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My self-summary
I am The Bobbu. I am not actually a man, but am 70 goldfish in a rather convincing man suit.

Quick note before you go any further - I'm polyamorous. That means I have multiple intimate and romantic relationships, with the full knowledge & consent of everyone involved. If you don't like the fact that I share my love, my life, and my bed with multiple, incredible people, then I suggest you shit off right about now.

As you may have noticed, I prefer open, honest and straightforward communication. This can contribute to me being considered an arsehole, but I do try my best to be a reasonable human being. I simply tend to be honest - which usually entails being a dick to people I dislike, but an unfaltering friend to those I like. And I fucking love swearing.

Written words are horribly inadequate for describing humans, but for ease of basic understanding some of the labels that can be applied to me are: bipolar, pansexual, polyamorous, geek, designer, techie, sadist, activist, artisan, performer, writer, ethicist and anarchist.

And more can be discovered about me and what I do and think by visiting my website at
What I’m doing with my life
I am a web & graphic designer, with a hint of web developer in there too. All round web & tech geek, really. From 9-6 every weekday I am employed in that despicable practice of online marketing. I'm also a crafty bugger who spends half his time in my garage workshop creating whatever springs to mind. Of late I have been specialising in taxidermy, jewellery and steampunk props of all kinds.

In short, I'm a busy, arty bastard. And to tell the truth, there's very little I would rather be doing. I am exceptionally lucky in that I have managed, through no small feat of perseverance, to earn my living doing what I love, and I am damn smug about it.

Though perhaps a little more time to dedicate to writing would be pleasant. I don't get the opportunity to do it for any publishers other than myself (and a free mag sometimes), and I update my blog far too irregularly to have any hopes of chasing it as a career any more, but it's a favourite hobby of mine.

The spare time I hack out of my schedule is spent with friends and lovers in pursuit of great movies, the most entertaining pub conversations, and dark lords (I LARP when I have the chance, mostly as an excuse to dress up and do some archery with moving targets).
I’m really good at
'Art, technology, ethics and sex' sums up nicely most of the significant things in with my life. But I tend to be good at whatever I take up, really, as I'm a very quick learner. With the exception of musical instruments - I just don't have the patience, I'm afraid. Which is a shame - I would love to play violin.

Oh, I also can't do much by way of sports. I walk with a cane and have no interest in competition.
The first things people usually notice about me
My dreadlocks and sense of style tend to be the first things commented on. I've had them since December 2006, and they've collected so many souveniers and memorials to various people and events in my life that they are often the focus of much amazement and scrutiny. The dreadlocks, that is.

My style, on the other hand, is something I don't consider all that much myself - I just generally wear what I feel comfortable and confident in, which tends to be a suit and waistcoat, with some form of hat. Apparently this follows the vintage/gothic/steampunk kind of style, depending on who you ask, and people find it unique and interesting. Says a lot about the state of the world, I think.

Oh, if I'm smoking my pipe then that is guaranteed to be the first thing people mention. I would be very wealthy if I got a pound for every time I have heard the phrase "My grandad used to smoke a pipe."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anything by Terry Pratchett, Alan Moore, H.P. Lovecraft, Kurt Vonnegut. I also love The Earthsea Quartet by Ursula LeGuin, a still have a soft spot for The Lords of the Rings, and enjoy a lot of the fiction set in the Warhammer 40,000 universe. My favourite graphic novels/comic series include Preacher, Watchmen, Ghost World and Transmetropolitan.

When it comes to movies I like a well put together action movie, such as Mad Max: Fury Road, Pacific Rim, or Dredd. I also love indie movies with some dark depths to them - Perfect Sense, Code 42 and Franklyn to name a few of my favourite British ones. Plain old weird stuff like Bunny and the Bull or A Fantastic Fear of Everything are always good. Wes Anderson is a legend, as is Guillermo Del Toro. Basically, I like Good Movies, and have a soft spot for Fun Movies. Ask me if you want to know the difference.

For TV I have similar tendencies as I do with movies. Farscape is one of my all-time favourite SF shows. I'm regaining some trust in Doctor Who this season. Love me some Game of Thrones, and Penny Dreadful is excellent. I thoroughly enjoy a good cartoon, so Adventure Time, Avatar, Archer, Venture Brothers and Code Monkeys are all great watching for me.

Music-wise my taste is best described by the Bill Hicks quote 'Play from your fucking heart!' At the moment I am listening to a playlist on Spotify I created called 'Folk off, folk-face', including such bands as Show of Hands, Steeleye Span, Lindsey Stirling, 3 Daft Monkeys, and Blackbeards Tea Party. Other playlists include my comedy playlist, which consists of things like Professor Elemental, The Beards, Tim Minchin, Bil Bailey, Garfunkel and Oates and Jonathan Coulton.

The six things I could never do without
Mobile phone
A good hat
Splendid lovers
Honest friends
Fucking swearing
I spend a lot of time thinking about
All the things I'm interested in. Haven't I been through this earlier?
On a typical Friday night I am
Not a big fan of having a 'typical' anything. But the more likely of the many things that could occur to me on a weekend are drinking in The Gryphon with my friends, working on a project at home, seeing one or more of my partners, or going on some form of adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Anything you wish to know, ask. I'm not prone to keeping secrets - not any of my own, anyway.
You should message me if want to. Who am I to tell you what to do?