Wouldn't it be awesome if we could learn to recognize when an authentic heart connection is possible? I wonder what it would take to develop this super power. If you're someone who genuinely seeks a life of shared joys and sorrows, then let's stop settling for all these temporary stop gap solutions that never feed our deepest desires for such a connection.
I'd like to honor the best of the hopes and dreams that brought us here. Without abandoning all other criteria, are you willing to explore beyond our intellectual, political, and lifestyle compatibilities? Are you capable of taking the time to go deeply into a friendship before seeking to become romantically involved and sexually intimate? If this resonates for you, I'd love to hear from you.
I look forward to meeting any men who still desire passion in their lives. But if your desire is not tempered with the patience that comes from maturity, you're probably not the one for me. To avoid disappointing both of us I will no longer be answering emails from those who are obviously still looking for that quick fix. While I appreciate your compliments, I prefer an effort to connect from a more heart-centered place.
I tried removing the most sexually suggestive responses previously found on my profile to help you focus on the process of making a heart connection without the powerful distraction of any projected fantasies but I got tired of all the self-censoring. If I can't be real at this stage of life, when will it be acceptable? I'd still like to discourage those in search of instant gratification however, so if that's your goal, best of luck in finding what you seek. I'm in search of the more sustainable satisfactions.
And to the rest of you on this search with me - Enjoy!!
Academic adventurer, blues buff, bi-sensual though not bi-sexual, creative, discriminating, enthusiastically engaged in each encounter, financially flexible for foreseeable future, genuine, honest, hedonistic, intellectual, idealistic, jazz junkie, kind (at some K frequency), literate rarely literal, more often metaphorical, myopic, musical, neither HWP nor nubile, optimistic, passionately present with a polyamorous past, quirky, Rubenesque, suddenly sixty-ish (how did that happen?), sensual, selectively sexual, spiritual, treasure, unique, verbal perhaps verbose, wonder (full of), (e)xuberant, youthful, zany.
Looking for needles in haystacks. Separating the wheat from the chaff.
"And when she was good
She was very, very good..."
Films: Everything from "Adaptation" to " Z"
Music: Blues, Jazz, Classical, 60's Rock, R&B, Folk, Bluegrass. Anything that lends itself to singing (even country-western) and dancing (though I seriously need lessons if it requires a partner).
Food: Ethnic (sushi, Thai, Japanese, Ethiopian, Indonesian, Greek, Italian, French)
Things always begin with the chemistry of friendship. I bring no expectations of more than friendship yet I always arrive with an unwavering optimism that something more can often be found in the most unexpected places, at the least likely times, with someone with whom there is the potential for a deeper connection.