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My self-summary
Would probably make a very good absentminded professor if it weren't for the lack of wispy gray hair.

Part moody artist, part logician; I use the word "technically", asterisks, parentheses, and the backspace key probably too much for everyday conversation. Asterisks in particular cause problems with spoken conversation.
Or: "sometimes I talk, sometimes I don't." Lots of times I don't, actually, though I'm working on that.

Much like a zombie, I'm interested in braaaains - if you don't have any, I'm not interested.
What I’m doing with my life
Mostly, figuring out what to do with my life, bug-hunting (of the electronic sort), codeless and/or JavaScript "development" (read: tinkering), writing, surprisingly civil internet arguments, gaming, thought-experimenting... oh, and checking this site occasionally (sometimes obsessively, sometimes not for months).
I’m really good at
After looking at all the rest of this (and the aforementioned civil internet arguments; yes, they exist), I'm apparently good at walls of text. This apparently can extend to text conversations, though whether it does so or not depends on who I'm talking to and the topic.

Also seem to be a bit of a creative sort; have written halfway decent poetry and short stories (emphasis on short), and have tried my hand at acting and directing, which also went reasonably well, although I haven't really followed up on this. Have been debating whether to pick said poetry back up.
Very good at seeing multiple sides of an issue - I actually have a hard time not doing this.

Suppose we'll have another section here for "things I'm decent at that I wouldn't say I'm really good at" -
Gaming (surprised?); genres vary but tend to stay away from the overly competitive or repetitive.
Rock Climbing - I enjoy it and would like to do it more often, but never seem to get around to it.
Thinking - my brain has a tendency to go on tangents (more like latch on to said tangents and run) during conversations, which can lead to interesting not-quite-non-sequiturs. Main reason I don't consider myself "really" good at it is that I've never figured out how to stop, which has caused sleep issues.
Piano - I suspect there's a quantum-mechanical influence involved here, as I never seem to want to play when I'm being observed.
Singing - If I like you, I may actually inflict this on you. As with the previous and next items, the quality is decent but the repertoire is next to nonexistent.
Origami - folding fractions, while relaxing, doesn't generally result in anything of artistic merit unless you have something in mind beforehand.
Explaining things - granted, I have to know what I'm supposed to be explaining first, but that's not that hard to accomplish.
Landscape photography - have an eye for it; I'd put some on here, but there's the whole "you have to be in the picture" thing.
Making absolutely horrible navigation decisions under time pressure while driving - or, "not checking one's route sufficiently to avoid getting lost". I wouldn't say I'm really good at this, though, as I've only entirely failed to arrive once.
Math - never did get all the rules down for integrals (granted, the fact that said rules are mostly "eyeball/reverse-engineer it" and "compare it to other functions where we also eyeballed/reverse-engineered it" don't help in that regard), but most of the rest I've got a sense for. I feel like I think of everything in terms of distance and trajectories now. You'd think that'd make me a physics major, but no.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm there?
This is often more startling than it should be; I don't go out of my way to sneak up on people.
Actually, they could probably tell you better than I could, as I don't ask people what they first notice about me. But probably that I'm quiet, which may be why noticing that I'm there is so startling.
For that matter, I don't ask people about their opinions of me in general. I should probably change that at some point.
So - let me know, hm? Then maybe I'll have something more to put here.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - well, authors really - Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy (all five parts of the trilogy, but mainly the first three), nearly anything by Bill Bryson, Terry Pratchett, Elizabeth Moon, David Brin, Sean McMullen, Steven Brust, C. J. Cherryh, Gail Z. Martin, Steven Erikson, or David Weber, l(a (not a book), Sestina d'Inverno (also not a book), Lois McMaster Bujold, L.E. Modesitt, Jr., and probably others I can't think of at the moment. Science fiction and fantasy are the main genres, but the quality of storytelling is the most important criterion, whether it's writing about this world or another.

Books I don't consider favorites, but recommend - 1984 and Brave New World (I always pair the two, not sure why), Blindsight, Ender's Game, Flowers for Algernon, Nudge, and as before, probably others I can't think of at the moment.

Movies - Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy (sound familiar?), Lord of the Rings, Monty Python and the [Insert Rest of Title Here]. Oh, and Memento. Probably others I'll think of in other contexts (sound familiar?); I enjoy a fairly wide array of movies - on the few occasions I watch them - without them making it on to the "favorites".

