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My self-summary
I met my wife through okCupid. We have a polyamorous relationship, so we both still have profiles on here (she's Gildless_Lily). We're both looking for secondary relationships, or just general cool queer friends.

Anyway, about me: I'm a day dreamer, geek, and an odd mix of introvert & extrovert. I've got a good sense of humour - though everyone thinks that, right? "Hey, the things I find funny are all things I find funny!"

I'm pretty easy going, but I enjoy empassioned discussion of hypothetical/philosophical/political/moral things. As I get older I'm becoming increasingly gender queer and feminist, and can rant endlessly about the yoke of oppression that is the gender binary.

I like people who aren't afraid to be unique, and I get annoyed when everyone follows the same trend, dressing & acting the same way and becoming one homogeneous mass. I'm deeply suspicious of anything that's "too" popular, and I'm naturally drawn towards things in which I can see value that others haven't noticed.
What I’m doing with my life
Recently married and moved to Cambridge, so we're trying to find all the quirky fun places to go, and hopefully find some poly/queer communities.

I work as a visual effects programmer in the games industry. I like to do creative things in my free time, and I'm hoping I might one day become self employed.
I’m really good at
Friends like my cooking, CG art, and sense of humour. I'm clever, except when I'm not, and I pick up new ideas quickly.

I'm a good listener, though I was better when I was younger and more shy about offering opinions.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair (usually brightly coloured), and then my sense of humour (bad puns, sarcasm, and occasional wit).
Six things I could never do without
Eyesight, a creative outlet, a nice view, someone to react to, music, the internet.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future. I usually start out day dreaming about the next few years, then digress into a sci-fi future with robots, spaceships and/or oscar acceptance speeches.
On a typical Friday night I am
Staying up late for no good reason.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm shy, but I've learnt a lot of tricks for hiding it. Most people who know me these days think I'm distant and uninterested when (sometimes) I'm hiding the fact that I'm *too* interested.
You should message me if
I know okCupid is full of stereotypical men spamming women with cheesy chat-up lines. I hate that. It is misogyny, manifest. My wife gets a barrage of messages from imbeciles simply because she's female, but I've only been contacted by a handful girls (one of whom I married!).

So, out of ardent feminism (and shyness), I tend not to send the first message. Contact me if you'd like to talk.
The two of us