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My self-summary
I've had a lot of recent changes in my life that have put me in a really great place. Fuck, a job you love makes all the difference!

Right now, in this place in my life, I really am only looking for women. I am single, this isn't a "looking for a second partner" thing so many bisexual women are doing these days.

I pride myself on being a good communicator. Its taken a few years of work, but I'm comfortable expressing my needs and feelings. That isn't to say I'm perfect; everyone has their lapses of logic when too much emotion hits you all at once. One thing I simply can't do is people withholding affection to punish me for something I don't know they are angry about yet. Ugh!

I'm independent as a person, but I do want to spend plenty of quality time with my partner. I traveled to France for an entire month all by myself. I loved every second of it. I need a balance between "me time" and "us time," though in the initial smitten honeymoon phase I'm more likely to get caught up in "us time."

Professionally, I'm a Technical Writer. I love to read, write, and edit. Total nerd here! ;)

I don't play games. Come on. We are all adults. I won't pretend to have plans when I don't just because I think you want me to play hard to get. If I have plans, I won't ditch my friends for you. But if you call last minute and I actually don't have anything to do, sure, I'll meet up.

I'm bawdy and perverse. I like to think those are some of my better qualities.

This is where I should add: couples, fuck off. You won't be the exception.

I love to craft and its totally dorky, but I love it. I knit, I dehydrate my own spices, I make my own juices (hey, they make the best vodka mixers!).

Speaking of dorky, I love SciFi movies. I have a special place in my heart for anything Joss Whedon. I will rewatch the Firefly series yearly.

I don't want kids. I'd much rather have a big ol' backyard with lots of rescue dogs.

I love good food and wine, but I can get down with wings and cheap beer. I worked in hospitality for many years and I know my grapes.

I'm pretty silly/sarcastic/generally funny, although sometimes unintentionally. I'm ok laughing at myself. I have my "blonde moments." I love to laugh; I'm one of those obnoxiously happy people most of the time. Maybe not obnoxiously, but I find its much easier to just let shit go then hang on to it. I have no street smarts.

I'm not a morning person. If you try to wake me up at 7am on a Sunday you will meet the worst side of me. Oh, I do love mimosas and brunch though! :).

I can be quite shy at times. I try to force myself not to be! I'm an introvert at heart, but can really flourish in small groups with a great vibe.

I'm usually not interested in uber preppy people. I like some rough edges. Tattoos make me swoon. If you use "4" for the word "for" or shorten "you" to "u" we probably won't get along. I like words.. full words. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
Figuring out a way back to France! ;)
I’m really good at
Scrabble. I get upset when I don't get the "Q" so I can't wow people with my knowledge of Q-without-the-U-words! I am competitive at it though. Be warned! :)

Also, I'm a pretty good cook. I can't bake to save my life, but I can cook. I dabble occasionally with veganism, but I do it for the challenge of cooking good food, not because being vegan is sustainable for me.

And I guess since my MA is in literature, specifically Native American literature, I'm a good reader. I try not to be snobby about it, but every once in awhile the academic in me gets a bit snarky. Its rare, but it happens. Perhaps I'm admitting a flaw as well as something I'm good at. ;)
The first things people usually notice about me
That I smile a lot, my eyes... who am I kidding, I should really say my boobs. ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I'm an admitted book dork. My favorite book is "In the Time
of the Butterflies" by Julia Alvarez. A close second is "The Lone
Ranger and Tonto Fistfight in Heaven" by Sherman Alexie. I did get
sucked into the Sookie Stackhouse novels because vampires are hot.
Currently, I'm using Anna Karenina as a paper weight, but hope to
upgrade to reading it one of these days. ;)

Movies: My movie tastes are a bit questionable. I rationalize it
out by saying that since I like smart books I have to equal it out
with dumb movies. No romantic comedies, mind you. More like.. crazy
mindless action and adventure flicks. Don't judge me, but my
favorite movie of all time is "Blade." I like anything vampire,
including "Let the Right One In," which is foreign and subtitled
but still awesome. I can watch the scene from "Dumb and Dumber"
with the ketchup and mustard 100 times in a row and still be
laughing hysterically the 100th time. I can quote most of "Empire
Records." I love Disney/Pixar flicks too, especially Wall*E and Toy

Music: Fairly broad tastes that stop short of country. I love
female singers with pretty voices. Typically NPR is on in my car
though. My go-to Pandora station at work is the Regina Spektor playlist. My next concert will be Postmodern Jukebox!

Food: I'm a foodie. Love to cook and try new things. I am happiest when I'm preparing a multi-course meal for a dinner party!
The six things I could never do without
Chapstick, my dog, a good book, Thai food, bad movies on rainy days, a good beer on a bad day.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Rationalizing naps.
On a typical Friday night I am
Depends on my mood. I'm either out with friends or cuddling on the couch with my pup and a good movie. If I'm out, I'm most likely having dinner and drinks at Mateo or having a game night with friends. I'm always game for something new though!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was in an honors class as a kid. We had to do a lot of vocab building. In a hurry, I wrote down "dodomen" as one of the words. I got home, did a quick search, and couldn't find anything. We (my mom and I) ended up assuming it was like a dodo bird and pretty much made up a definition. Turns out the word was abdomen. Write it down. The "ab" written closely together looks a lot like "do." When we do something stupid in my family, we call the person a dodomen. Its always funny.
You should message me if
You can introduce me to a new sour beer. Or want to take a random adventure to Wicked Weed.

You're confident in yourself. I like people who know what they want. Don't "wink" with the generic OKC message. Has that ever worked? Take a chance and actually say 'hi.' I'm really pretty sweet. If you don't proposition me for sex right off the bat, I'll probably respond. ;)

Also, if you've read my profile. Example of failed email: "u are cute would u like to grab a beer sometime?" "u" is a deal breaker!!