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My self-summary
Caveat: my pictures are not up to date since i just chopped off my long hair and beard after 15 years of looking like a new career is not conducive to long hair and facial hair. Will post new pictures when i have some.

First of all, i knooooow my summary and the like are pretty long winded, but i really like to put myself out there so i just consider it being thorough. Bear with me, I swear i am awesome when you get to know me! I understand there is context, perspective, and mitigating factors for everything which is why you'll see explanations for most of my match questions.

In general my needs are simple...the things that make me happiest in life are good food, good drink, good music, a good book, or a good (or enjoyably trashy) movie, a comfortable place to sleep at night, and above all good company. I suppose that makes me a bit of a hedonist. Recently in life I've also developed a need for feel good about what i do. More on that later.

I can be a pretty huge nerd on occasion, and enjoy my fair share of sci-fi/fantasy movies/tv/literature, and some video games (not nearly as many video games as i used to). I don't require that you enjoy these things as well, so long as you don't have a problem that i do.

My whole family is pretty heavily into folk-culture, especially folk music, dance, so i'm very proud of my scandinavian and irish heritage.

I was born and raised in Seattle, and while i love travelling when time and money permits, i always find myself drawn back here. I take issue with the stereotype of Seattlites being passive aggressive asshats, because i am typically aggressive aggressive when i have cause to be, and prefer being straight-forward, and to cut through the bullshit, though being polite never hurts. I enjoy the weather here for the most part, even grey skies for how they set off the green of the trees. I run a bit hot, so i prefer the cooler temperatures year round, and am most in my element in the snow, and the wind, and the rain...I love that we have easy access to mountains, lakes, rivers, the ocean, rain forests, wetlands, even deserts all in a day's drive or less.

I tend to most enjoy quiet laid back evenings...relaxing in a quiet pub over a drink and conversation, a home cooked dinner or dinner out and a movie night, or just a walk. However, if we get on well enough i can certainly enjoy the occasional dancing and romping, or a noisy show!

I am open minded, and flexible, but also i consider myself dependable. I hate to be flaky or late, unclear or ambiguous. In general i am a very positive and cheerful person with a ready smile (though i reserve the right to be a cynic from time to time), and am not afraid to laugh out loud, or even whip out the belly laugh if the occasion warrants. I enjoy giving and receiving back rubs, and great big bear hugs.

I enjoy most the people who are in touch with their inner child, and never take themselves too seriously. I like the weird, the eccentric, and the unique. I am attracted to strong women (strong in mind, body, and spirit) with a soft side...someone who knows their passions, and is not ashamed of anything...and a healthy helping of geekiness and/or a badonkadonk never hurt either ;-)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm in the ongoing process of making a rather dramatic transition from a sedentary office-bound structural engineering job to Fire Service. I'm in the process of getting my EMT certification, and will hopefully begin applying to local fire departments over the summer. This has been a long time coming, and is a very well thought out transition. Long story short, I got on the engineering track a long time ago and stuck with it through school and 3 years of work because it seemed like a practical thing to do, and i was too stubborn to stop and think about how much influence what i do in life has on my health and happiness. I have no delusions that fire service would be an easy job, but i'm looking for something to keep me active and healthy, while appealing to my more humanitarian sensibilities (emergency medicine and rescue is one of the most color/sex/creed/economic status/orientation blind infrastructures we have in this country, and the ability to help people at their moments of greatest need). The good benefits, vacation, and relatively early retirement don't hurt either ;-) My long term goals are to stay in Seattle, hopefully work for Seattle fire (though i'd settle for living in Seattle and commuting to a nearby municipality) and develop some kind of schedule that allows for a healthy amount of travel every year.
I’m really good at
Listening, taking it easy, back-rubs, cooking, sleeping in, watching movies, cuddling, being warm, walking, remembering things i've read or heard on NPR, articulating, showing up on time, thinking things out, reasoning and being reasonable, visualizing/imagining.
The first things people usually notice about me
That i am big and vikingesque, but notably friendly and mild mannered. Mostly i come across as quiet and contemplative, but in the right situation, or perhaps the right mood, i can be bawdy and outgoing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I was raised on Lord of the Rings, in the past years i've enjoyed such things as the Stieg Larsson series, Mary Roach, Christopher Moore, William Gibson, Dune, and i'm rereading the Song if Ice and Fire (George RR Martin).

Movies is not worth really getting into since i can enjoy most any genre of movie...drama, comedy, dramedy, action adventure, kung fu, sci-fi/fantasy, horror...i guess to name a few favorites: the Big Night, High Fidelity, Willow, Princess Bride, In Bruges, Wet Hot American Summer, Big Lebowski, Waking Ned Devine, kinkyboots, Everything is Illuminated, the Dish...i could really go on for a long time so let's just leave it at that. Oh, and i'm not afraid to admit i enjoy a couple jane austen flicks either...give me some of that old english snark any day!

For shows i've dabbled in most major sci-fi shows, and particularly enjoy the works of Joss Whedon. I have a soft spot for old cooking shows, and i love the Japanese Iron Chef and No Reservations with Anthony Bourdain. There are a few really fantastic HBO miniseries...I also enjoy a few adult swim shows such as Venture Bros and Archer. Nature shows, especially David Attenborough (life of birds, life of the undergrowth, etc). Oh yeah and mystery science theater. Dead Like Me, some Downton Abbey, MASH, Scrubs (first 6 seasons anyway), Battlestar Galactica, Ghost in the Shell. DAILY SHOW.

Music is as eclectic an answer as movies...i can find something to enjoy in pretty much any genre, and i come from a family of musicians...but i have a particular soft spot for folk music, and even folk music intersections with modern music...

Food is what i like to think of as my favorite form of appeals to all 5 senses and can appeal to both my imagination and my memory. Food can be a window into a cultures history and values, and can be used to express love or hospitality. I love to cook, and one of the first things i do when i go home to visit my parents is strap on an apron and start cooking while sipping aquavit. Some of my favorite dishes include beef stroganoff, braised oxtail, Shepherd's pie, my mom's lamb stew, and mac and cheese with truffle oil...for going out my favorites are thai, japanese, spanish, szechuan, Vietnamese, ethiopian, and brunch.
Six things I could never do without
Food, drink, sleep, family, satisfying work, good company.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything...unfortunately that means i over-think some things. The past few years have mostly been spent thinking about my future, what i'm doing now, what i want to do, and what's most important to me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going to happy hour and reading and then going to one of my favorite haunts with or without people. Watching sci-fi and/or playing games with my roommate. Movie nights with a bunch of friends and my projector. Dinner party...i like cooking for people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a pretty open book...if you can think of something to ask me i'll probably answer.
You should message me if
You've made it all the way through my lengthy profile and aren't bored yet ;-)
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