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My self-summary
So I've been in this site for nearly ten years now. It has brought a lot of good into my life and enabled some very important connections. For this I'm grateful and both grateful and surprised, surprised that it still feels fresh and I keep meeting new, interesting people.

The few times I have (unwittingly at first) fallen into any patterns of monogamy have been few and, ultimately, disastrous. I never had a steady girlfriend until I met my current partner. This was first due to circumstance and unrequited love and, later, to acceptance and a general love of the situation. I have, however, fostered many long lasting relationships that continue to grow to this day. Whether I happen to have sex with these people or not, well that's between them and I, but I'll happily talk about it if asked.

I'm now living a marvellous and exciting time in my life with my partner. I'm not overtly fond of certain recurring words and clichés that you'll see me artfully skirting (ie: primary partner/ polyamory, etc). We are merried (my favoured word) and we are incredibly happy in our intimacy, while also exploring intimacy and connection elsewhere. This is where I'm at.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm involved in a variety of projects related to Communication, Social Justice and Environmental Sustainability. Hit me up and I'll tell you about them.

I also write, play and record music, it's all done at home, although I would love to play all this stuff live with people someday, somewhere...
I’m really good at
I'm a wild synesthete. This is both good and bad, it comes in very handy in being able to see the big picture and how to get there.

I'm very good at listening, it took me many years to get there . I feel good about helping people I care for.

Otherwise, I'm very good at being self-taught. I'm more than competent at writing, playing guitar and percussion, translating, public speaking, DJ'ing, design and other things I've found myself doing, both for fun and professionally... albeit in a idiosyncratic way.
The first things people usually notice about me
It seems that people, at first, either love me or hate me... Most of my good friends are the ones who detested me when they first met me, waiters in bars definitively do hate me, even though I try to be very kind to them. Always.

After asking around, the recurring answer seems to be "tall and dodgy". I can live with that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fiction: Kurt Vonnegut, Samuel R Delaney, Ursula Le Guin, Margaret Atwood, Iain Banks, Neal Stephenson, Joseph Heller, Pynchon,

Non fiction: Robert Anton Wilson; Alan Watts, David Bohm, Eric Fromm, Douglas Rushkoff, Charles Eisenstein, Arundhati Roy,

Film: Kubrick, Scorsese, Coppola, Lucas (And don't be so fucking obvious and NEVER forget American Graffiti!) Herzog, Kurosawa...

Tv: The Wire, Red Dwarf, Deadwood, Conchords, Penn and Teller's Bullshit, Ghost in the Shell S.A.C. I thought BSG had the potential to be one of the most relevant works of fiction of all time. On first watching I really thought that they had totally fucked it up by the end, but rewatching it all in a row I actually thought they wrapped it up admirably. I prefer enjoying things to hating them, so I am happy with this develoment.

C) Like: Zappa, Miles, Joni Mitchell, Chris Whitley, Coltrane, Jane's Addiction, the MC5, Crimson, Spirit, Zep, Hendrix, The Who, Television, AIC, Screaming Trees, Archie Shepp, McKinley Morganfield, Ali Farka Toure, Tim Buckley & son, Pj Harvey, Public Enemy, Grandmaster Flash, Mahavishnu, Booker T & the MG's, Sex Pistols, James Brown, Funkadelic, Medeski Martin and Wood, Eric Dolphy, Black Sabbath, Eddie Cochran, Stooges, Kyuss, Rollins Band, Early Chilli Peppers, P.I.L; Weird Al, Violent Femmes, Primus, Neil Young, Living Colour, Van Der Graaf Generator, Pata Negra, The Wicked Pickett, Spinal Tap, Veneno, Urban Dance Squad, Tony Bennett, Bowie, Todd Rundgren, Mastodon, Thin Lizzy, Terence Trent D'Arby, Keziah Jones, Temple of the Dog, 70's Stevie Wonder, Soundgarden, Allman Bros, Steely Dan, Albert Ayler, Sonny Sharrock, Sonic Youth, Sly and the Family Stone, Shuggie Otis, Secret Machines, Sepultura, Faith No More, Mike Watt, NIN, Love, King's X, Sex Mob, The Rev Al Green, Fishbone, Dj Logic, Art Ensemble of Chicago....

Look, I truly believe in the timelessness of good music. If it was hip in 1932, I assure you it's hip now. The more I listen to free jazz, the more I enjoy AC/DC, which makes some people very pissed at me and, believe me, I love it.

d) Home cooked!
Six things I could never do without
Things which are outside of my control.

I try not to get too attached to anything, but, being human, my "weaknesses" (And one person's weakness is another's charm) are: Music, the universe, love (and, specially, the incredible person I live with), my dogs, open communication and sex.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
P2P as applied to both personal and social change. Elliptical Orbits. Contrast and balance... Music, the convergence of crises, geo politics and the underlying systemic causes of what's going on. Perception. Politics, occupations and revolutions.

I'm wildly synesthetic, so all of these terms are colours to me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Here or There.

I could be somewhat nostalgic about the typicality of the Friday nights of yore. I actually have no idea, my work schedule has pretty much fucked up any sociably comprehensible concept of "Weekend"
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Is splattered all over this text. Feel free to ask, I like being expansive and explorative with my answers
You should message me if
You want to engage with me, exchange words and see where that leads. As I've said, I'm always surprised at what connections that started in this site have led to. Madrid is my approximate location, I go there often enough, but I travel a lot, specially within Europe, and I'm always happy to meet people in my travels. Say hello!
The two of us