StarsAndLightng
43 San Carlos, United States
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My self-summary
Caring, quirky, stylish, dynamic ISFP girl seeks partner for adventure, exercise, deep talks, funny banter, and silent nights watching a fire or listening to the crickets....

I could add that I'm pretty confident, not shy, energetic and talkative, generous with my affection and my belongings.... I am an introvert in that I gain energy from doing quieter things, but most of my co-workers, friends and family think I'm an extrovert...

I value authenticity --- I like when people express their true selves, in dress, feeling, and attitude. I am truly myself and I want to be with someone who is truly them self and I want to be honest and loving together, even if that means that things get real every so often... But we hang in there, trust each other, grow in the areas we need to for our self as well as for the other person and for our life together... That's the stuff of real love :)
What I’m doing with my life
My personal goals right now include saving for my own house/condo, slowing down and being present/receptive to subtleties of communication, as well expressive and open with my feelings.

Common weekly activities:
- Going on adventures and hanging out with my cute, funny kid. Making pancake breakfast, Netflix marathon, play dates, working on math and writing, playing tennis, and conquering one fear at a time.
- Getting dinner and a beer/cocktail with a friend
- Hanging with my family
- Working in government amongst people I really enjoy and learning how to be a better manager
- Taking walks, hiking, watching tv with my doggie
- Running about once a week at the gym
I’m really good at
- Cooking and grilling
- Simplifying my possessions
- Acting according to conscience
- Offering a different perspective
- Giving respect to all - elderly, young, all ethnicities, poor
- Being environmental
- Being spontaneous.... Such as squeezing in a spontaneous shopping trip or trip for boba/snack/coffee and being slightly late :)
- Getting everything done as fast as I can and then relaxing --- back to needing to slow down....
The first things people usually notice about me
Maybe that I'm pretty open, energetic, confident, and casual...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love to read Fiction: I loved Lazaretto (amazing post civil war era story that weaves in racial attitudes, plague, orphans, and love). Some of my favorites are Love May Fail, Bel Canto, and No Way To Treat A First Lady.

Love music: On my phone, I have an eclectic mix of hip hop, 90s grunge, 80s pop, Top 40s... Will always love The Cure, New Order, Lionel Richie, Prince, Maxwell. More recent artists that I like are Usher, Nicki Minaj (Pink Friday), Rhihana. And many many others from all genres.

Movies: I liked The Accountant, Begin Again, Friends with Kids, Lola Versus, Pride and Prejudice, Singles, Its Complicated

Tv: I don't actually watch very often, but generally love documentaries (Hip Hop Evolution on Netflix) and follow some reality shows. Hooked on This Is Us right now.

Food: I like all kinds of food, healthy/greasy, ethnic, and fine dining. BBQ, fried anything, and pie are always welcome :)
The six things I could never do without
- Sweets (pies, boba tea, fro yo)
- Veggies
- Warm things like blankets, warm coats etc
- Jeans
- Waffle/pancake/biscuit mix
- Gloss/Lip balm
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- What does my kid need to succeed? To have an awesome childhood?
- Focusing on my goals and strengths while reminding myself of areas needing growth
- How important it is to try to understand those who hold different views from yourself...... How people fabricate barriers to understanding and knowing others... Why??? There's so much kindness and love out there... Just gotta be the first to show it sometimes and it will spread....
On a typical Friday night I am
....When I have a free night, I would love to get coffee/eat dinner out and walk around in the night air and enjoy each other's company.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I find reality shows (3 in particular) extremely amusing, but I only watch them at my ex in-laws because they have all the good cable channels and this huge couch where I can veg out with my dog (who is cuddling with me under a blanket) :) I visit my ex inlaws once a week because my dog lives with them (big yard) and I still help out with various chores..... But, just in case there is any concern, my ex and I are friends and get along well as co-parents (no more)
You should message me if
.....You enjoy taking a walk around the neighborhood, as well as a trip to __________....
.....You learn more about yourself every day/month/year
.....You love strong women
.....You love deeps relationships and can open your heart completely
.....You love the idea of a committed, enduring, constantly growing relationship
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