicts, and help people to be accountable for bad behaviour. I recently contributed towards a zine about some of this stuff - all feedback appreciated!
I'm also quite active on social media, mostly along the lines of posting interesting articles I've read, plus writing that is less academic. This all goes up on my blog, if you're particularly interested. I also travel a fair amount for fun and academic reasons.
Being sociable and agreeable
Finding things out on the internet
Being happy with things
I have dimples. Actually it's more that my entire face creases up when I smile. But I think this counts.
That I know a lot about a lot and I'm not afraid of showing it. That I like to have arguments, and to be told when I don't know as much as I think I do.
I generally love non-fiction books of all kinds, anything which teaches me something I didn't know. A non-exhaustive list of topics: philosophy, maths, anthropology, economics, biology, physics, chemistry, gender studies, urban planning, politics, linguistics, sociology, etc, etc. I read fiction less frequently, and generally stick with things that friends recommend or that gets good reviews. I love sci-fi and speculative fiction, and would appreciate more recommendations for stuff not written by white men!
I love movies, and my tastes here are also pretty diverse. I'll watch anything from stupid action flicks to slow arthouse dramas.
I don't actually "listen" to music a lot, so I don't have any favourites really. Many people reckon that this is unacceptable, but there you go. I'll dance enthusiastically to anything with a beat though. I think these things are related: people who are into music seem to be much more picky about what they're dance to.
Food: anything vegan and tasty. And quantity has a quality all of its own.
*An internet connection - again, reading anything and everything
*Sex, and physical affection more generally
*Dancing, or some other means to let my body do the thinking for me
*Talking to people who know more than me about something or other