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My self-summary
Alright, time to overhaul this profile, or at least nuke it and put a giant Under Construction sign up. Being overly honest should do it.
What I’m doing with my life
My life plan was to delay grad school in theoretical physics for a few years to do some activist work. But that stopped me from getting into a top school so I got a Real Job in tech and poached half of an education by just showing up for lectures at Berkeley.

After three years of this I decided having friends, free time, and a Meaningful Impact was more important than conventional markers of maturity. So now I live a rich kid slumming it, even though I grew up Actual Poor. In exchange I run a think tank and am a mildly established political writer. (The three least confusing terms to describe my orientation would be: science, feminism, anarchism.)
I’m really good at
I'm wicked smart and can project a charisma bubble. The latter I find ethically dubious, and the former often makes me a one-trick pony.

I have the geek disease where I've an aversion to small talk, which feels manipulative, but will, no matter how hard I try not to, spontaneously go on excitedly about conceptual stuff. I was basically made to collaboratively geek out until 3am, but in a pinch -- if it's welcome -- I can also fall back on charming solo lectures.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I grew up totally isolated from pop culture in a 2nd wave feminist household, so of course I overcompensated by eventually developing a wide knowledge base. Basically by watching tv and listening to music nonstop the moment I went to college. I find signalling my Personal Quirks & Elite Preferences distasteful. And counter-signaling my rebellious loves of mainstream or unpopular things is also a waste. I prioritize stuff that was clearly deeply loved and cared for by its creators. So this could be anything from Star Wars to a Ted Chiang story to The Wire. These days I mostly listen to electropop and postrock. I oscillate between eating like a fitness model on instagram and eating like a working poor connoisseur of street/fast food. If I had to live next to only two restaurants they'd serve mission burritos and indian food.

If there's a really good thing you're a fan of I'm probably also a fan to some degree, but it feels so empty talking about how we both have opinions on Korra or whatever. How about an idea you find intriguing but that goes against the grain of your social circles?
Six things I could never do without
1. My exocortex (ie my laptop).
2. My bestie.
3. Hot showers (my replacement for caffeine).
4. My dry erase board.
5. Rain (I'm a native Portlander).
6. Avocados.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Today I am back on OKC because I've been thinking about why I quit dating, and how weird it is that I so quickly pivoted to feeling blase or disaffected about romance after a lifetime of it always on my mind.

I suspect the largest reason is that I was (and remain) something of a narrative or *meaning* junkie. Romance was thus a huge part of my life because crushes and relationship aspirations are basically narrative crack. But after a nasty hangover from a long-term relationship some of my projects started to legitimately change the world. When the things you work on actually resonate in politics and social movements everything else just kinda seems an afterthought.

The flipside is that when you're changing the world you're rarely all that open to changing yourself. Love is an open, searching kind of undertaking; and it's hard to connect with others when you're a barreling ideological train. The more Impact I've had, the more that's come alongside walling myself into certain focuses at the cost of a more receptive sort of exploration. I guess it's time for the pendulum to swing back?
On a typical Friday night I am
On my laptop, probably reading articles and arguing/joking with my friends. It's 2017, let's stop pretending.
You should message me if
You're earnest, analytic, and empathetic. You're abnormally inclined to valuing honest communication. You viscerally abhor seeing anyone constrained or oppressed. Audacity a bonus.

Your idea of fun is something like walking around Mount Tabor excitedly talking about some new take on the ethics of time travel.
The two of us