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My self-summary

I know who I am, and I'm clear about my life mission - to awaken myself and those I encounter, remove the constrictions that obstruct the full flow of life, and guide us all "back home" to peace, awareness, and ecstasy. I'm a counselor, workshop leader, author, and spiritual guide.

I've been studying and teaching spirituality and sacred sexuality from the ancient tantric perspective for 26 years in the U.S., Europe, and India. I apprenticed to, and spent years in deep meditation with, a great Indian vedic Master, who initiated me and eventually sent me out to share this profound knowledge. I've taught thousands of people:

* Meditation/yoga for Self-realization (dive inward - transcend - wake up and remember who you really are - the infinite silence of pure consciousness);

* Tantra for God-realization (expand outward - embrace the unbounded dynamism of the universe - God and Goddess in ecstatic cosmic union);

* Vedanta for Unity (integrate these two - inner silence and outer dynamism - for wholeness of life).

I've been a counselor for 26 years, working with individuals, couples, and organizations - specializing in issues of personal identity, sexuality, power, relationship, communication, healing, and spiritual growth. I'm a well-known educator in the field of non-traditional, exploratory relationship styles and their use to create ideal relationship - including darkside exploration (befriending and harnessing - rather than denying - our "shadow" side to create wholeness), power exchange (surrender and devotion - to culture the heart and create powerful polarity), and fantasy fulfillment (saying "yes" to our desires in safe, healing, life-affirming ways).

I've led hundreds of workshops internationally, and have been an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies. I'm also an author, and I've taught on the faculty of 6 universities and 8 educational foundations.

As a counselor/spiritual guide (Ph.D.), drawing upon my extensive Eastern and Western training, I've created innovative, powerful, rapid methods of healing our old wounds (emotional/physical constrictions to success and happiness), and of turning off our old life-sabotaging programming, so we can unfold the richness of our full masculine and feminine energies, harmonize our needs for intimacy and space, integrate our sexuality/love/spirituality, and live ecstasy in our daily life.

I'm masculine, confident, experienced, and very good at what I do - but I don't have a big ego about it; I use my gifts and understanding to be of service. I'm also loving, compassionate, intuitive, sensitive, artistic, romantic - and very focussed on my beloved!

For entertainment I love to: sing and play piano (I've performed publicly hundreds of times) and write songs; go partner dancing (ballroom/Latin/swing/Argentine tango - I teach these); take photographs of beauty (to indulge my voyeuristic side); run drum circles; give/receive massage; make love to the heart and soul of a woman/goddess as an act of worship. I can also ride horses, hike into the wilderness, repair houses, defend my loved ones (I fought in the NCAA Nationals in karate), cook, drive a bus or motorcycle, and play a mean game of pool.

I'm an adventurer, an explorer of the whole range of life. I've healed a lot of my stuff so I'm pretty game-free. I'm not afraid of intimacy, commitment, revealing myself, control and surrender, the dark side, or your feminine power and passion. Bring it on!

I'll take you where you've always dreamed of going, create ecstatic experiences that you know you deserve, and touch that deep, sacred place in you that you long to surrender to a man. In return, you'll invite me to swim in the huge ocean of your feminine. Relationship is about bringing out the best in each other, the vastness, the god/goddess that we already are deep within. Let's connect and share that.


You are a woman and proud of it. You long to reveal ALL your feminine flavors:

1 wild and alive,

2 sensual and erotic,

3 powerful and surrendering,

4 nourishing and loving,

5 expressive and creative,

6 intuitive and healing,

7 unbounded and divine.

You're an adventurer, an explorer of life. You embrace your dark and light sides and everything in between. You're a spiritual seeker - on the path to discover who you really are.

You enjoy deep intimacy, yet aren't afraid to be alone with yourself. You're loving, compassionate, and alive/happy/optimistic. You like giving and serving just as much as receiving. You like/respect/trust good men and want to find a worthy, appreciative one to receive your love/devotion/passion. Your inner masculine and feminine are at peace and serve each other.

You've remembered how to be powerful and dynamic in your feminine without being masculine. You're not afraid to SHOW your feminine power. I'm the man who won't be blown away by your power, intimacy, commitment, sensuality, intensity, femininity, or abilities.

