35 Durham, United States
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My self-summary
Do you have any idea how difficult it is to burn books properly? A small, secluded fire on the beach is scenic, but – it turns out – slow and unsafe. Using a little, old wood stove? The fire just stutters. The tool for the deed, in case this comes in handy for you, is a hefty barrel stove big enough to sustain the flames and enclosed enough to rein in the flaming pages. A little wood helps things along, too.

Yes, I'm going to leave it mysterious here how I discovered this, but I assure you it was not censorship.

On the more serious side…
I treasure instinctive openness, trust, respect, and joy. I strive to live thoroughly with integrity, and I find that it comes smoothly out of these traits.

I’m looking to connect with someone at a gut emotional level, threaded with emotional, intellectual, and physical vibrancy. I value direct honesty about difficult things – demonstrating that our connection is worth investing in, that we share enough trust to be vulnerable together. I find that having such emotional intimacy with another person encourages me to confront uncomfortable parts of myself and continue growing in ways I value.

(My holdover three adjectives from the old layout, which OKCupid kindly pasted here: I am inquisitive, self-propelled, and mostly insoluble.)
What I’m doing with my life
In the long term, I want to help avert the most catastrophic effects of climate change for people by helping everyday folks move toward more sustainable energy use. My training is in ecology and biogeochemistry, and for the last few years I've supported education about sustainability at a university and worked as a science communicator for researchers studying toxic chemicals and their health effects.

Also, I haven't looked back since I started dancing. These days that includes contra dancing, calling (teaching) contra dances, teaching and at times performing aerial dance on fabrics, the occasional blues dance...

In the spring, my front-yard native plant restoration project pulls me in before I get up the steps to the door. I find that about ten seconds working in the garden bring me solidly into the present moment, especially in seasons that are all about possibility and growth.
I’m really good at
-Staying up late despite my promise to myself to go to bed early
-Giving warm snuggle-able hugs
-Helping my friends come to clarity about things they’re puzzling through
-Thinking like a scientist
-Staying mostly warm and/or dry on my bicycle in inclement weather
-Cooking lentil stew
-Living without electricity or running water on an occasional basis
-Writing grant proposals
-Dancing as both a lead and a follow. Dancing!
-Decking out my bicycle to be a flashing, glowing paragon of visibility
-Getting the hiccups from eating dry bread. This is obnoxious on my end, trust me.
The first things people usually notice about me
-my genuine smile lighting up my face
-my fact-driven, analytical approach
…I've recently had confirmation of the second, at least.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: Tart apple pie; fresh fruit bursting with sweet tanginess; carrots from the market; lentil stew; good cheese (although I rarely buy it); homemade granola; Locopops; dark chocolate; ginger; sweet potato fries with rosemary and garlic; something homemade, vegetarian, and yummy.

Music: Hanneke Cassel, Alasdair Fraser, the Peatbog Faeries, and smoking hot grooving contra dance bands. Put fiddle and drums together and I will probably like it. David Francey, Antje Duvekot, Dar Williams, and Argentine tango music. I really should include the song ‘Come On, Eileen’ here, too, for reasons that will be apparent when we meet.

Books: many by Lois McMaster Bujold; The Sparrow; Last Chance to See; Cradle to Cradle. The New York Times, though not a book, is highly satisfying to read in print.

Movies: Galaxy Quest, Strictly Ballroom, Spirited Away, Before the Rain. Movies I like don’t stick in my head well, though. Eddie Izzard’s standup shows, especially Dress to Kill.

Podcasts: Wait, Wait, Don’t Tell Me; This American Life; Planet Money; RadioLab.

On the TV front, I tend to forget that they exist...
The six things I could never do without
Hugs, dancing, analysis, wilderness vacations, smiling with delight, integrity... and a number of very important things I’m taking for granted right now.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
politics and other news; being mindful of oppression & privilege; preventing the worst of climate change; and being grateful for beautiful days, warm people, dancing, and tasty food.
On a typical Friday night I am
I’ll be dancing with glee -- probably at the contra dance, once in a while at the blues dance, always with joy. Saturday nights, on the other hand, I often spend quietly at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don’t own a car because if I had one, I’d succumb to temptation and use it. (The bigger ‘because’ has to do with climate change, but that’s not terribly private.)

Also, my initials are E.T. Consequently, my mother gave me "E.T. phone home" shoelaces years and years ago when I went away to college. I still have them.

I want to apologize in advance if I do not write back to you. Using OKCupid has revealed the uncomfortable truth that I can be a terrible correspondent with strangers.
You should message me if
-you like playing in the dirt and/or the woods;
-you love dancing, too;
-you’re momentarily overcome when you bite into a ripe sungold tomato (or blueberries or tangy apple pie);
-you think about social or environmental implications of choices you make (or you're otherwise civically involved);
-you see respect and openness as so fundamental that you almost don't remember to identify them in yourself;
-wandering around taking silly photos in unanticipated places would be fun.

It's a large plus if you live in Durham, as my transportation is constrained by my bicycle.