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My self-summary
I'm so utterly amazing that words could not describe me. Next time you see me, simply stare into the profound depths of my soul and find your answers, whether it be that I'm a total dork, or so incredibly stupid that my intellectual ineptitude is only bound by the definition of stupidity, all while my eyes glaze over at the mere thought of the meaning of life.

No, seriously, I'm a nerd. Basically, I can geek out with the bros *brofists*, and hang with the hoes. I'm also a feminist, so please don't EVER call me your hoe... unless it's kinky and involved gardening tools.

I identify less as bisexual than I do as pansexual/polysexual and queer. I also have friends who I frequently nerd out with regarding all manner of things, including internet memes, social justice issues, sports, politics, girly self-affirmational truisms about life, and crude but brilliantly nerdy topics.

As whimsical of a personality as I am, queer, social justice, and anti-oppression activism are important part of who I am, as are queer people of colour communities.

I enjoy deliberately analysing and reconstructing things (mostly different approaches to social issues) a lot. As a result, I also find myself reflecting on my own values and ways of being in the world often.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently I am completing my Bachelor's of Social Work at UBC in Vancouver, Canada. I am now living in NYC with my partner for the last part of my program.

The rest of the time I'm either hanging with my friends, organizing in social justice communities, or staying a hermit as I endeavour to become one with the internet. Still, I like to devote time exploring myself, my social environments and my relationships in them. If it's fun and ethical, my life's bound to take me there someday.
I’m really good at
Being occasionally inarticulate, and unintentionally funny and cutesy despite my eclectic academic background and enjoyment I get from debating within a wide spectrum of discourses. Hey, at least saying it this way I don't come off sounding like a total douche... right??

Being an armchair athlete, and a darn good one. Seriously, I possess more esoteric knowledge regarding a large variety of sports than most guys.

Being an armchair academic (because as much as I enjoy plowing into philosophy and research, I'm too broken to write papers for the rest of my life).

Reflecting on my intersectional queer politics.

Being awkwardly self-conscious while trying not to appear awkward and self-conscious.

Being occasionally self-confident and brotastic.

Dancing with myself.

Spacing out and daydreaming.

Conjuring things up that could be seen as witty and ironic.

Being picky about what I consider to be good craft beer while awkwardly trying not to be condescending about it.

Withholding judgement, because privileged douchebags need love too. I just blame society and their parents.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair, and even though I previously lived in Vancouver where 30% of the population is Asian, the fact that I'm Asian.

For something less superficial, the fact that I am not a fan of men talking over women, or solely to other men. I call that shit out all day.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - Anything NOT by Ayn Rand. 'Objectivism' gets a disdainful, titanic shrug outta me, even though I do understand the empowering appeal of the self-reliant, individualistic discourse.

Various feminist and social theory literature. Mostly from the likes of bell hooks, Patricia Hill Collins, Michel Foucault, and Paulo Freire.

Nineteen Eighty-Four.

I should read a lot more considering how much I love reading, but I never got into the habit of picking up novels.

Movies - Pan's Labyrinth, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Miyazaki films - particularly Princess Mononoke and Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind, Persepolis, Slumdog Millionaire, Total Recall, Brokeback Mountain, Rent, Juno, There Will Be Blood, A Beautiful Mind, Looper, The Fifth Element, As Good As It Gets, Inception, The Shawshank Redemption, The Matrix, Star Trek, Shortbus, American Beauty, American Psycho, American History X, Superbad, Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, Amélie, Trainspotting, Star Wars IV - VI, The Avengers, X-Men - First Class, most Pixar films - particularly Ratatouille, Toy Story 3, Wall-E, and Up, Gravity, Seven Years a Slave, Her, How to Survive a Plague.

