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My self-summary
I'm laid back, creative and tolerant. I try to be compassionate and non-judgmental towards others bc this is a tough ol' world sometimes, and who couldn't use a little occasional tenderness?

I've also been blessed with a passion for the arts, in particular visual arts and dance. In my wayward youth, I spent time working as a professional artist (that's "working as" not "earning money as" ;-).
I also clamored for dance classes (ballet, jazz) as a kid, and kept at it well into adulthood, adding belly-dancing and flamenco lessons along the way.

I am fortunate enough to enjoy deeply caring relationships with family, friends and colleagues. I'm comfortable with myself, independent and self-supporting, and I would welcome a passionate connection with the right man.

Interestingly, my "personality" tab here suggests that I'm slightly more old-fashioned than the average okcupid user. Hell, I don't think I'm old-fashioned. I don't even embarrass my son anymore.
What I’m doing with my life
Recently joined the Oregon state bar ass'n and am a lawyer in Portland. This is my third career out of the three we're all supposed to now have over the course of our lives. I love the type of intellectual reasoning required to interpret laws, and I love being an advocate. I'm grateful to have found a profession that will challenge and engage me for the rest of my working life.
I’m really good at
Listening. Kissing. Throwing back my head to laugh. And being goofy whenever I can.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea . . . my smile? my eyes? how my hair looks today? That's what I notice about me anyway. I should probably ask my friends about this one of these years.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: good non-fiction/investigative journalism, modern day noir mysteries (some great and gritty Irish and Brit series out there right now), well researched and well written historical novels. A good mystery set in another time and place is the best of both worlds. I read Harper's and the Atlantic for current events, despite the fact that the Atlantic sometimes irritates the hell out of me. I love good graphic novels. Good noir graphic novel series - Scalped, The Boys, 100 Bullets - top my list.

Movies: I tend to watch good series tv these days more often than I go to the movies. Old favorites are The Wire, Mad Men, Deadwood, Southland, Carnival. Current faves: True Detective, Orchid Black, Homeland, American Horror Story, Ray Donovan.

Love all types of food; I'm not a fussy eater as long as it tastes good. Draw the line at insects and certain internal organs though.

I have eclectic musical tastes that range through time and genre. I don't like today's pop music though. All sounds the same to me.
Six things I could never do without
My son
The rest of my wonderful family
My friends
Coffee, the elixir of life
My restless, curious brain
A sense of serenity
Whoops, that's seven. Oh well. Can't do without my mildly rebellious streak either.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
At the risk of sounding like a cliche, I think a lot about the unique journey we're all on. That's 6 billion+ unique journeys on this planet - not counting non-human species. Pretty amazing when you think about it.

I think about how important it is to maintain a sense of balance. To embrace joy and not turn away from pain, because really, you can't have one without the other. And by mid-life, we've all weathered our share of the latter.

I think about how blessed I am to have a small but wonderful family, and loyal, stand-up friends in my life. I'm grateful for the measure of peace I have with myself now.
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing at home with a good book or dvd, or out to dinner and/or music with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Wouldn't be private anymore then, would it.
You should message me if
You are self-aware, honest, intelligent, and comfortable in your own skin, and are secure and confident enough to appreciate the same in a woman.

You aren't intimidated by the fact that I'm a lawyer. I've held lots of jobs in my life, from waitress to academic, and I don't categorize people based on their education level or income.

You understand that real intimacy is about mutual chemistry, companionship, openness, and respect - deep friendship. And you know that sex is SO much better with one's best friend.
The two of us