This profile still desperately needs updating.
But anyway, here's what I got right now:
Let's get the poly discussion out of the way. I identify as polyamorous. A monogamous relationship isn't necessarily off the table, but the polyamory thing has been a big part of my life for a long time, so let's face it -- if polyamory squicks you out, I'm probably not the guy for you.
Apparently OKCupid will not allow me to be simultaneously very serious and also laughing about my spirituality. I assure you I am both.
So, most of my friends and I used to be on this website LiveJournal. Several years ago in the comments of one of my journal posts, a friend spontaneously decided to tell me, unsolicited, all the things she liked about me that she could think of off the top of her head. And then a bunch of other friends did the same thing. Given that my friends are awesome, I figure their words would make a better summary of me than anything I could come up with myself. Like I said this was a few years ago, now, but I'd like to think a lot of this is still applicable. Here are some of the things they said:
"I like that you're interesting when I actually hear you speak. I like that we don't have to speak.... I like that you're not all about yourself and you're willing to listen and talk with (not at) others. "
"I like that [Steven] is really damn smart. It's fun to see his brain go. I like that he's self-aware, even in long-term retrospect. It's the interest in self discovery that makes that cool. I like that he *is* motivated about some things enough to *make it go*. Motivation is sexy. I like that he's naturally musical. I like that he enjoys playing games. I like that he is open and non-prejudiced about so many of the things that most people are uptight about. I like that he is capable of redefining himself."
"I like that you're so supportive of everyone around you when they need someone to lean on. I like that you're quiet. I like that you're actively working on your issues.... I like your hugs."
"My turn! It's great that [Steven] is so smart, but what I really like is that he listens. It shows he is a caring, sensitive guy. He's willing to admit when he fucked up.... His musical ability impresses me, and I love his sense of humor. "
"I like that you hug well. I like that you're comfortable for me to sit next to.... I like that when we talk, we don't run out of things to say. I like that when we talk, we can pause the conversation and be comfortable. I like that you reflect back to me some of the things that are good about me that don't always get reflected back as much as I'd like. I like that you don't like to be really negative about third parties not present if they come up during the discussion. I like that you accept who I am, faults and all. I like that you try to be honest with yourself. I like that you try to be honest with others."
So. How's that sound? Good? Well then, read on, tout suite!
I am whip-smart, sweet, and patient
I don't drink, but don't think this necessarily means I can't hang out with you if you do drink; au contraire, I can be your designated driver! What a bargain for you. Although if you live to drink and drink to live, that probably won't work out well between us.
An album I sang on in college is on iTunes. [Ed. note, 7/15/16: Lord knows how long that link was broken. I just updated it.] That's pretty cool. In recent years I've started doing some choral singing again, although I'm kind of on a break from that right this second
I once advanced to candidacy for a Ph.D. in mathematical logic, specifically set theory.
Books: the book that changed (or ruined?) my life was Gödel, Escher, Bach by Hofstadter. I try to read mathematically intensive books so that my years in grad school weren't a total waste. As of summer 2016, over the last year or so I've been into 1920's and 30's Polish logicians, other logic writers from the first half of the 20th century like Quine and Kleene, constructive mathematics, type theory and functional programming, and logic programming. If you're involved with the tech industry in Austin you should really read You'll Never Interview In This Town Again by Erin Passons. I think I'm obligated by law to mention The Ethical Slut (which is not really the best-written book ever, but it has historical value as one of the earliest books about polyamory).
Movies: all Kevin Smith (not only is he handsome, he's talented too!), Lilo and Stitch (don't smirk, it's actually very sweet and well done). Hedwig and the Angry Inch (I dressed up as Hedwig one Halloween in West Hollywood and still wear the boots on occasion [see attached photograph]; I do a mean karaoke rendition of "Wig in a Box"; and, I'm sort of friends with the lead guitarist on the soundtrack! Hedwig hat trick!). The Dark Knight [insert zero or one words here]. A Scanner Darkly. I'm a sucker for any kind of "Is this real? What is real?" movie -- The Matrix, Inception, Cabin in the Woods, Jacob's Ladder, eXistenZ, etc. Also, Pi, Memento, any Monty Python, Groundhog Day, Office Space. Guilty pleasure: Romy and Michele's High School Reunion
Music: First of all, as I'm writing this I just discovered BABYMETAL. O. M. G.
Everything I know about music that's happened since 1996 I learned from Rock Band. I am very willing to be enlightened about what else I'm missing, especially about good local Austin bands. The only one I know of is The Meat Purveyors. Anyway, I dig all things Bob Mould (Hüsker Dü, Sugar, and even [hell, especially] the early 2000's forays into electronica), X, Verbow, My Bloody Valentine, Sleater-Kinney, Fugazi, Social Distortion, Bad Religion, The Beatles, Liz Phair, Richard Thompson, Superchunk, 7 Year Bitch, The Donnas, that dog., Beastie Boys, Juliana Hatfield, Sebadoh, Pixies, Frank Black, The Breeders, The Amps, Veruca Salt, Shellac, Snoop Dogg, Dr. Dre, N.W.A., Run-DMC, MC Frontalot, Jurassic 5, Doug E. Fresh, Dead Prez. I have a strange fascination with Dev.
Foods: mmm, donuts. I used to live in NC and really liked the food there, Eastern-style barbecue, biscuits, hushpuppies, sweet tea, greens...I gained a lot of weight in NC.