68West Linn, United States
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My self-summary
I've learned to assess whether we share an appropriate level of intellectual rapport, an affirming political affinity, the hint of sexual chemistry, reasonably compatible interests, complementary life goals, and the rare sense of humor that tickles my funny bone. If I don't sense most of these are present, I won't respond to your email or chat requests. If my intuition suggests we share these, you might hear from me first.

Wouldn't it be awesome if we could learn to recognize when an authentic heart connection is possible? I wonder what it would take to develop this super power. If you're someone who genuinely seeks a life of shared joys and sorrows, then let's stop settling for all these temporary stop gap solutions that never feed our deepest desires for such a connection.

I'd like to honor the best of the hopes and dreams that brought us here. Without abandoning all other criteria, are you willing to explore beyond our intellectual, political, and lifestyle compatibilities? Are you capable of taking the time to go deeply into a friendship before seeking to become romantically involved and sexually intimate? If this resonates for you, I'd love to hear from you.

I look forward to meeting any men who still desire passion in their lives. But if your desire is not tempered with the patience that comes from maturity, you're probably not the one for me. To avoid disappointing both of us I will no longer be answering emails from those who are obviously still looking for that quick fix. While I appreciate your compliments, I prefer an effort to connect from a more heart-centered place.

I tried removing the most sexually suggestive responses previously found on my profile to help you focus on the process of making a heart connection without the powerful distraction of any projected fantasies but I got tired of all the self-censoring. If I can't be real at this stage of life, when will it be acceptable? I'd still like to discourage those in search of instant gratification however, so if that's your goal, best of luck in finding what you seek. I'm in search of the more sustainable satisfactions.

And to the rest of you on this search with me - Enjoy!!

Academic adventurer, blues buff, bi-sensual though not bi-sexual, creative, discriminating, enthusiastically engaged in each encounter, financially flexible for foreseeable future, genuine, honest, hedonistic, intellectual, idealistic, jazz junkie, kind (at some K frequency), literate rarely literal, more often metaphorical, myopic, musical, neither HWP nor nubile, optimistic, passionately present with a polyamorous past, quirky, Rubenesque, suddenly sixty-ish (how did that happen?), sensual, selectively sexual, spiritual, treasure, unique, verbal perhaps verbose, wonder (full of), (e)xuberant, youthful, zany.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm hooked on books, immersed in verse, mired in metaphors. When I'm not reading, I'm writing. Catching the latest independent film, art exhibition, live jazz, blues, bluegrass, or folk music performances. Planning long road trips and then going spontaneously off track. Soaking in hot springs. Camping under the stars at three day music festivals. Exploring our National Wildlife Refuges on my travels. Subverting the dominant paradigm. Asking probing question of myself and others. Organizing book clubs, dreaming up workshops, participating in salons to raise the level of discourse in my local community.
I’m really good at
Discovering the connection between the small details and the big picture, making sense of the personal and the political.

Looking for needles in haystacks. Separating the wheat from the chaff.
The first things people usually notice about me
The curl in the middle of my forehead? My hair tends to be how I'm most frequently remembered.

"And when she was good
She was very, very good..."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Getting Real: 10 Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life, If the Buddha Dated, Nonviolent Communication, and of course, beautifully crafted works of fiction.

Films: Everything from "Adaptation" to " Z"

Music: Blues, Jazz, Classical, 60's Rock, R&B, Folk, Bluegrass. Anything that lends itself to singing (even country-western) and dancing (though I seriously need lessons if it requires a partner).

Food: Ethnic (sushi, Thai, Japanese, Ethiopian, Indonesian, Greek, Italian, French)
Six things I could never do without
My iPhone, my iPod, my ISP, my iNstincts and my iDealism (and my apparent iNability to count to 6!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why am I here? How do I want to use the time I've been allotted?
On a typical Friday night I am
usually alternating between social events and solo events. Both have something to offer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm very fond of exploratory questions and pay careful attention to the answers.
You should message me if
You would enjoy a good conversation. That could be over a glass of wine, a mug of root beer, or cup of coffee (chai, latté, or mocha). The beverage n'importe pas, eh? Or we could simply saunter down the waterfront, people-watching, telling stories about who we are and were we've been before this day.

Things always begin with the chemistry of friendship. I bring no expectations of more than friendship yet I always arrive with an unwavering optimism that something more can often be found in the most unexpected places, at the least likely times, with someone with whom there is the potential for a deeper connection.
The two of us