36Santa Rosa, United States
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My self-summary
I strive. I try to do right by the world. I help people professionally. I did in fact find a way to make a living helping people.

I also get paid to do my hobby. That is as awesome as it sounds.

I like to read. I like to run around. It has been almost two years since my last game of tag.

I just recently got through a couple year period of working 60 hours a week. Now I don't have to work as much anymore (goals accomplished) and I am working hard at enjoying life. Baloo is my role model.
What I’m doing with my life
Building a life. Helping people. Teaching obscure forms of fencing. It is going rather well.
I’m really good at
Finding things I didn't know I was supposed to be looking for.
Pointing out that the Star Wars galaxy is made of slavery and Obi-Wan Kenobi is evil (seriously, he'll convince you to try to kill your own father, spoiler alert?).
I'm really good at getting up after being knocked down.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've been told my eyes are very noticeable. They're bright blue.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm working my way through a pile of nonfiction I bought. Lately I've been reading alternating chapters of "Chasing the Scream" and "The Shock Doctrine". Heavy, but very illustrative of our current situation. I've also been reading a number of graphic novels and comics.

Prog rock, classic rock, metal, prog metal, classic metal, classic prog metal rock, motown, Lamb of God, Childish Gambino, Mastodon, David Bowie, Sabbath, The Bad Plus, Tool (they are a great live show), Das Racist, all sorts of other music.

I am a huge geek, but people who meet me in life don't seem to suspect until I start talking about the probable effect on the murder rate that Daredevil would cause in Hell's Kitchen or the economic implications of colonialism as it relates to Star Trek. I take pride in it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can be a better mensch. Antiquity and what it tells us about today. How things have changed. How things have not changed. What I want my life to be. How to teach my classes more effectively. What I want in my living room. What I want for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
Unwinding from my week, possibly lesson planning for the class I teach on Saturdays. Visiting my friends. Stuff like that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm looking for someone to be kind to, who wants to be kind to me. I relate to people as individual humans with value and not as a checklist of qualities, accomplishments, and ambitions I am looking to fill.

Regarding marriage and kids, I'm not going to say yes or no. I feel that those are questions that have to be answered in collaboration with one's partner. I'm open to marriage but I am also not on a mission to get married or bust; a partner would have to be a part of that equation and I would be fine with being with someone who never wanted to marry. I like kids but I'm not on a mission to reproduce. I would have to be in a strong relationship with someone who wanted children. I've been perfectly happy in a relationship with someone who didn't want children as well. I guess I'm saying I'm open to ladies of diverse lifestyle preferences; I have to get to know them first anyway.

I don't have pre-conceived notions about what I want my life to be in the future; it never turns out that way anyway. I want to live it and have no regrets. Just some things I've learned about myself.
You should message me if
If you want to.

If you would say yes if I asked you to dance.

I don't want to force anyone to conform to my preconceptions. I'm not looking for someone to fit into some kind of pre-scripted fantasy life. I don't want to meet someone who is exactly like me and shares every single one of my preferences, though shared interests are a lot of fun.
The two of us