Music - Nightwish, Tom Lehrer, various in-game soundtracks, Enya, Muse, personal improvisations, Rhapsody In Blue and An American In Paris, Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto No. 2 and No. 3, Rite of Spring (Stravinsky), most of the works from Man of La Mancha.
Again, there's the favorites, and then there are the "liked-well-enough", which is most things under eighty decibels.
Food - rice topped with a mix of tofu, broccoli, imitation abalone (seitan), (possibly) straw mushrooms, oyster sauce, sesame oil, and soy sauce. This meal has no title, only the description; it is nevertheless quite good.
Oh, and now that I think about it, sushi's always good. Also moderately dark chocolate and cheesecake on the dessert end of things.
Webcomics - The Phoenix Requiem (finished), Schlock Mercenary, xkcd, Questionable Content, Gunnerkrigg Court, Girl Genius, Guilded Age, Girls with Slingshots, Digger (finished), and I-don't-know-precisely-how-many others.

Other media Slate Star Codex (blog:
psychiatry, culture, life, the universe, and everything) The Economist (magazine: news), Mic (website: news), The Week (magazine: news), Worm (web fiction; finished) and subsequent works by the same author.
Six things I could never do without
1. My mind. Jokes about sanity notwithstanding, I'm rather attached to it, and since it's probably attached to my brain and to a lesser degree the rest of my body, I'm rather attached to those as well.
2. I'd say "my laptop", but that'd be a lie, as I've done without computer access before and suffered minimal ill effects.
3-6. N/A. See #2.

But to be more in the spirit of things (this happens occasionally), we'll go with the following:
1. My mind. See above.
2. Hydration and sustenance. As opposed to dehydration and starvation. Sometimes I forget about this one, though never for more than half a day (or so) so far.
3. 'net connection. If you're reading this, you probably have some idea why.
4. Hm... the car's rather handy, we'll go with that. Something to be said for mobility.
5. Clothes. Oh right. This should probably be number three or four, considering social mores and weather at my present location (and likely future locations as well).
6. Aeredhi. Atheilir versadianor aneiron mathaverai. Eica rieilir.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Stories, games I'm currently playing, ethics, economics, how ethics and economics tie together - have you ever thought about how similar the idea of communism is to how corporations actually work? -, how power and ethics tie together (or, more often, don't), hypothetical dangerous situations and how to handle them, the word "polymorph" (I am not entirely sure why), other specific words and how they get progressively more amusing and less intelligible the longer you stare at them, dragons, thinking (which then leads to thinking about metacognition and then about the "meta-" prefix)...
Oh yes. And the sort of thing that guys are stereotypically supposed to think about all the time, albeit with a perhaps unusual take on it (easily visible from the "two of us" section should you be curious).
On a typical Friday night I am
playing a game, or reading. Which game or book depends on what's sparked my interest or whether I've been to the library recently - I seem to have personal fads/moods in this regard - but perennials seem to include Diablo II (which may end up being replaced by Path of Exile), Dwarf Fortress, and N. On those occasions I'm more social, Munchkin and Magic may show up.
Fairly open to atypical Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
would be told in private, preferably.
Alternatively, see (7), below.
You should message me if
...what you read here intrigues or amuses you. There's a fair bit more where that came from, after all.'re trying to practice your first-impression messages. I won't bite (unless you ask nicely).'ve read the OkTrends articles and noticed certain statistics on who does the messaging and who does the spam-sifting.'d like to hear from me in particular. In retrospect I haven't been as consistent about replying as I'd like to be, but the intent is to give straight yes-or-no-or-wall-of-text answers to everyone who messages me eventually.

Now, for the converse section: "I'm more likely* to message you if..."
(1) have a match percentage above 85. I know, I know, the numbers don't convey the whole person (and people change, after all), but even so.
(2) ...I'm not currently waiting on responses from anyone else. Translation: I have tunnel vision (or pre-emptive monogamous tendencies) where potential dates or friends are concerned.
(3) ...I like how your pictures look. This actually only comes up if the first condition is met. I'd say more, but anything more specific will either insult everyone I've messaged, or insult everyone I haven't messaged, and I try to avoid insulting people (probably to the point of overthinking it).
(4) ...I've gone through the "The Two of Us" section, sorting by "I care about", "she cares about", and "unacceptable", and found the results satisfactory (i.e.: any disagreements are areas I can see compromise in).
(5)'s three in the morning. Turns out postponing sleep results in a less reserved attitude.
(6) ...what I've seen of your profile doesn't include typos or single-letter netspeak abbreviations - horribly prejudiced, I know.
(7) ...You enjoy being tied up (this could probably be filed as 4a), or are at the very least open to the idea. Sans this, it is unlikely we will be more than friends. Given that this has been a personal interest for almost as long as I can remember, it is unlikely I can compromise on this point.
*"more likely" does not translate to "will"** and never has. See first section about conversation frequency. Seriously. If you're waiting on me to make the first move, stop waiting. I won't bite (unless you ask; see #7).
**"less likely" also does not translate to "will not".
The two of us