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My self-summary
New York State of Mind.

Thinking Differently.

Seeing the world in shades of gray.

I think that most things are fluid, not black and white, from politics to personalities to sexualities to genders and just about everything. Most things are on a spectrum.


Normal is an illusion. What is normal to the spider is chaos to the fly.
What I’m doing with my life
Living and working in the city.

Enjoying each day. Today is the youngest you'll ever be, right?

Recently ran the NYC marathon, now back to basketball.

Continuing the adventure that is living in New York, with a few trips each year.

Recent travels in the past few years include San Fran, Savannah, GA, Las Vegas, Death Valley, Grand Canyon, Seattle/Portland/Spokane and Northern Idaho, Erie/Buffalo/Niagara Falls, Memphis, Montreal, and New Orleans. Dublin and Belfast.

Doing business consulting now, education in the future, and all sorts of other things in between and along the way. Life has more than one act.
I’m really good at
Basketball, although "really good" is very relative.

I've got a great sense of direction. Whether it's in NYC, or some other random place, I find my way around pretty well, map or no map.

Connecting with people.

Remembering interesting/obscure facts and stories. Sometimes interesting, sometimes useless.

Know anything about Myers Briggs? I'm a believer. And an ENFP, with a strong N.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height. I'm 6'4.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books? The Alchemist was great. Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil. Sex at Dawn. Opening Up. Dan Savage columns. GGG.

Music: A little bit of everything...Billy Joel, Jay Z, Lady Gaga, Kanye West, U2, Bruce Springsteen, OAR, 80' music.

I've started going to traditional Irish music sessions in NYC which is a great time.

Also a fan of NPR.
Six things I could never do without
Friends, Family, NYTimes (news junkie), Internet (sad but true) Alarm clocks (I'm not a morning person, but I play one on TV), Passport.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I'll be up to tonight, and the rest of the week.

What the next adventure is. Where the next travel destination could be.

Monogamish relationships. Ethical Non-Monogamy. Open relationships.

The meaning of certain words. Words are symbols that represent different meanings, and if one word can have 25 different meanings to 25 different people it can be tricky! For example, the word queer.

What life will be like in 5 years.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out with some group of friends. And it really varies. There are college friends, work friends, NYC friends, international friends, traditional Irish music friends, hipster type friends, running friends, basketball friends and on and on.

Then sometimes there are costume/kinky/fetish party friends. Think sexy and fun at upscale NYC venues. Some of the costumes and outfits are amazing. It's like burlesque, but better, and anyone can dress up a bit. I've been told my legs aren't bad in fishnets but I don't know about that.

I'm pretty well rounded. I fit a little bit into every box, but not completely in any box. And I love that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once lost a bet that involved Victoria's Secret.

Funny story and more comfortable than expected. : P
You should message me if
You liked my profile and pictures.
You think we'd connect well and have some chemistry.
And if you like good conversation.
The word heteroflexible doesn't bother you.
The two of us