After three years of this I decided having friends, free time, and a Meaningful Impact was more important than conventional markers of maturity. So now I live a rich kid slumming it, even though I grew up Actual Poor. In exchange I run a think tank and am a mildly established political writer. (The three least confusing terms to describe my orientation would be: science, feminism, anarchism.)
I have the geek disease where I've an aversion to small talk, which feels manipulative, but will, no matter how hard I try not to, spontaneously go on excitedly about conceptual stuff. I was basically made to collaboratively geek out until 3am, but in a pinch -- if it's welcome -- I can also fall back on charming solo lectures.
If there's a really good thing you're a fan of I'm probably also a fan to some degree, but it feels so empty talking about how we both have opinions on Korra or whatever. How about an idea you find intriguing but that goes against the grain of your social circles?
2. My bestie.
3. Hot showers (my replacement for caffeine).
4. My dry erase board.
5. Rain (I'm a native Portlander).
I suspect the largest reason is that I was (and remain) something of a narrative or *meaning* junkie. Romance was thus a huge part of my life because crushes and relationship aspirations are basically narrative crack. But after a nasty hangover from a long-term relationship some of my projects started to legitimately change the world. When the things you work on actually resonate in politics and social movements everything else just kinda seems an afterthought.
The flipside is that when you're changing the world you're rarely all that open to changing yourself. Love is an open, searching kind of undertaking; and it's hard to connect with others when you're a barreling ideological train. The more Impact I've had, the more that's come alongside walling myself into certain focuses at the cost of a more receptive sort of exploration. I guess it's time for the pendulum to swing back?
Your idea of fun is something like walking around Mount Tabor excitedly talking about some new take on the ethics of time travel.