StarsAndLightng
43San Carlos, United States
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My self-summary
Caring, quirky, stylish, dynamic ISFP girl seeks partner for adventure, exercise, deep talks, funny banter, and silent nights watching a fire or listening to the crickets....

I could add that I'm pretty confident, not shy, energetic, generous with my affection and my belongings.... I am an introvert in that I gain energy from doing quieter things, but most of my co-workers, friends and family think I'm an extrovert... When I am with friends and family even strangers, I am fully engaged, but I do need downtime after work or after a busy day to just veg out in my inner world :)
What I’m doing with my life
- Going on adventures and hanging out with my cute, funny kid. Making pancake breakfast, Netflix marathon, play dates, working on math and writing, playing tennis, and conquering one fear at a time.
- Getting dinner and a beer/cocktail with a friend
- Hanging with my family
- Working in government amongst people I really enjoy and learning how to be a better manager
- Taking walks, hiking, watching tv with my doggie
- Running about once a week at the gym
- Bigger Picture----- Holding it all together while trying to have a little fun and spreading love not judgement
I’m really good at
- Cooking and grilling
- Simplifying my possessions
- Acting according to conscience
- Offering a different perspective
- Giving respect to all - elderly, young, all ethnicities, poor
- Being environmental
- Being spontaneous.... Such as squeezing in a spontaneous shopping trip or trip for boba/snack/coffee and being slightly late :)
- Getting everything done as fast as I can and then relaxing
The first things people usually notice about me
Maybe that I'm pretty open, energetic, confident, and casual...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love to read Fiction: Really enjoyed Lazaretto (2016 post civil war era story that weaves in racial attitudes, plague, orphans, and love). I usually pick bestsellers with humorous, romantic or cultural (post civil war) story lines.

Love music: On my phone, I have a mix of hip hop, 90s grunge, 80s pop, Top 40s... Will always love The Cure, New Order, Lionel Richie, Prince, Maxwell. More recent artists that I like are Usher, Nicki Minaj (Pink Friday), Rihanna. And many many others from all genres.

Movies: I liked The Accountant, Begin Again, Friends with Kids, Lola Versus, Pride and Prejudice, Singles, Its Complicated

Tv: I don't actually watch very often, but generally love documentaries (Hip Hop Evolution on Netflix) and follow some reality shows. Hooked on This Is Us right now.

Food: I like all kinds of food, healthy/greasy, ethnic, and fine dining. BBQ, fried anything, and pie are always welcome :)
Six things I could never do without
- Sweets (pies, boba tea, fro yo)
- Veggies
- Warm things like blankets, warm coats etc
- Jeans
- Waffle/pancake/biscuit mix
- Gloss/Lip balm (but I don't wear any other make up)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- What does my kid need to succeed? To have an awesome childhood?
- Focusing on my goals and strengths while reminding myself of areas needing growth
- How important it is to try to understand those who hold different views from yourself...... How people fabricate barriers to understanding and knowing others... Why??? There's so much kindness and love out there... Just gotta be the first to show it sometimes and it will spread....
On a typical Friday night I am
....When I have a free night, I would love to get coffee/eat dinner out and walk around in the night air and enjoy each other's company.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I find reality shows (3 in particular) extremely amusing, but I only watch them at my ex in-laws because they have all the good cable channels and this huge couch where I can veg out with my dog (who is cuddling with me under a blanket) :) I visit my ex inlaws once a week because my dog lives with them (big yard) and I still help out with various chores..... But, just in case there is any concern, my ex and I are amicable and get along much better as co-parents
You should message me if
.....You enjoy taking a walk around the neighborhood, as well as a trip to __________....
.....You learn more about yourself every day/month/year
.....You love strong women and enjoy a lively conversation
.....Your heart and mind are open
.....You love the idea of a committed, enduring, constantly growing relationship
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