Softlywhispered
47Tarpon Springs, United States
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My self-summary
I will open with this: If you're a *MARRIED* man looking to cheat on his partner, **PLEASE** by-pass my profile. I'm NOT interested. I'm living in an open, Poly relationship and it works for me, for us. I believe in open, transparent communication with my Spouse & OSO.

I'm sometimes told that I come across as brash and intimidating, but when you look beneath that surface you'll see me for what I really am; a compassionate woman who lives life in every breath. I don't play the "nice" game. I don't think that it truly serves any purpose. I'm not -mean-, but I do speak my mind, and I don't kiss ass.

** It's important that you read this paragraph: What I'm looking for friends. PERIOD. I've got a life partner, and a collared pet (6+years) I don't want to change my situation. What I'm looking for people to socialize with. Please don't assume I'll be up to meet you straight away, I take a while to warm up, to go from email here, to giving out any other form of contact. I urge you, don't rush things. You won't get very far. ** This means DON'T ask to meet right away. Sorry, bud. Not happening. Not my speed, Not my deal. I'm not that person. I will feel you out through chat. Not your kind of thing? That's O.K., I'm not your kind of chick, and that's perfectly acceptable.

I'm the kind of woman who appreciates having fun, but not being reckless. Who likes to enjoy life, but does so at an easy pace. I'm laid back, casual and comfortable with life. There's no reason to always be in a rush, but if I want something done, I expect it to -get done-, even if I have to do it myself. I'm not high pressure or high maintenance, I just have high expectations for myself, and faith in others.

One of the friends I met here on OKC said "You really are the person you show in you profile. You're not like everyone else, you're authentic." I sincerely try to be. I tend to call people on their shit and I expect to be called on mine. I try not to make any excuses for my behaviour. I own up to my transgressions.

To see if you can read and follow directions, I won't be answering any mails I get that don't include the following phrase "There can be only One!" somewhere in the body of the text.

I am a sensualist, creative and vibrant
What I’m doing with my life
Changing my self! I've lost a -lot- of weight over the last year ( 80+ pounds to date ) and am happy to say that while I loved the old me, I LOVE the new me! (Belly surgery halted my weight loss so I've embraced a tiny gain back)

I've been taking more dance classes and working out. The changes are what they are. There are parts of me that won't ever go away (thank goodness!) and parts of me that (I hope) are gone for good. Along the way, I've gained a new appreciation for a different style of clothing. I can finally wear things I would never have thought possible.

I'm delving back into the world of Erotic writing. I love creating the fantasy in my head and translating it to paper. I love hearing how people react to the experience I've created. I have a desire to be published again, an itch, one might say, so the drables I do help me out.
I’m really good at
Actually listening to people. Taking what they say into consideration and not just listening to comment on what they're saying and adding my $0.02 on the subject.
The first things people usually notice about me
My crimson mane. The red hair really gets attention. Short of that, people tend to notice that I'm taller than most, that I've got a "presence" or so I'm told.

Ok, lets be honest, Men tend to notice my tits. first.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy reading ,it is one of my favorite past times. Some of my favorite Authors are Mercedes Lackey, Laurell K. Hamilton Katie McAllister, Kim Harrison and Tara Sue Me they're women who can spin a good tale and write delicious erotic prose.

Movies get to me though, I LOVE a good psychological thriller, but GORROR or splatter porn - Not my thing. Movies like "Paranormal Activity 1-3 (4 sucked, but 4.5 - just came out in January 2014 was REALLY a good tie up) are a great set up, Insidious: chapter 2, The Possession of Emily Rose, Devil: These all had great ideas, they set out, told the story, had the timing and did it right, but if it's just a slasher flick. *yawn* I always find myself telling the tv how stupid that girl is for going off alone, Or those two kids for going into the bunk to have sex.

My music tastes vary all over the place, I really do like -anything- from folk, to filk, rock to r&b. However my phone is filled with New Age & world music because this is what I use when I work. I like having a huge library to select from, something that will allow my clients to drift away. One of my absolute favorite musicians is Deva Premal, who does a lot of Tibentan Chant set to music. I suppose the other is Lifescapes Music, I'm sure you know them, they're the little boxes you see at Target or Walmart, where you can "sample" the Cd. They've got some great relaxation CD's, I swear I have everyone of them! I'm also a HUGE fan of Hawaiian Slack Key Guitar.
Six things I could never do without
A quiet evening on the water or in the mountains.
A well written book, movie or play
A deep conversation with a good friend.
A quality meal.
Decadent lingerie/corset & silk hosiery - because everyone appreciates looking good/ Feeling good.
Alone Time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Energy work. How do people perceive me when they know what I do for a living. Why do some people constantly post on FB about things they can never hope to change? Why are men's sizes so straight forward when women's are all whopperjawed.
What is the next administration going to do with this country. Are we going to have to register? Will you register as a Muslim? I'm not one but I'll be in line - because this CAN'T Happen again...

Yeah, I can be all over the place.
On a typical Friday night I am
In the autumn, I'm at The Vault of Souls, doing my favorite past time, scaring people! Hauntlife!

Any other time of the year, I can be found doing a myriad of things. Either going to a Yelp event, spending time at work, I might even be going across the country to haunt conventions, learning what's hot and new in the Dark Entertainment business. You'd never have guessed that the haunt industry really is 365 days a year. Or maybe just spending time with friends and family.

One place you won't catch me at is the Club. I am -not- a fan of that scene... Unless it's a drag show. Then I'll be there!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Yes, You probably -have- seen me some place before, and you probably paid good money too.
You should message me if
...You like intelligent women, enjoy people who have diverse backgrounds and are looking for friendship. If you like to laugh and Your number one goal should be getting to know me, not getting in my pants.

... You want to start a -CONVERSATION- with me. Guys, "Hey.." or "Hi" or even "How are you?" ...WILL NOT going to cut it, neither is some lame compliment. Start a conversation, witty banter, flirt, but for the love of all that's holy... don't just leave a greeting! <--- this? this gets you ignored. So will telling me I'm beautiful or other remark about my looks. Unless you want me to come across as vapid and vane, that doesn't start a conversation. A girl has her standards!

**AGAIN ** To see if you can read and follow directions, I won't be answering any mails I get that don't include the following phrase "There can be only One!" somewhere in the body of the text.

DO NOT message me if you're a judgmental ass who is offended by a woman who speaks her mind. My preferences are just that MINE and I own them. Yours are YOURS... accept it and move on. Telling someone to get over themselves show exactly how far you need to grow. /rant
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