You enjoy looking deep into your lover's eyes and having him look deep into yours and really see you at your core.

You use relationship to see how big/vast/divine we really can be, to unfold the god/goddess waiting there within us, to see how much flow of life/love/ecstasy we can handle together.

You love romantic walks in nature, close dancing, being serenaded, candlelit hot tubs, sensual massage, long slow deep kisses that go on forever, and surrendering into the sensations and heart expansion that leave you breathless, into the energy connection and heights of orgasmic release that make you cry with delight. (You enjoy having the same effect on me.)

You desire a man who'll inspire you to let go; who'll touch and love that deep, sacred, blissful place at the core of your being; who'll create the ecstatic experiences that you deserve; who'll worship and unfold the goddess in you, while you worship and unfold the god in him. I am here for you.

I am self-aware, masculine, and sensual.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm helping people wake up and remember who they are 'inside' - infinite, unbounded, beyond time and space, eternal, peace, the Self.

I'm helping people expand and remember their true status 'outside' - huge, vast, unbounded, ecstatic, divine, god/goddess.

I'm helping people know the wholeness that unifies these two fields of life.

In a nutshell, everything I do, in one way or another, is to help remove the constrictions to the full flow of life - be they physical, mental/emotional, or spiritual...in me, in those I love, in everyone.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(a) Books I've Enjoyed:
The Holographic Universe, by Michael Talbot
Getting the Love You Want, by Harville Hendrix
Mercenaries of Gor, by John Norman
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy, by Margo Anand
The Yoga Vasistha, by Maharishi Vasistha
Tantric Love, by Sarita and Geho
Worlds in Collision, by Velikovsky
Different Loving, by Gloria Blame
On the Bhagavad Gita, by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi
The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, by Alistair Shearer
The Truth in Money Book, by Thoren & Warner
Sexual Secrets, by Nik Douglas & Penny Slinger
Beautiful Losers, by Leonard Cohen
Women's Anatomy of Arousal, by Sheri Winston

(b) Some of My Favorite Movies:
Bliss (Terrance Stamp)
Brainstorm (Christopher Walken, Natalie Wood)
Dirty Dancing (Patrick Swayze)
Don Juan de Marcos (Brad Pitt, Marlon Brando)
Flashdance (Jennifer Beals)
Groundhog Day (Bill Murrey)
Pretty Woman (Richard Gere and Julia Roberts)
Resurrection (Ellyn Burstyn, Sam Sheppard)
Risky Business (Tom Cruise and ?)
South Pacific (Rossano Brazzi, Mitzi Gaynor)
Starman (Jeff Bridges and ?)
The Andromeda Strain
The Big Chill (Jeff Goldbloom, Jennifer Tilly, etc.)
The Forbidden Planet (Walter Pidgeon, Leslie Nielson)
The Graduate (Dustin Hoffman)
The Ipcress File (Michael Caine)
The Matrix 1 (Keanu Reeves)
The Razor's Edge (Bill Murrey)
Yankee Doodle Dandy (James Cagney)
Yojimbo (Toshiro Mifuni)
Wild Orchid (Mickey Roarke)

(c) Music (there's a lot I like! - I've probably missed a bunch here):
Ballroom Dance Music: Lots - both American and Latin styles

Classical: Beethoven, Bach, Mozart, Handel, many others

Old: Nelson Eddie and Jeanette McDonald

Big Bands: Benny Goodman Orchestra, Glenn Miller Orchestra, Harry James Orchestra

Broadway: George M. Cohan, Leonard Bernstein, Lerner and Loewe, Rogers and Hammerstein, Rogers and Hart, Gilbert and Sullivan

Early Crooners: Billie Holiday, Johnny Mathis, Mario Lanza, Nat King Cole, The Andrew Sisters

Jazz: Dave Brubeck Quartet, Stan Getz, Kenny G

Country: Shania Twain, Amy Grant, Bonnie Raitt, Crystal Gayle, Emmy Lou Harris, Kathy Matea, Loretta Lynn, Patsy Cline, Randy Travis, Patty Loveless

