StL2LA2Sea
60Seattle, United States
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My self-summary
So this is where I'm supposed to tell (or make up) some things about me that I believe will attract a woman who I find attractive. Or I could just describe who I am and trust that a few words of truth and honesty will inspire a warm, lovely, emotionally available woman to fall all over herself to try to meet me. Nah! Actually, either alternative is a bit of a fool's errand when 70 percent of communication is nonverbal. Which is scientific justification for why men find pictures to be the most important part of a woman's profile. As if men need any justification, scientific or otherwise. But you are a woman. Or at least I hope you are. So for better or worse, I'm going to have to use my words.

Of course, women are human, too (or at least I hope you are), and now that you've taken a break to look at my pictures, what would you like to know? That I am warm, playful, and passionate but can find it challenging to be present at times because my greatest fear is that the people I love will not love me? That I am happy and funny (believe it or not), laugh frequently (and not just at my own jokes), and have a deep well of sadness that is the backdrop for the vibrant colors of my life? That people fascinate me, I long for connection, and I enjoy (indeed need) time alone? That I am an INFJ in Myers-Briggs speak who chose a profession known far more for logic, reason, and issues of the mind than caring, empathy, and the matters of the heart I value most? That my daughter is the light of my life who I am doing my best to enable to live independently of me?

Want consistency? You're looking in the wrong place. Searching for simple? That ain't me. Of course anyone wanting simple and consistent stopped reading this a long time ago. Which is a good thing. Better to find out we aren't a match -- despite what the percentage may say -- sooner rather than later. Nor do I want simple. Some consistency might be nice, though.

I want intimacy, the mutual willingness to reveal ourselves to each other. Simple to say, but in practice it is dizzyingly complex, incredibly difficult, and amazingly wonderful. 'Tis a consummation devoutly to be wished. To be open and vulnerable while showing what we think, how we feel, and who we are under the defenses we have layered around us to protect ourselves from ourselves. Intimacy is my holy grail. In the Monty Python sense. This summary is a small step onto the bridge that brings two people closer together. I welcome those who would join me. Especially if you bring your own coconuts.
What I’m doing with my life
I am working for the state in a job where I make a difference in people's lives, including my own; being the best parent I can be to my high school-aged daughter, by unfortunate necessity on a part-time basis; exercising my creativity to the extent time allows (currently writing a young adult novel); exploring who I am, both alone and in relationship with others; working on reducing my use of parentheticals (not very successfully)
I’m really good at
Listening without judging; writing, hopefully notwithstanding what I have written in this profile; being a positive force in my daughter's life; my job; being serious (which helps me be good at my job); not being serious (which helps with everything); whistling very loudly (which would come in handy in a dog park) (if I had a dog)
The first things people usually notice about me
My warmth. Even animals notice. I can't count the number of times a dog or cat has shown me affection and his/her owner has said, "He/she is never like that with strangers!" Not that I would keep count of something like that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love reading fiction, and favorites include A Prayer for Owen Meany, The Shadow of the Wind, and The Fault in Our Stars, although no one can approach Shakespeare for his use of language.

In movies, I tend to like romantic comedies, drama, animation, and action/adventure, with favorites such as Shakespeare in Love, When Harry Met Sally, How to Train Your Dragon, Avatar, and Pirates of the Caribbean. And let's not forget Monty Python and the Holy Grail. Classic romantic comedy. Or is it action/adventure? Definitely animation. Eat your heart out, Pixar.

I don't watch television (except for the occasional sporting event), although I liked Seinfeld and Friends back in the day, and the couple of episodes of the The Big Bang Theory I have seen online were funny.

I like a variety of music, particularly classical (especially Mozart, Haydn, and Beethoven), folk (Kate Rusby, Dar Williams) rock (Alanis Morrissette, Sara Bareilles), soundtracks (Forrest Gump, Pirates of the Caribbean, Shakespeare in Love), and the eclectic or miscellaneous (Pink Martini, Enya, the Chieftans). But I love to discover new music (and when I find something that strikes a responsive chord I will often listen to over and over again -- kinda like a toddler but more annoying), so I am open to listening to -- indeed anxious to hear -- music that others like.

I enjoy most kinds of food from the standard American fare to various European, Asian, and ethnic cuisines (with a special fondness for French, Italian, and Mexican). But I am game to try just about anything. Other than brussel sprouts. Just ask my mother. On second thought, that's probably not a good idea. It was a long time ago, but her memory is still pretty good.
Six things I could never do without
Love in all manifestations
Beauty in all forms
Connection of all types
Chocolate of all varieties
Humor
Touch
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why . . . .
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't have typical Friday nights. I have done something different on each of the last few Friday nights, including making dinner and watching a movie with my daughter; making dinner and watching a movie by myself; meeting with my book club; hiking and beachcombing in Discovery Park; writing my novel; going out to dinner with a friend; and going to the symphony on my own (I love classical music and am not going to refrain from enjoying concerts simply because I don't have someone to accompany me).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can think of nothing I would not be willing to tell someone who genuinely wants to know. Except my social security number. And my credit card information. Maybe my brussel sprouts story. Okay, there are probably lots of things I won't tell. But they don't include what makes me who I am.
You should message me if
You want to join me on the bridge. Or you are curious about anything in my profile. Other than brussel sprouts.
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