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My self-summary
This profile is antique, like circa 2004 or 2005 antique, but I'm updating it piece by piece. I turn it on and off for months at a time...Most recent update is now, April 2017

I like getting to know people. I'm polyamorous and at any given time, I'm ethically involved in multiple friendships and relationships of different levels of intimacy. I like chatting and establishing friendships and acquaintanceships on OKC. I'm a high up there extrovert and I like having many interactions. I moved from Syracuse, NY to Seattle early in May 2015. I'm partnered with Jenda79 and Bugsy718. I'm originally from Brooklyn and since I arrived in the Pacific Northwest, I've noticed that I say things like "coffee" and "orange" differently than everyone around me.

OKC has worked out pretty well for me over the years; I have a bunch of ongoing friendships initiated by OKC contacts. That has given me reason to believe in the power of OKC's majestic matching Q&A algorithm. If we match highly, we'll definitely be capable of worthwhile conversation and meaningful interaction. It works for me because that's what I'm most interested in finding in new connections.

I like finding kindred spirits... Liberal, free-loving, a little weird, nerdy, funny, mischievous, intellectual, artistic, sex-positive, scientific thinking, gender-defying, music-loving, geeky, healthy lifestyle, feminist, athletic, personable, fabulous, passionate, skeptical, more loyal to the LGBT world than the straight world, non-conforming, non-religious, righteous friends. When I meet other people like that, we're almost guaranteed to enjoy each other's company no matter what.

Although I'm a highly sexual person and I'm non-monogamous, I'm really only interested in connecting sexually when I have a certain level of mutual interest with someone... I'm just putting it out there that this isn't a vehicle to manifest sexual encounters. When I meet new people, I'm not creepy gunning to get laid.

If you relate to Amanda Palmer's Do it with a Rockstar video and understand why it's a sad song, we'll love each other.
What I’m doing with my life
I spent the last 12 years working in human services doing various things supporting adults with developmental disabilities. Since moving to Seattle I went to a code school and I'm currently working as a software devloper. I play a bunch of instruments for fun, and I hang around a lot doing various creative activities. All music is amazing. Adrenaline-fueled things excite me. Arts, museums, shows, cultural events... I love things like that. I love delicious food, but who doesn't, right?

I really enjoy running and biking, skating, things like that. Love doing dualthlons, obstacle course things, other road races and fitness activities like that. I'm a sloooow non-competitive type for those. I'm happy that I can simply finish an event. Team sports and televised sports and that stuff usually bores me to tears though.
I’m really good at
I rock at cryptic crosswords, I know a lot of big words, and I'm a great musician. I'm also very quick with replies and come up with really funny stuff off the top of my head.
The first things people usually notice about me
Usually something funny I say, or some strange observation... People cue in on the words I use sometimes, which makes me laugh. Or that I have a lot of piercings, that I wear vibram five fingers on my feet a lot, maybe that I usually have a gel manicure. I'm on the effeminate side and I get ID'd as gay a lot, especially by straight people who don't know real gay people.... I like gay people so that's fine with me. When people ask about orientation I like to say I'm queer anyway.

I just read about demigenders and that describes me very well. It was a little bit of a revelation that there's a niche gender identity that seems to fit me. I think I'm a demiguy. A gynephilic, polyamorous one.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books? I like Orson Scott Card and a lot of nonfiction... many things. I'm really embarrassed by Orson Scott Card when he's not writing fiction, but that's another story entirely.

I like Kevin Smith movies, and Hal Hartley... a few other things. I'm not a big movie guy. I like all the comic book and superhero movies lately. I kinda want to be Tony Stark.

I'm a total music junkie and I listen to a wildly eclectic mix of music all the time. In a lot of ways I'm just an aging punk, though.

Let's list music: Siouxsie, Ween, St. Vincent, The Clash, Regina Spektor, Amanda Palmer, Gogol Bordello, Bauhaus, the Tuneyards, Beach House, Iggy Pop, Meredith Monk, Clutch, Goldfrapp, Peaches, Viva Voce, The Bird & the Bee, Roxy Music, King Crimson, John Coltrane, Veruca Salt, X, the Lunachicks, Sleater-Kinney, Black Flag, Fugazi, Bad Brains, Schoenberg, Morphine, Luminescent Orchestrii, Muse, the New Radicals, PJ Harvey, Anna Calvi, Fiona Apple, Fishbone, Madness, The Pretenders, The Primatives, anything involving Katie Jane Garside, Beck, Sonic Youth, T-Rex, Television, Tom Waits, Primus, King Crimson, Tom Waits, TV on the Radio, Ladytron, The Fall, NRBQ, Wire, Waren Zevon, Frank Zappa, Kate Bush, Billy Bragg, Balkan Beatbox, Blondie, Cheap Trick, Eagles of Death Metal, Liam Lynch... I'm barely rolling... This can go on all day....

I could eat sushi exclusively, if it were an option.

**I'm a lacto-ovo-pesco-vegetarian. Sometimes I'm a raw vegan for a few hours at a time. I'm worried about the sushi being radioactive these days though... The vegetarianism is an ethical thing about factory farms. On very rare occasion I'll eat home farmed or hunted meat. Maybe 1-2 times a year.**
This stopped being true. I lapsed. I'm weak. I still strive to eat not as much meat, but I failed after several years and now I'm an omnivore who likes vegetarian foods a lot! I toy with the idea of buckling down and returning to the vegetarianism, but not this week.
Six things I could never do without
Six things... I deleted this by accident. I forgot what they were, so I have to assume I can do without them.

I'll just be honest.
1. Attention
2. Attention
3. Attention
4. Attention
5. Food
6. Sleep
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Love and death... Didn't Woody Allen say that those are the only two things that matter in life? I'm mad at Woody Allen for his poor morals though. *sigh*

I also think of puns and jokes and funny stuff constantly. I'm writing material for a fictional stand up routine in my head. In real life it never turns out as funny as I hoped. Bleah!
On a typical Friday night I am
(If I can convince someone to get vegan pizza with me at Strong Hearts Cafe, I'm there. It's not everyone else's favorite food though so it doesn't happen for me every week.)

^^That was all Syracuse. I really miss Strong Hearts Cafe, but the Wayward Vegan Cafe is the same kind of thing. I'm not usually there on Friday nights these days though. Seattle has such a vibrant social scene that I've been finding all sorts of great social things to do during the evenings.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not shy about private things... There's very little about myself that I wouldn't talk about openly. I guess that I have anxiety issues? I sleep with a CPAP?
You should message me if
You want to talk with or hang out with on occasion. Or if you have something to ask or want to joke around or whatever. If you think I'm attractive? Whatever.

I'm good people and a good friend. I really love meeting people and making friends. I like helping people with their issues. Bring me your issues and I'll try to help.


The two of us