TessaMessa
27 Mountain View, United States
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My self-summary
This is somewhat of a “coming out,” somewhat of an introspection, somewhat of a social experiment, somewhat of a solicitation, and it is certainly an effort to find the person/people with whom I would most naturally and deeply bond. I am positive for HSV-2. I contracted it not too long ago, and I'm still navigating what it means to me. Yes, I was practicing safe sex. No, I am not bitter toward to person from whom I contracted it. No, I haven't given it to anyone. Yes, I'm willing to chat about it. (Not that your answers should be the same as mine; everyone's experiences are different and valid). I do not judge anyone for how they might react to the information. I ask that others not judge me in return.

My intention here is to attract those who are also positive (or otherwise very familiar and comfortable with HSV-2) and save the time of those who aren't. So, if you have no experience with the virus or you simply don't know where you stand on the matter, please don't write me. Unless maybe if it's to give me some words of encouragement or advice or something.

If, however, you are also positive, AND you think we could have romantic chemistry (see “message me if”), I'd love to hear from you. I promise that regardless of where our interaction goes, I will not share your identity/status if that's important to you. I'm just seeking some ease and transparency (like I always have) as I figure out how to go forward with my love life from now on.

Also, there's a little poem in my pictures that has reminded many times over to be myself, openly, freely, and without shame - which has been my truest route to kindred spirits.

Ok! Wanted to get that in first, so you didn't spend time falling in love with the rest of my profile to no avail, hehe. Now that that's taken care of *phew* here's me:

I'm a happy dreadlocked hippy chick just trying to be zen :) I'm confident, open-minded, open-hearted, honest, ever-curious, and pretty self-aware. I love the sun, the night, the road, philosophy, naps, movement, coffee shops, animals, movies, kisses, vodka-pineapples, travel, peace, smiles.

I'm polyamorous and partial toward triads, but for now I'd be happy to bond with one other kindred spirit.

I'm also a Burner. Also switch. (If any of these terms are confusing to you, feel free to ask me about em).

I'm an eternal optimist.
What I’m doing with my life
Lately I've been into biking, yoga, cooking, meditation, EDM, coffee shops, happy hours.. a tennis/volleyball buddy would be cool.

Massage therapy is my calling and my career. I commute between Mountain View and Palo Alto regularly.
I’m really good at
Enjoying things. Conversing. Staying calm. Certain sports. Long distance driving. Patience. Foosball. Non-judgment. Gratitude.
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically, my skin color or dreadlocks. I get asked about my ethnic background all the time - feel free to take a guess if you'd like.

Personally, my optimism/compassion maybe. I tend to seek out the light in any given event or person or whatever you got. Not that I'm stubbornly positive-thinking (shit happens, man), just that I will always attempt empathy first and foremost. And I'm usually smiling.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm not a big reader, but I go thru phases. Been on a bit of a scifi/fantasy kick these days. I definitely utilize the Mountain View library - and nearby cafes for reading/writing.

I LOVE movies/TV shows. Too many to make a list that would represent me well. Light animations, heavy dramas, pop action flix, querky/dark comedies, sappy romcoms.. Let's just go with everything except horror, I don't much like feeling scared, haha.

Music is awesome. I'm not super savvy, but I like at least a few songs from every genre. As mentioned, I've been diggin EDM these days - such a burner :P

Food is delicious. I really can't think of a type that I sweepingly dislike. I lived in Austin for a couple years, and I miss that Texas BBQ sometimes. Thai and Indian have been favorites of mine lately.. Basically, I'll try anything once. And probably like it.
The six things I could never do without
People I love
Warmth
Open lines of communication
My car (for trips, my bike for daily transport)
Touch
Celebration
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The present (and a little about the future and past).
Non-judgment, non-attachment, non-resistance.
The four agreements.
Ohmmm.
On a typical Friday night I am
Somewhere fun and cheap for dinner/drinks/dancing. or...
Home with friends/movies/wine/snacks. or...
On a drive/walk, talking to someone interesting. or...
Doing something else, heh.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
As if my opening statement wasn't enough, hah, I love answering the questions on cupid, especially with friends. If you wanna message me but can't really think of anything to say, bring up a question you found interesting/funny/controversial/etc. and I'll prolly wanna chat about it!
You should message me if
You've read my self summary and you'd still like to pursue a romance with me. Also - and I feel totally awkward articulating this, but - it's a good idea to keep in mind that I will not likely feel attracted to you (romantically speaking), unless you are:

Very good-looking
Queer-positive
Poly-positive
Notably confident
Willing to consider lifestyles/values different from your own
Lighthearted

If you think I have no business making such a list, I respect your opinion, but please don't use it to try and hurt my feelings. Regardless, I want you to know that you are amazing just the way you are! I simply know myself well enough now and have enough experience with the online thing, that I honestly just want to save everyone some time and energy.

Oh and if you've messaged me in the past, and I haven't responded (been off Cupid for a long time), you might write again. I'm sorta starting from scratch now, so it's likely that I won't act on the messages I've received up to this point (6/7).
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