blisswishlist
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My self-summary
Fit, smart, loving, and looking for a warm, genuine, stable, sensual, compassionate guy to laugh with, cultivate joy with, and share experiences small and large. Someone who challenges me in the best ways and wants to be challenged as well. Someone who takes care of himself. He's grown up and shows up, emotionally speaking. He knows what he wants and treats others kindly, even if he's working through some things. We probably all are, right? Life doesn't stop in the meantime. 😊

I value integrity, intelligence, creativity, kindness, compassion, and fun-making tendencies. Smarty-smarts are a fucking aphrodisiac.

I'm a fantastically extroverted introvert. INFP or INFJ, depending on the day.

I'm 41.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a writer for Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, own a small business, and am a creative creature. Everything but the guy! I generally adore learning and trying new things. I'm drawn to people who share their passions--whether those overlap with mine or not.

I'm pretty active overall --- but make an effort to cultivate the slower, lower-key parts of life. Busy New Yorker, but not into busy for busy's sake, and I love outdoor activities.
I’m really good at
Listening. Kissing. Finding joy. Moving betwixt vastly different social worlds. Not bolting at my first mis-step -- or yours. We all mis-step while figuring out new people we like. It's ok.
The first things people usually notice about me
My RBF. My calf muscles. My skinny girl physique. My witty/wry/dry humor. I can be intense. I can also be completely goofoidal.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Aliens. The Elegant Universe. The War of Art. Arcadia. To the Lighthouse. The Hours. References to Salvador Dali Make Me Hot (that's a play title, not a declaration). Watership Down.

I see lots of theater.

TV: Breaking Bad was all it's cracked up to be. Mad Men. And if I had that little mind-zap device from Men In Black, I'd erase my memory just to experience The Wire again for the first time. I watch almost nothing when it's actually "on" but do the Netflix/other streaming thing.

Music: Eclectic. But I do that thing of replaying and replaying and replaying a much-loved track.

Food: Bring it. I skew healthy, but eating and sharing food is one of the great pleasures of life.
Six things I could never do without
Touch and love
Art (in the broadest sense)
Sleep.
Yoga. I'm a certified teacher but mainly teach friends.
People I really trust = gold
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What in the hell, humans? (My reaction re: current events nearly constantly for the last, oh. . . several years)
Love and touch.
Which path to take. Which path I'm on.
Human behavior. Men. How it's all better when people can get out of their own way.
Stories and words and language.
Happiness and meaning.
On a typical Friday night I am
On my couch. At the bar with a great companion. At the theater with friends. Chowing down. . . at home or out. Heading to Vermont (a few times a snow season and usually once in the summer) or to see a sibling out of town. Resting. Yoga. Typical shmypical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In person = open book.

If we have tentative or even actual plans to meet, but we've not met, or perhaps even if we have met but aren't yet madly in love: If I win the Hamilton lottery for that night, I'm going to have to reschedule. Forgive me.
You should message me if
Help Cupid out. Message me if:

You're intelligent, affectionate and irreverent at once. You aren't jaded and are willing to share happy, unguarded moments. You are present and enjoy real time with a fellow human (and can put down the phone, although we're all addicts).

You've stowed your baggage. Stop, I know there's baggage. (No one gets out of their twenties unscathed.) Just stow it. If you're not ready to do that, happy healing but none of us need someone to work out their past relationship issues on us in a new one, right? You're not my ex. I'm not yours.

You think I'm cute. (Or hot. Or, you know, both.)

You want to meet. Witty banter means little sans chemistry, and that means getting face to face. Real-life chemistry PLUS banter -- that's a whole other ballgame.
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