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My self-summary
Politically, I'm an anarchist. I have profoundly egalitarian ideals and spent several years involved in activist projects, union work, and collectively running an anarchist bookstore/library. After a few years' respite, I'm taking stock of where I'm at and where to direct my limited energy.

I've selected the terms "woman" and "straight" for search engine algorithm purposes, but the words don't feel right. In my own words I consider myself genderqueer and I tend to be interested in men. I lost interest in/got bored with sex for a few years and don't have a strong libido, but, if we have the right chemistry, I'd be open to exploring it.

I'm polyamorous: I believe one can love multiple people and maintain multiple ongoing, loving, committed relationships. This doesn't mean all my relationships look the same; it means that I'm open to exploring various kinds of connections with new people and I do not treat dating as a stepping stone toward monogamy. I am not into hierarchical poly configurations, which tend to treat non-primary partners as disposable, and I don't do vetoes or DADT. I do want to build romantic relationships and intimate friendships (lovers, playmates, cuddle-buddies) with single and non-single people who recognize me as an equal participant in the decisions that affect me. I am interested in building life partnerships, but recognize that those connections are rare.

I recently fell in love with a wonderful, caring man (thanks OKC!) who shares my poly-egalitarian ideals, and he is very special to me. We're enjoying each other's company and are looking forward to seeing what's ahead :)

I *love* the new poly book "More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory"; it is easily the most interesting and useful thing I've read on the subject thus far. If you need further convincing, it includes references to Emma Goldman, Neil deGrasse Tyson, *and* Douglas Adams! 'nuf said.
What I’m doing with my life
After spending too many years in school pursuing degrees in subjects that no longer brought me joy, I decided to try my hand at organic farming. I'm currently farming a small plot of rented land in the city but I'm not sure if I'll be able to make it a viable long-term thing. Essentially, I'm trying to find a balance between my values and paying the bills, but in a way that doesn't bore, hurt, or exhaust me. I'll be attending library school this fall to build a solid Plan C.

I love to grow, cook, preserve, and find creative ways to prepare food. I've worked in health food retail, sold my own produce and homemade preserves, and worked on organic farms. I have a couple of food-related jobs that shift with the seasons. My free time usually involves hanging out with friends, playing my banjo or manjo, cooking/canning/dehydrating food, or working on a variety of projects. That, and I recently joined a badminton club! Who knew something so awesome could exist?

I haven't had the chance to edit the last 2 paragraphs, so here's an update as of July 2016: due to a number of joint problems and repetitive strain injuries, farming is now a part-time-only thing. I might be putting it on hold after this year until my joints get sorted out. I've dropped my other food-related jobs and now work part-time in a library and part-time as a research consultant (who knew that was even a thing?!). It's interesting and challenging work, which I'm happy about, and both new jobs are much easier on my body (and bank account!). Oh, and I'm taking a break from badminton, too, after screwing up my shoulder in January.
I’m really good at
Critical thinking while also being very open-minded. Reading books while walking. Empathy.
The first things people usually notice about me
My tattoos, usually. Also, my eyes and the fact that I'm always smiling. I've been told that I have a "sunny" personality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything by Ivan E. Coyote, Dean Spade, or Douglas Adams. I feel drawn to material from/about the Appalachian region, such as works by Harriette Simpson Arnow and Mary Noailles Murfree. I like a lot of nonfiction as well, including Emma Goldman's "Living my Life" and various works on anarchist theory & practice (esp. Cindy Milstein), alternative relationships, discussions of gender/sexuality/queer issues, alternative mental health, prison abolition, some labour history, transformative justice, food politics... Oh, and Pride & Prejudice & Zombies. Obviously.

Movies/TV: I'm a sap for terrible rom-coms, and I really like British humour, sci-fi comedy, zombie and apocalyptic themes, and the occasional documentary.

Music: I'm generally pretty fond of DIY folk-punk, punk, folk, bluegrass... I love banjo music so much. Saves the Day and Chopin will always hold a special place in my heart.

Webcomics: xkcd, Homestar Runner (esp. Teen Girl Squad!), and sometimes PhD Comics.

Podcasts: Poly Weekly, The Ruminant, Vinyl Cafe, Grownups Read Things They Wrote as Kids, Tell Me Something Good...

Food: The quickest way to my heart is through Ben & Jerry's Chocolate Fudge Brownie ice cream or, if you're resourceful and can find any left in the world, Haagen Daaz's discontinued Mayan Chocolate ice cream (yes! with the cinnamon fudge swirl!). My heart breaks every time I think of it.
Six things I could never do without
Audiobooks, audiobooks, audiobooks, audiobooks, audiobooks, and audiobook reader Luke Daniels. Seriously. Sometimes his voice (circa 2009) is what gets me through the day. Without audiobooks, farming would be extremely boring. I listened to Neal Shusterman's "Unwind" (read by Luke Daniels) at least 3 times last summer and will keep adding it into the rotation forever.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Food & accessibility. Prefigurative politics & practice. The state of the world. Consent & boundaries. Accountability.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working, usually. Sometimes after work some friends and I go to the Elgin Street Diner so I can gaze at one of my crushes :P
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not private about this at all, but in 2008 I had my tubes tied to guarantee that I will never bear children. Thank fucking god. (This does not mean that I hate children! I love babies. Other people's babies.)

I should also mention that I have a pretty terrible memory. I can usually remember how I felt about a book I've read or a movie I've seen, but it's pretty unlikely that I'd be able to synopsize it for you!
You should message me if
You're welcome to message me if you think we might hit it off or find some sort of special connection, but I tend to ignore and/or delete (and/or troll) obnoxious or canned messages.

I want more people in my life who are trying to become the best possible versions of themselves, especially in terms of how they treat other people. My Myers-Briggs personality type is INFJ, which means I pretty much have a built-in asshole- and bullshit-radar and prefer to spend my time with people who are honest, caring, genuine, sincere, etc...
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