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My self-summary
Hi, I'm Jeff.

I'm in school to learn about computers and how to program with them.

I've got a story, we all do. You can hear about it on our date. I prefer coffee and chit-chat for a first date, but I'm open to sushi as well. Which do you prefer?
What I’m doing with my life
I work in a call center part time while I'm in school.

As above, programming is more my jam.

I will note, however, that I am not in CT long term. After I finish school (in the next 2-3 years) I am moving elsewhere, most likely south. Current plans are for the Carolinas or Texas, or somewhere in between.

If you want to spend your life in New England, then carry on being an awesome person. Swipe left, go back to the home page, or do whatever you need to do to find someone that suits you.

That said, if you're up for being together short term, we could have an amazing time together between now and then.
I’m really good at
Various things. I'm getting better at programming, and I'm generally considered above average in player versus player combat in many video games.

I like to read, but it's not really something you can be bad at.
The first things people usually notice about me
It varies. Make your own impression of me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy web novels. I spend much of my free time reading them. Favorites include:

Chinese: I Shall Seal The Heavens, Desolate Era, The Charm of Soul Pets, Warlock of the Magus World, Zhan Long, Shura's Wrath, and Swallowed Star.

Korean: Breakers, Emperor of Solo Play, Seoul Station's Necromancer, Legendary Moonlight Sculptor, and Reincarnator.

That's a small sample of a much larger number.

Movie genres are basically this: Fantasy, Science Fiction, Superhero. That is a gross generalization, however.

I don't watch TV, and I generally don't watch much on Netflix either. Sometimes I'll watch anime.

Music: Most genres of music I find acceptable, and there are exceptions for everything. Current favorites include Hardstyle and Nightcore.

Food. If there were a way to forgo food, I would absolutely choose to do so. Food is a chore. That said, I'm quite fond of sushi, pulled pork, pizza, and variations of pasta.
Six things I could never do without
Hot tea, comfy clothes, a reasonably safe home, the internet, books, things needed to survive.

Social interaction, currency (in whatever form it may take when it is relevant at the current time), heating, plumbing, central air, glasses.

That said, humans are incredibly adaptable and tenacious. We can eek out survival in the most ridiculous of conditions.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The best way to cultivate my Dao-heart.

Also, the massive misconception and confusion regarding messaging in online dating.

So, there are 2 primary schools of thought when it comes to messaging. The first group treat it like a conversation you would have in person.
Person 1: Hey
Person 2: Hi
1: How are you?
2: I'm well, you?
1: I'm good, [topic / reason for the message / I saw this in your profile, and I think... etc.]

As if you were meeting someone in person. Greetings, introduction, and so on.

The second group of people treat it like email.

Person 1: Hi, I'm [name]. [Compliments about profile and possible questions or suggestions regarding topics mentioned in profile.]

Person 2: Hi [name], I'm [name]. Thanks for your thoughts, but [topic, reasons, etc.]

Or perhaps the conversation goes elsewhere...

Person 2: You like them too!? OMG, have you heard...? I'm planning on x, y, and z, and so on.

A large disconnect is when group 1 and group 2 meet. Group 1 people try to talk to group 2 people like they do, and group 2 people get annoyed, because all they see is a message that says 'hi' or something short or otherwise not enough.

Group 1 people get annoyed by the veritable walls of text that group 2 people send. They're expecting a greeting, and get paragraphs.

Group 2 tends to be more vocal in their 'You should message me if' section. "Don't just say 'hi', ask me something, send me a message that shows you actually read what I wrote." Variations thereof.

Tertiary schools of thought include folks that aren't serious, or are generally too stupid to use the internet in a responsible manner when it comes to interacting with other humans.

These are generally the messages no one wants to receive, such as creepy requests from people old enough to be your parents (when it's clearly stated in your profile you aren't looking for someone that old), or the messages asking for nude pics, or the messages from the gender or orientation you aren't looking for. The list goes on, we've all had messages from people that are generally creepy or unwanted, sometimes lots of both.

There aren't really any guidelines for messaging. One of the other big issues is whether people are using the okcupid app on their phones or if they are on the okcupid website.

Some people I find aren't aware that both exist and so confusion arises from that. Usually it's a repeat of the 1 and 2 meeting, but other problems or situations arise as well.

It goes on, this is what occupies my thoughts in the shower, in the car, or when the situation doesn't require extreme amounts of critical thinking or attention.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing homework or working. Such is life.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't do: Nature, Insects, or Arachnids of any sort.
You should message me if
You should message me if you want to.

Let's make this easier, here's a question for you.

What type of book do you like to read?

If you don't like to read, you are missing out. Here's a different question for you.

If you could choose any superpower to have, what would you choose?

Send me a message with your answer to one or both questions, or with a question of your own. I'd be happy to discuss whenever you're feeling up for it.

If your profile and/or message is riddled with spelling mistakes and missing letters, I'm very unlikely to respond.
The two of us