I'm not in a rush to get into anybody’s pants, I want to get to know you and find that chemistry before we get there. That said, I AM looking for a lover. I realize I'm probably looking for something even rarer than the proverbial unicorn – an interesting person with a brain and a sex drive plus mutual attraction - basically a good friend with benefits with the emphasis on the “Friend” part – though the benefits part is also important.
I have many varied interests from Buddhism to quantum mechanics to Jungian thought to liberal politics to cooking with side-tracks to organic gardening, crafts, boat building (dories), remodeling, computers, river running, Wilderness and most especially reading and books. Music, some politics, and movies are all good additives.- and that doesn't touch the list. I want you to stretch my mind and worldview as well as turn me on. I want a unique person who enriches my life as much as I enrich theirs.
Probably the biggest thing on all my lists is reading - books, real books (not e-books) rule! I have a 20,000+ book library, even if most of it is currently in boxes. Aside from Science Fiction and some Fantasy, I adore reading classics, interesting novels and a great deal of non-fiction running the gamut of subjects from Jungian psychology to Deep Ecology to history, technology and especially science. Fiction authors I'm currently reading are S.M. Stirling, Jack McDivitt, Harry Turtledove, David Brin, Stephen King, Barbara Kingsolver, Larry Niven... you get some idea perhaps. My video collection isn't as large, but covers the range of Like Water For Chocolate, Shakespeare in Love, a wide range of documentaries, Coen Brothers movies, classics like Casablanca, sci-fi, LOTR, Quentin Tarantino, Ridley Scott, Firefly, and damn near everything in between... On a more serious note are things like "The Case for Mars", Feynman's Lectures on Quantum Electrodynamics, TED videos, and everything from Sleepless in Seattle to Pulp Fiction.
Wilderness and the outdoors are very important to me. I hiked the whole Appalachian Trail in 1980 from Georgia to Maine, was (past tense) a very serious rock and ice climber, mountaineer, skier, and hiker for years before my knees and shoulders took too much damage and still consider Wilderness the cathedral of my true spirituality. Yes, I AM a treehugger and nature worshipper!
I'm politically becoming more liberal with age despite starting out fairly liberal to begin with. I had high hopes for the Occupy movement, but they seem to have lost focus. If you lean right on your politics or are a libertarian in all but cannabis laws, gun laws, and foreign imperialism, no need to look me up. I’m pro-gay marriage, pro-privacy, pro-sex, pro-individual rights, and pro-transparency in government and if you oppose these views we probably won’t get along. I don’t have any desire to talk politics with a lover, but just saying that if you’re a Jesus-jumping, anti-choice, anti-gay marriage, pro-US interventionalist, we aren’t going to get along.
I do my best to express the Buddhist precepts of Loving/Kindness and Compassion. I am affectionate, intellectual, loving, respectful, assertive, tactile, oral, extremely verbal... oh yeah, did I mention very sexual? I figured that was a given.
Physically I'm 6' and 170# and pretty fit. I came to Colorado for the skiing, climbing, kayaking and other outdoor activities. I still am active outdoors, though now primarily camping, exploring back roads, day hiking and whitewater rafting. I still wear the same waist size I did at 18 and I don't have a gut that hangs over so I guess I'm in good shape. Used to ski and was a very serious climber, but now I'm a poster-child for trashed knees and shoulders. I still like the outdoors in every way I can get it - it IS church you know.
I tend to like women who are natural, into the outdoors, a bit nerdy or geeky - if you're a hippie chick (of whatever age) or into alternative spiritual or health practices, artsy stuff, and a wilderness and outdoors freak - you're my kinda woman. If you're comfortable in jeans and comfy clothes, hiking boots, spending a week running a river or finding out where that road goes, you're my kind of woman. If you practice Buddhism, taoism, paganism in various forms and scientific atheism or agnostiscism, you're my kind of woman. If you dig LOTR, Firefly, Star Trek, Mythbusters, maybe know who Richard Feynman was and especially if you read books, you're my kind of woman. Most especially if you love a good, spicy flirtation. I'm certainly not adverse to a woman who likes to wear short skirts and no panties either...
I am NOT promiscuous and am seeking women who are interested in something less than marriage and living together but more than a one night stand. I don't really do casual sex (unless the chemistry is blindingly uncontrollable) and I hope for an ongoing friendship, shared mutual interests, and hopefully some fun. I suppose it would be most appropriate to find another poly-friendly woman who already has a primary partner. I am certainly open to single women.
I'm in the midst of reinventing myself after over 30 years in the computer and IT field. Now I'm fabricating fine furniture and art pieces at the shop of a well-known artist near Boulder and loving it as well as doing some computer and engineering consulting work. I also do some minor part time jobs like help a buddy run his liquor store. On the intellectual side I do custom electronics and microcontroller software - for things like hydroponics, alternative energy, guitar effects processing, home automation and such. I don't know if this is where I'll land, but it is far more satisfying than filling out TPS reports and working for 8 different bosses at something with no soul. I've been involved in engineering my entire professional life, but that field and computers in general have become so corporate and bound by rules, regulations, bean counters, and corporate HR people that it is very difficult to find a job where the company has a soul and I have the ability to express my creativity without compromise.
Aside from reinventing my career, I have a wide range of passions and deep interests. I'm currently finishing up my forth comprehensive green remodel in the last 20 years. I have deep interests in the tiny house movement, passive solar design, carpentry and remodeling work, alternative energy, sustainable living and the whole gamut of related trades. The worst thing in my life is that I cannot have a garden where I live due to water restrictions. I'm lost without at least a few heirloom tomatoes every year.
At the same time, just because we're not potential lovers doesn't mean we shouldn't have a conversation. One can never have too many friends for interesting conversation.
By the way, while I am hoping to find a lover, I am far more interested in finding interesting friends with common interests.