New Age: Enigma, Enya, Yanni, Gabrielle Roth, Sophia, Robert Gass, Mickey Hart, Michael Uyttebrook, Jim McGrath, Ray Lynch, Brent Lewis, Paul Winter, Raphael, Iasos, Shantiprem, Aeoliah, Anugama, Constance Demby, Nada Shakti & Bruce Becuar, Yogi Hari, Bob Kindler, Christian Buehner

Latin: Celia Cruz, Ettore Stratta, Gloria Estefan, Juan Luis Guerra, Stan Getz & Joao Gilberto, The Gypsy Kings, The Mambo All-Stars, Tito Puente, Los Lobos

Folk: Loreena McKennitt, Bob Dylan, Donovan, Peter, Paul, and Mary, Woody Guthrie, Joni Mitchell, Judy Collins, Leonard Cohen, Simon and Garfunkel

Motown: Aretha Franklin, Smokey Robinson, The Four Tops, The Supremes, The Temptations

Early Rock: Buddy Holly, Chuck Berry, Jerry Lee Lewis, The Coasters, The Penguins

Disco: Abba, Merry Clayton

Pop & Rock: Anne Murray & Dave Loggins, Barbra Streisand, Barry Manilow, Belinda Carlisle, Bette Midler, Billy Joel, Bruce Hornsby, Canned Heat, Carly Simon, Carole King, Cat Stevens, Celine Dion, Cher, Chicago, Crosby, Stills, and Nash, Cyndi Lauper, Dusty Springfield, Elton John, Foreigner, George Harrison, George Michaels, Glen Frey, Helen Reddy, Huey Lewis, Irene Cara, James Taylor, Janet Jackson, Janie Fricke, Janis Joplin, Jefferson Airplane, Jennifer Warnes, Jimi Hendrix, Joe Cocker, John Denver, Johnny Rivers, Kenny Rogers, Kim Carnes, Lionel Richie, Linda Ronstadt, Madonna, Michael Jackson, Olivia Newton-John, Paul Simon, Paula Abdul, Phil Collins, Richard Marx, Robert Palmer, Roberta Flack, Rod Stewart, Roxette, Roy Orbisson, Sheena Easton, Steve Winwood, Sting, The Band, The Beachboys, The Beatles, The Byrds, The Carpenters, The Doors, The Eagles, The Eurythmics, The Left Banke, The Lovin' Spoonful, The Mamas and The Papas, The Pointer Sisters, The Police, The Righteous Brothers, The Rolling Stones, The Travelling Wilburys, The Who, The Youngbloods, Tina Turner, Whitesnake, Whitney Houston, ZZ Top

(d) Food:
I've been vegetarian for about 30 years, but I don't make a big scene of it, and I don't try to push what works for me onto others. I don't eat meat, chicken, fish, eggs. I eat dairy. I follow some ayur vedic dietary guidelines. I try to eat healthy (avoid chemicals, additives, hormones, antibiotics, genetic modifications), I try to eat organic (at home), but I'm flexible when needed. There's still a lot of delicious territory left! - Chinese, Japanese, Thai, Indian, Mexican, Greek, Italian, American (modified)... I'm creative enough that I can find a meal just about anywhere.
Six things I could never do without
1. my infinite Self
2. my goddess/beloved
3. my practical tools (computer, car, cell phone, camera...)
4. my instruments (piano, drum)
5. my masculine (intellect, purpose/mission, integrity)
6. my feminine (love, sensuality, flow, intuition)
On a typical Friday night I am
Dancing with my beloved, drumming around a bonfire, teaching a workshop, walking on the beach under the tropical moon, making love slowly and consciously
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I know who you are.
You should message me if
You are intrigued by something I wrote. You are an adventurer, an explorer of life.

There are vast, blissful places inside that you've always longed for someone to explore with you; there are secret gardens of your soul that you've always longed to reveal and surrender to someone trustworthy. You desire a man who'll inspire you to let go, who'll touch and love that deep, sacred place at the core of your being, who'll create the ecstatic experiences that you deserve, who'll worship and unfold the goddess in you, while you worship and unfold the god in him.
The two of us