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My self-summary
Alright, time to overhaul this profile, or at least nuke it and put a giant Under Construction sign up. Being overly honest should do it.

Can you believe that when I launched this profile five years ago I was deluged with messages and dates? And then I just gave up on dating and now I'm thirty. Way to give up on your twenties, me.
What I’m doing with my life
My life plan was to briefly delay grad school in theoretical physics to do some activist work. But that stopped me from getting into a top school so I got a Real Job in tech and poached half of an education showing up intermittently for lectures at Berkeley.

After three years of this I decided having friends, free time, and a Meaningful Impact was more important than conventional markers of maturity. So now I live a rich kid slumming it, even though I grew up Actual Poor. In exchange I run a think tank and am a mildly established political writer. (The three least confusing terms to describe my orientation would be: science, feminism, anarchism.)
I’m really good at
I'm wicked smart and can project a charisma bubble. The latter I find ethically dubious, and the former makes me a one-trick pony.

I have the geek disease where I've an aversion to small talk but will, no matter how hard I try not to, spontaneously go on excitedly about conceptual stuff in a way that can read as narcissistic unless someone can keep up and is similarly enthused in which case I happily collaborate.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I grew up isolated from pop culture so of course I over-compensated by developing a wide knowledge base. I find signalling my Personal Quirks & Elite Preferences distasteful. And counter-signaling my rebellious loves of mainstream or unpopular things is also a waste. I prioritize serious Science Fiction and anything that was clearly deeply loved and cared for by its creators. These days I mostly listen to electropop and postrock. I oscillate between eating like a fitness model on instagram and eating like a working poor connoisseur of street/fast food. If I had to live next to only two restaurants they'd serve mission burritos and indian food.

If there's a really good thing you're a fan of I'm probably also a fan, but let's try for some better conversation starter than a comparison of pop culture loves. How about an idea you find intriguing but that goes against the grain of your social circles?
Six things I could never do without
1. My exocortex (ie my laptop).
2. My bestie.
3. Hot showers (my replacement for caffeine).
4. My dry erase board.
5. Rain (I'm a native Portlander).
6. Avocados.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Today I am back on OKC because I've been thinking about why I quit dating, and how weird it is that I so quickly pivoted to feeling blase or disaffected about romance after a lifetime of it always on my mind.

I suspect the largest reason is that I was (and remain) something of a narrative or *meaning* junkie. Romance was thus a huge part of my life because crushes and relationship aspirations are basically narrative crack. But after a nasty hangover from a long-term relationship some of my projects started to legitimately change the world. When the things you work on actually resonate in politics and social movements everything else just kinda seems an afterthought.

The flipside is that when you're changing the world you're rarely all that open to changing yourself. Love is an open, searching kind of undertaking; and it's hard to connect with others when you're a barreling ideological train. The more Impact I've had, the more that's come alongside walling myself into certain focuses at the cost of a more receptive sort of exploration.
On a typical Friday night I am
On my laptop, probably reading articles and arguing/joking with my friends. It's 2017, let's stop pretending.
You should message me if
You're earnest, analytic, and empathetic. You're abnormally inclined to valuing communication. Audacity a bonus.

Your idea of fun is something like walking around Mount Tabor excitedly talking about some new take on the ethics of time travel.
The two of us