34 Ithaca, United States
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My self-summary
A straight white cis dude who's aware of my privilege and who is well aware that the world would be a much better place if people who look like me had less power and were more prone to shutting the fuck up.

Happily married, poly but not really looking for anything. (My wife and I date separately, to be clear; not unicorn hunting.) I'm a writer and editor of a leftist geek media site. Yes, I'm as surprised as you are that you can make money at that.

As the job suggests, I am a bit of a geek. OK, I'm more than a bit of a geek. I'm a massive geek. I am a "plays roleplaying games, watches weird sci-fi, and designs puzzles for fun" level of geek. Just figure, hey, get that out there. This does not mean that I am one of those scary people in costumes at conventions, or that I lack all social skills. It just means I like nerdy things.

As for leftist, I'm outright politically radical. Marxist and anarchist. Not in an active "let's start the revolution" sense, and I'm well aware that pretty much nobody actually agrees with me politically, so as long as you're not of the opinion that Donald Trump makes some good points that's probably fine by me, but if "supports the continued existence of western civilization" is an absolute must for you it's possible we will not get along terribly well.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm stay-at-home husband to a night nurse who spends most of my days writing and/or running the aforementioned site. It's a good gig, and I'm quite happy with it, although it turns out the "eats up all of your time" tendencies of owning a small business and being a freelance writer combine, so I tend to be in a constant state of mild exasperation at deadlines.

Moving to Ithaca in early June, and actively looking for new friends. As the profile says, I have a partner. She is wonderful. We are poly, but I am not looking for anything right now.

Mostly, though, I'm working here, learning as much as I can, and starting on my own projects of various sorts. And playing with my dog, which is a strange thing for me to own given that I've spent most of my life terrified of dogs. But I adore him. It is difficult to feel anything but unbridled love for someone who is physically incapable of not jumping for joy when you come home. Sadly, no pictures of me and him around, and pet pictures are forbidden, so you'll have to meet him in person. He's a total sweetie though. We are all, in turn, the pets of two cats, Coraline and Lettie, who benevolently rule over our house.
I’m really good at
Most of my time is spent on writing and reading. With a fair amount of cooking. I'm a good cook. And I cook for dates. I'm also not half bad at video games, trivia, and puzzles. Oh, and my last book was the #1 bestseller on Amazon, albeit within the rather marginal category of "Science fiction history and criticism." I guess that counts as being good at something.
The first things people usually notice about me
Oh, that depends on how they're noticing me. If you're talking to me, a tendency to get enthusiastic about an idea or topic.

If you're looking at me, probably my beard.

If you're seeing me out walking my dog, probably my 60 pound black dog.

If you're IMing, texting, or e-mailing me, the fact that I always write in complete sentences with capitalization. (It doesn't bother me if you don't - it's just that I used computers for writing e-mail and papers for years before I started IMing, so grammar and the like are the default for me. Writing without them would require more work.)

If you're reading this section, the fact that I have over-qualified this ridiculously in an attempt to hit 1000 words for the Profile Completion monkeys.

If you have covertly installed a surveillance camera in my house, the fact that "writing 2000 words a day" and "fucking around on the Internet" are puzzlingly indistinguishable at times.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Last Chance to See, Sandman, Neverwhere, Promethea, The Baroque Cycle, Transmetropolitan.

Authors in General: Neil Gaiman, William Blake, Dion Fortune, Alan Moore, Warren Ellis, Kieron Gillen, Greg Rucka, Neal Stephenson, China Miéville, Iain M. Banks. Of these, Alan Moore is my role model. And not for Watchmen and V for Vendetta. I like his totally screwed up occult stuff.

Movies: The Fountain is my absolute favorite film. I tend to like slightly cryptic and weird things, in that "too snobby for Christopher Nolan" way that I freely admit is eminently punchable.

TV: Doctor Who is my single favorite show - I can be led to extended tangents on this point. As in, I've written seven books about it. (I promise, I'm not one of those asshole fans who thinks knowing an absurd amount about the series makes me better than you. Indeed, I'm fairly sure the reverse is true.) Past that, Hannibal and Game of Thrones have been fairly big recent obsessions.

Music: I'm kind of eternally stuck in 80s alternative: The Smiths, Peter Murphy, The Cure, Depeche Mode, Siouxie and the Banshees, Bauhaus, Sisters of Mercy, New Order, etc. Of stuff that isn't ridiculously old, FKA Twigs, Seeming, Crystal Castles, and Bat for Lashes have all been pretty satisfying.

I am generally biased towards British stuff.

Food: My own cooking, first and foremost; I'm a fairly serious hobbyist in this regard. Eating out, good Chinese and Indian are always straight tickets to my heart, and I'm a sucker for a farm-to-table place with a fun wine list.
The six things I could never do without
An Internet connection, Krypto (my dog), good food, the uncanny, autumn, England.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Virtually everything. It's a really unfortunate side effect of being an academic. Then I ramble about it. I intellectualize. A lot.

That's probably unhelpful though. So, major things I've thought about today (Updated such that today=9/24/15)

1) My precise and critical thoughts on the most recent episode of Doctor Who.
2) The deeper symbolism and sociological significance of the fact that the Prime Minister of the UK allegedly had sex with a pig.
3) The finer details of why Gamergate is so awful.
4) Particulars of level design in Super Mario Bros. (I've been playing with Super Mario Maker a lot.)
5) What images best illustrate the next installment of my ongoing blog about Alan Moore.
6) How the hell this deep fryer I got for my birthday works.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday nights Jill usually works, so that's pretty much a "stay up late and write about British comics and then sit in bed reading/watching television/generally fucking around" kinda night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Has already been admitted elsewhere in this profile.
You should message me if
The fact that I'm a polyamorous Marxist anarchist occultist is not a deal-breaker? I mean, I find that's something people tend not to be "meh" on, you know?