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My self-summary
I value humor, honesty, intellect, kindness, learning, openness, communication, creativity, and intimacy. Thus, I try to both live and fill my life with those things.
I like being creative and would be thrilled to find other talented creative folks to collaborate with on video, game, media, and music projects.

Not currently an A-list subscriber, so if you "like" me, I'll probably never know. Just message me instead! Even though I've concluded OKC is pretty much a barren wasteland for South Carolina, I still occasionally check the site / send out polite ignored messages :)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm passionate about teaching, creativity, social justice, and combating rape culture with the power of informed consent and de-stigmatization of human sexuality. I'm proactively looking for opportunities to move out of the US, or at least out of the south (currently aiming for Charlotte or "The Triangle" areas in NC the most. That's not QUITE the south, right?), and to leave this tiny insignificant rock a little bit better than I found it.
I’m really good at
- honest communication
- good bad jokes (or "dad jokes" depending on who you ask), pun, and innuendo
- being sex positive
- informed consent
- knowing a little about a whole lot of stuff
- waxing philosophical about how to improve society
- over-analyzing
- being creative (making music, writing, drawing, etc.)
- writing lists on the internet
- writing polite and civil messages that southern women ignore on OKCupid
The first things people usually notice about me
Apparently that I exude "tall, sexy nerdiness." I've been likened to David Tennant (the Doctor Who version, NOT the Jessica Jones version -shudder-) more than once. I took this as a compliment.

Or, my silly / dumb t-shirts with nerdy and / or obscure references.

Or, my appreciation for puns and my refined sense of humor (aka "dad jokes"). Don't be hatin'.

Or, that I'm unabashedly open and honest and want to know what makes you tick right off the bat.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like a variety of media, though I've been more into TV shows as of late (yay Netflix?)

Books: "Awareness" by Anthony DeMello, "Way of the Peaceful Warrior" by Herman Hesse, "Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" by Douglas Adams, "Ghost in The Shell" by Masamune Shirow.

Movies: "Airplane!," "Birdman," "Les Invasions Barbares", "Secretary," "The Martian," "Swiss Army Man," "Young Frankenstein," Monty Python films, sci-fi, B-movies, comedies.

Shows: "30 Rock," "Adventure Time," "Archer," "Bee and Puppycat," "Caprica," "Danger 5," "Doctor Who," many HBO originals ("Game of Thrones," "Westworld," and "Vice News Tonight" being noteworthy standouts), "Kill La Kill," "One Punch Man," "Please Don't Hug Me," Star Trek: TNG and newer (including Enterprise), "The Venture Brothers."

Music: Daft Punk, Kishi Bashi, Regina Spektor, "Still Alive" by Jonathan Coulton, jazz, blues, lots of movie, tv, and video game soundtracks.

Food: Vietnamese, Thai, Sushi, Indian, Italian, good Tex-mex, and fruit.

Games: "Cards Against Humanity," "Magic the Gathering," "The Wolf Among Us," "Dear Esther," "Super Time Force Ultra," "Papers, Please," "Heroes of the Storm," "Paragon," 2D Fighters, any fun co-op games.
Six things I could never do without
(assuming the bottom two rungs of Maslow's hierarchy of needs are being met...)

- beauty
- creating
- communication
- the ability to improve oneself
- affection / having fun with sex
- humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- the average air speed velocity of a coconut laden swallow
- how can I make that person laugh
- how to improve myself and the world/society
- finding truly open minded (and relatively safe / sane) folks to try fun hedonistic stuff with
- cultures and places I'd like to explore
- if Skynet has already won
- Musical composition
- how close to reality "Idiocracy" really is
- what demographic(s) advertisements are aiming for and what they are REALLY trying to say (and how insipid the message often is)
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching Netflix, doing nerdy game stuff (Magic or computer games), poking at some design or artsy stuff, researching areas I'd be interested in moving to, or hanging out with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty kinky, rather nerdy, want to go on more adventures and travels, and will try most things (that won't kill or permanently injure me) twice. I'm also a little shy and awkward at first around people I find really attractive.
I have no interest in individuals who are incapable of having calm and civil conversations about disagreements, feelings, and goals.
You should message me if
you'd like a reply. I try to reply to all polite thoughtful messages (it'd be rude not to). Sadly, I've noticed most folks default to rude on the Internet.

Or, if making time to get to know each other out in the real world is a priority for you... especially if you're into fun nerdy stuff (intellectualism in general, learning, science, art, sci-fi, video games, nerdy card games), like making music, are kind-hearted, find living things to be fascinating, desperately crave genuine honesty, consider sex to be a great recreational activity, are positive, enjoy conversation about meaningful and diverse topics (i.e. philosophy, psychology, art, sex / sexuality, social reform, etc.), are over a 60% match percentage, and aren't crazy socially awkward.

I'm happy to answer questions about myself, life, the universe, etc. as time allows... so there's one more excuse for you to message me :D

Not currently an A-list subscriber, so toss me a message if you want me to know you "like" me.

Absolutely not interested in rude people, temper tantrums, flakes, cheaters, or those who promote prayer in lieu of spending time and resources to address social / economic injustices.
The two of us