Music - Yoko Kanno, Yann Tiersen, The Velvet Underground, Arcade Fire, Frank Ocean, Kanye West, Adele, The Beatles, The Rolling Stones, Pink Floyd, Jimi Hendrix, Tegan and Sara, Daft Punk, Queen, Feist, Florence + the Machine, The Cure, Oasis, Dream Theater, The Postal Service, Radiohead, U2, Interpol, Metric, Pendulum, The Killers, Weezer, Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeroes, Macklemore, Of Monsters and Men, The Lumineers, Alabama Shakes, Janelle Monae, Lorde, Of Monsters and Men, Owen Pallett, Passion Pit, Eta James, Yeah Yeah Yeahs.

Video games - ‎Chrono Trigger, Chrono Cross, Final Fantasy IV, V, VI, VII, VIII, IX, X, XII, Planescape: Torment, Baldur's Gate II - Shadows of Amn and Throne of Bhaal expansion, Fallout 2 and 3, The Legend of Zelda - Ocarina of Time, Link's Awakening, Link to the Past, StarCraft, Super Mario World, Super Mario RPG, Mass Effect 1, 2 & 3, Dragon Age: Origins, Knights of the Old Republic I & II, Metroid 2, Super Metroid, Secret of Mana 2 & 3, Terranigma, Suikoden II, Star Ocean II, Lunar - The Silver Star Story, Every Donkey Kong Country, Parasite Eve 1 & 2, Breath of Fire III + IV, Heroes of Might and Magic III + IV, The Witcher 2, Sleeping Dogs, any of the Civilization games.

TV Series - Firefly, Arrested Development, Archer, The Venture Bros, Supernatural (just for the fluff), Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Battlestar Galactica, Star Trek - Deep Space Nine, Star Trek - The Next Generation, Community, Game of Thrones, The Daily Show, Last Week Tonight with John Oliver, The Colbert Report, Key and Peele, The Chappelle Show, The Wire.

Food - My days frequently revolve around this. Favourite staples of the Tara diet include steak, pho, ramen, pasta, and sushi. I will eat anything, as long as it's made well. I've become a bit of a snob about pizza after having lived in New York, and I also know my Chinese food enough to understand that few places in North America compare in quality to Chinese food here in Vancouver. Really though, Chinese food is always great when you're drunk. I'll eat at any hole in the wall without a peep unless someone starts chiming up about how amazing their unseasoned, poorly made hipster appropriation of Asian food is. Or start talking up Pizza Hut as if it's anything more than a dressed up cardboard stuffed with cheese dispensary.
Six things I could never do without
My computer
Community and friendship
Truth and personal growth
Good food
Good music
Fun, dirty and intelligent conversations
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Gender, race, identity, politics, power relations, decolonization, community activism, and other social worky things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Looking to hang out and have a few beers with friends, or conversely being a total homebody. Truly, I would head out to just about any corner where the MTA will take me if there is promise of fun and debauchery.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a trans woman. I'm pretty open about that fact even if I can 'get away' without disclosing due to passing privilege. Saves me and everyone else the trouble
You should message me if
you liked my profile

you identify as queer or trans

you are a fellow female self-identified nerd. I guess male nerds are okay too *says it dismissively with a hand wave*

you think we could make a good, too-good-for-everyone-else dork couple, albeit a platonic one because I AM CURRENTLY TAKEN. Yes, that's right. Christ guys, stop asking me out with lewd messages fawning over my supposed cuteness, or thinking that I somehow must be 'special' or even desperate because I'm trans.

you just want someone to chat with and possibly be friends with (like, totally do message me if you think you'd enjoy hanging out with me. Just don't be offended if I'm not texting you every week to hang out.

you don't believe feminists are crazy man-hating lesbians

you don't mind engaging in simple banter with someone who may sporadically enter a head space where she confusingly spews recycled intersectional social theories

you don't mind quirkiness and me getting excited about something seemingly out of nowhere. I am however pretty level headed most of the time.

you sincerely want to get to know me as a person, and am not just looking for a fling with 'an exotic Asian tranny'. Like seriously, I can't believe you people exist
The two of us