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My self-summary
Just recently realized my profile isn't clear enough about this; I'm in London visiting my partner for a few months. We're open/polyamorous, so I'm still available for short-term things, but if you're looking for a life-partner or monogamy, I wish you the best in continuing your search. If you're interested in showing me around London, talking intersectional feminism/social justice, rock climbing, partner yoga, fencing, etc., let me know, I'd be very exited about that; if you're interested in casual sexy/kink play, let me know as well, but you'll have to be very direct - I've learned that British flirting is just far too subtle for me.

I'm nowhere near as egotistical as my profile name sounds, but I do like getting on stage and pretending to be.

I'm in a stressful and busy period in my life, so it may take a while to get in touch, and I'm more likely to be interested in meeting up if we're doing something I'd want to be doing anyways. I'm especially interested in seeing or dancing to music, hardcore yoga, rock-climbing, and fire play. I'd love to meet some musicians - I'm hoping to start a proper gigging band again, once I meet musicians I'm sufficiently excited to play with.

(Worth mentioning, because I seem to be confusing some people: I see OKC as a really good algorithm for meeting people you're likely to get along with and finding people with certain shared interests. That means if I message you, it isn't necessarily because I want to date or have sex with you; if I say I'd like to play music together or go rock climbing, there's a pretty good chance that all I mean is play music, or go rock climbing)

Also, I was in a very different place in my life when I did the bulk of my OKC questions, and I was looking for very different things at the time, so some of what OKC thinks about me is inaccurate (e.g. I'm actually very love-driven, thank you very much [profile-tab!], but I wasn't looking for a serious relationship at the time and the OKC robot-monkey misinterpreted).

So, tooting your own horn is pretty much required here. Since I have a severe distaste for it, I'm going to list some things my friends have said about me instead: the most idealistic person in the world; considerate; sensitive; weird in all the right ways; sexier than 98 % of people on the planet; naughty little schoolgyrl; an adorable stray with floppy ears and a patchy spot over one eye; sexcellent; way too rambunctious for pants; ridiculously and quite unjustly cute; sweet smile; a gregarious fluid; smart, sexy, and respected by peers and mentors; a really good dyke; I feel like a cooler person just for knowing you; irritatingly brilliant and lovely; you are such a weirdo, in all the sweetest ways; I love your wild enthusiasm for life; people sure are enthusiastic about having sex with you!; easy to be yourself around; subsists entirely on pure audacity (I'm especially proud of the last one, given that it came from my friend with a rainbow mowhawk, antithestasia). I also have a friend who graced me with the sentence "I hang out with all these interesting people, like magician and jugglers and fire-eaters and Taz!" and a recent partner told me "You make what I had thought were unreasonably high standards of behavior in a relationship seem perfectly reasonable."

And some phrases I've been stealing from others' profiles, because I like them and they apply to me (in no particular order):
"bohemian, adorkable, and hippie-go-lucky"
"work on developing myself in each moment, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically."
"orgasm enthusiast"
"I am queer in every sense of the word."
"I'm a feminist and a vegetarian. I have a good sense of humor. I don't think those last two sentences are mutually exclusive."
"I'm insatiable but a little bit ADD"
"[I'm really good at] Cuddling and making strange sounds in the place of proper sentences. Getting distracted by shiny objects."
"DO message me if I've messed up in my profile somewhere and you just need to tell me to check my..., privileges. Seriously, call me on my shit."

Big, important parts of my personality and time are spent on: music, yoga, feminism, social justice activism, learning and teaching, reading and writing, art and culture, travel, dancing to loud thumpy music in interesting and unexpected locations, finding/making/eating yummy vegfood.

Oh, and I switched my profile from "bi" to "Straight," because, quite honestly, the vast majority of guys who send messages on OKC are annoying and problematic (my sincere apologies if I am "that guy" to anyone reading this!), and I'm sick of getting messages from them. Bi- isn't really the word I most identify with anyways. But, if you happen to be male/masculine identified, feminist, and think we have enough in common that messaging me is worth your time, please do!
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to make the world a better place in whatever ways I am best suited for, trying to make life better and happier for the people around me, and trying to keep focused on being grateful for all the amazing things in my life.
I’m really good at
Not these profile thingies! Um... creating loving community spaces, playing acoustic guitar and electric bass, writing songs, arguing feminist and social justice causes, making people laugh and grin, hugs, cuddling, crazy yoga poses...
Six things I could never do without
I've never managed this sort of thing, so we'll consider this a tentative, ongoing project:
1) human contact/touch
2) sunshine
3) yoga
4) community
5) all the varied emotions and experiences we tend to ball together and call "love"
6) internets
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"Just so you know: my weird mind wanders and my brave heart breaks
I have nailed some milestones, but I make mistakes
because I've got more faults than a map of California earthquakes.
I am taking a nap beneath your covers.
Wake me if you like me;
wake me if you want me;
wake me if you need another poem.
Your once and future lover
has made himself at home."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I first got on OKC, I was teaching classes at a nearby college and I accidentally found one of my former students' profiles; the robot thought we'd be a really good match. I figured it was best to at least acknowledge this, 'cause she'd see it sooner or later anyways, so I sent her a message, figuring we could both laugh at how awkward or wrong or ridiculous it was. Her inbox was full, so in a not-too-bright moment, I hit the "wink" button (which doesn't exist anymore!). In hindsight, that was probably a mistake.
You should message me if
yes :)

Dating: I'm polyamorous (already dating multiple folks, open to more), so experience with ethical non-monogamy is pretty much required.

Non-dating: I'd especially love someone to pair up with for rock climbing or seeing some live music, good vegan restaurants, or thrifting.

Friendly sex: open to it, but really not seeking it out. Your chances are better if you're direct with me and up-front about your interests.

Worth mentioning: now that I'm here, I'm way busier than I expected to be! I am not on OKC often, and I don't have time to write a lot of messages or do a lot of planning, so just go ahead and message me, and maybe invite me to something.
The two of us