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My self-summary
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If you find me worthy, please don't just like/star me and hope I figure out who you are. Please, at least visibly visit my profile so I don't have to do so much guessing. Maybe even send me a message (see final section).


We define ourselves, in part, by groups. I am (in no particular order) a nerd; a queer (pansexual: I'll have sex with anyone I'm attracted to, as long as they want to have sex with me... more concerned with brains and wits than bits); a Unitarian Universalist; an atheist; an antiprohibitionist; a tinkerer; a gamer; an Eagle Scout; a contra dancer; a martial artist (aikido); and amateur scientist/engineer/psychologist. I am also polyamorous. I'm only a Democrat because there's no Socialist party anymore, and because they pay the company that pays the company that pays my checks. Funny how that works.

Some of my hobbies and interests include contra dancing; gaming; martial arts; singing (I'm the vocalist for my Rock Band group, and drum when my voice wears out); backyard kendo (no pads, no points, no judges. Just don't aim for the balls or face); cyberanthropology (I like observing how people and communities behave on the internet); naturalistic observation (people-watching on the T); hiking; camping; DDR but I'm way out of practice; electronic dance music events; transhumanism and the singularity; and calling people out for littering. I also smoke grass, for therapeutic and recreational purposes.
What I’m doing with my life
I often ask myself the same thing.

I have recently resumed my former job as a professional fundraiser for various Democratic and progressive whatevers, and I'm a hell of a lot happier about it than I expected to be. I always loved the work and I made a lot of great friends there, but I've got serious concerns about the way the company operates. It's a complex situation. Lotta ins, lotta outs, lotta what-have-yous. Longer term, I might stay in politics, but I also kind of want to give sales a try. A former coworker is graciously holding the door for me at an insurance broker in Boston. I'll be doing that as soon as I can reliably wake up at 6 AM every day, and IF ANYONE WHO WORKS WITH ME READS THIS: TELL NO ONE. Beyond that... I may well stay in sales, unless I can talk my way into working for a leftist candidate/PAC/etc, which would be lovely. Lotta money in sales (assuming I end up being approximately as good at that as I am at fundraising), but the allure of The Game just keeps calling my name. My greatest regret in life is not finishing my engineering degree. Maybe someday, but it seems rather out of reach these days.
I’m really good at
On-the-spot repairs; design revision, spotting well-designed products; contra dancing; writing; debate and conversation; Super Smash Bros: Melee; punning; scout stuff - camping, firebuilding, first aid, knots and lashings, fishing; listening; cuddling; lifting heavy things; reaching high places.
The first things people usually notice about me
I smell like clove cigars, Old Spice, and fine cannabis. D-d-d-deal with it.

Personality-wise, possibly the part where I love to go on at length about stuff I'm really into. This can be anything from psychology to psychoactives, from science and technology to sexuality. I'm often pretty quick to argue if I think someone's being ignorant and/or a jerk, though I also readily admit when I'm wrong. On the job, a common reaction from newbies is something along the lines of "I can't believe he just said that and I can't believe it worked."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: A People's History of the United States; The Dresden Files; Dies the Fire etc.; Discworld; The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test; The Moon is a Harsh Mistress; World War Z; Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality; Animorphs
Movies: Pulp Fiction; Fight Club; LOTR; The Matrix; Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas; Boondock Saints; martial arts films, esp. Jackie Chan, Donnie Yen, Jet Li; Galaxy Quest; Kinsey; OG Star Wars; Seven Samurai; Boondock Saints; Starship Troopers
Shows: The Wire; Cosmos with Carl Sagan; Orange is the New Black; House of Cards (w/ Spacey); Kids in the Hall; Breaking Bad; The Shield; Battlestar Galactica (the new one); House; Weeds; TNG/DS9/TOS,/VOY (ENT sucked and you know it); All things Whedon; FLCL; Fate Stay Night; Trigun; Cowboy Bebop
Web Series: Day9 Daily (ok mostly just Funday Monday); Zero Punctuation; Epic Mealtime
Music: Shpongle; Machinae Supremacy; Dragonforce; Led Zeppelin; Ratatat; Enigma; the pillows; Flogging Molly; Blue Man Group; Daft Punk; Pink Floyd; Queen; The Who; Tom Waits; The Clash
Food: Italian, Mexican, Chinese, Indian, Japanese, American...
Six things I could never do without
Omeprazole for my GERD; trees; music; internet (aside from camping, of course. Though recently I went three whole days without, and it was awful); my legs; a pocketknife.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Breathtaking feats of cognitive dissonance, and how to circumvent them.

I'm trying to spend a lot less time worrying about my future. It seems to be working so far.
On a typical Friday night I am
Forget the friday part of this question, because I don't work a regular schedule of any kind. But lately I like to spend my nights enjoying good company, good music, good smoke, and good times. Some nights I go folk dancing, some nights I watch professional Starcraft (terribly nerdy, but it's like my football--just with more blood, lasers, and explosions)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If you dare, my ancient fetlife: http://fetlife.com/users/651571
You should message me if
- If you think rationality and observable evidence should lead decision making; not superstition, fear, or fable.
- If you think informed adults should have full rights to control their own body chemistry and physiology.
- If you are sexually adventurous, and think we'd have good chemistry. DEFINITELY message me if you're worried I'll be grossed out by your weird kinks. I guarantee you, I will not. Similarly, message me if you find yourself to be kinkier still than most who would call themselves kinky. Like, if you have to turn to motherless or heavy-r for your porn, because xhamster and pornhub are too tame. Everyone else: don't worry, I'm harmless.
- If you think you can take me at Melee, or backyard kendo.

I won't take you seriously if you don't put some effort into it. This includes everything from capital letters and punctuation to actually having something to say. If you're messaging me just cause you wanna fuck me, that's fine, that's great, but please, people, if you do message me, tell me what compelled you to do so. You stand a much better chance of getting a response. Also, I can tell when I'm getting a form letter, too. So no copy/paste bullshit.
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