Softlywhispered
46 Tarpon Springs, United States
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My self-summary
I will open with this: If you're a married man looking to cheat on his partner, **PLEASE** bypass my profile. I'm not interested. I'm living in an open, Poly relationship and it works for me, for us. I believe in open, transparent communication with my Spouse & OSO.

I did a journey of self discovery a handful of years ago: a cross country drive that allowed me to shake off the dust, to come into my own. It gave me an insight into who I really am, and I found out that I really like the person who I was meant to be.

I'm sometimes told that I come across as brash and intimidating, but when you look beneath that surface you'll see me for what I really am; a compassionate woman who lives life in every breath. I don't play the "nice" game. I don't think that it truly serves any purpose. I'm not -mean-, but I do speak my mind, and I don't kiss ass.

What I'm looking for friends. PERIOD. I've got a life partner, I'm looking for folks to socialize with. However, don't assume I'll meet you straight away, I take a while to go from email here, to giving out any other form of contact. Please don't rush things, you won't get very far. -- this means DON'T assume I will meet you, don't ask to meet right away. Sorry, bud. Not happening. Not my speed, Not my deal. I'm not that kind of woman. I will feel you out through chat. Not your kind of thing? That's O.K., I'm not your kind of chick.

I'm the kind of woman who appreciates having fun, but not being reckless. Who likes to enjoy life, but does so at an easy pace. I'm laid back, casual and comfortable with life. There's no reason to always be in a rush, but if I want something done, I expect it to -get done-, even if I have to do it myself. I'm not high pressure or high maintenance, I just have high expectations for myself, and faith in others.

A direct quote from someone I once met: "You really are unlike anyone I've ever met before. You're as open and honest as you seem."

I am a sensualist, creative and vibrant
What I’m doing with my life
Changing my self! I've lost a -lot- of weight over the last year ( 100 + pounds to date ) and am happy to say that while I loved the old me, I LOVE the new me!

I've been taking more dance classes and working out. The changes are what they are. There are parts of me that won't ever go away (thank goodness!) and parts of me that (I hope) are gone for good. Along the way, I've gained a new appreciation for a different style of clothing. I can finally wear things I would never have thought possible.
I’m really good at
Listening. My job has allowed me to hone this skill, and I'm the kind of person you can tell anything to, and trust me... people do.

Bonus: Reading People. It goes hand in had with what I do.
The first things people usually notice about me
My crimson mane. The red hair really gets attention. Short of that, people tend to notice that I'm taller than most, that I've got a "presence" or so I'm told.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy reading ,it is one of my favorite past times. Some of my favorite Authors are Mercedes Lackey, Laurell K. Hamilton Katie McAllister, Kim Harrison and Tara Sue Me they're women who can spin a good tale and write delicious erotic prose.

Movies get to me though, I LOVE a good psychological thriller, but GORROR or splatter porn - Not my thing. Movies like "Paranormal Activity 1-3 (4 sucked, but 4.5 - just came out in January 2014 was REALLY a good tie up) are a great set up, Insidious: chapter 2, The Possession of Emily Rose, Devil: These all had great ideas, they set out, told the story, had the timing and did it right, but if it's just a slasher flick. *yawn* I always find myself telling the tv how stupid that girl is for going off alone, Or those two kids for going into the bunk to have sex.

My music tastes vary all over the place, I really do like -anything- from folk, to filk, rock to r&b. However my phone is filled with New Age & world music because this is what I use when I work. I like having a huge library to select from, something that will allow my clients to drift away. One of my absolute favorite musicians is Deva Premal, who does a lot of Tibentan Chant set to music. I suppose the other is Lifescapes Music, I'm sure you know them, they're the little boxes you see at Target or Walmart, where you can "sample" the Cd. They've got some great relaxation CD's, I swear I have everyone of them! I'm also a HUGE fan of Hawaiian Slack Key Guitar.
The six things I could never do without
A quiet evening on the water.
A well written book.
A deep conversation with a good friend.
A quality meal.
Really good lingerie/corset & silk hosiery - because everyone appreciates looking good/ Feeling good.
Me Time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Energy work. How do people perceive me when they know what I do for a living. Why do some people constantly post on FB about things they can never hope to change? Why are men's sizes so straight forward when women's are all whopperjawed.
What is the next administration going to do with this country. Are we going to have to register? Will you register as a Muslim? I'm not one but I'll be in line - because this CAN'T Happen again...

Yeah, I can be all over the place.
On a typical Friday night I am
In the autumn, I'm at The Vault of Souls, doing my favorite past time, scaring people! Hauntlife!

Any other time of the year, I can be found doing a myriad of things. Either going to a Yelp event, spending time at work, Or spending time with friends and family.

One thing you won't catch me at is the Club. I am -not- a fan of that scene... Unless it's a drag show. Then I'll be there!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Yes, You probably -have- seen me some place before, and you probably paid good money too.
You should message me if
...You like intelligent women, enjoy people who have diverse backgrounds and are looking for friendship. If you like to laugh and Your number one goal should be getting to know me, not getting in my pants.

... You want to start a -CONVERSATION- with me. "Hey.." or "Hi" or even "How are you?" ...WILL NOT going to cut it, neither is some lame compliment. Start a conversation, witty banter, flirt, but for the love of all that's holy... don't just leave a greeting! <--- this? this gets you ignored. Sorry. A girl has her standards!

...You should NOT message me if you're a judgmental ass who is offended by a woman who speaks her mind. My preferences are just that MINE and I own them. Yours are YOURS... accept it and move on. Telling someone to get over themselves show exactly how far you need to grow. /rant
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