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My self-summary
6'3" INTJ, though I'm oddly talkative and outgoing. Sometimes. I can be super quiet around new people, and I'm incredibly soft spoken and sort of monotone, so people sometimes think I'm disinterested and/or bored, but that's not usually the case. Just one of my quirks. I'm really terrible at first impressions, but I promise I liven up a bit after you get to know me, or if you've just got a personality I click with. It may take some time to get to that point, but most people are glad they did. I was a shy kid growing up, so I guess there's still just a bit of that in me.

I love adventures. Outdoors, indoors, in my head, wherever. I love to hike and camp and just get out in nature whenever I can (closest thing I have to a "church"). I don't do it nearly as often as I should; work and/or other activities always seem to get in the way. BUT! I'm working on it.

Not religious or too terribly spiritual. I grew up super Christian and went to private Christian schools all my childhood, but for the most part, religion has been a non-entity in my life since college. I'm pretty open-minded and respectful when it comes to other people's religious beliefs, mainly because I view it as an incredibly personal thing that I have no right to try to change in someone else. But, I'm quite happy with my current worldview, so I maintain this sentiment only to the extent that I am afforded the same right to believe what I believe. Though we might differ, If you can agree to disagree and not harbor any ill will or judgment, then we could still be friends.

I try to take care of myself. I still eat terribly and don't exercise enough, but I'm one of those lucky ones whose genes keep it from showing. Exercise is still one of my favorite things, though (I played baseball all my life and into college, and I used to be a very avid runner), so I'm trying to get myself back in a groove with it.

I can be awkward and weird sometimes. I've been told I notice really interesting things, but I can't figure out whether that's a compliment or not. I tend to think it's a good thing. I'm definitely quirky, to say the least.

I'm also a bit overly introspective most of the time. I overthink almost everything, but mostly because I enjoy it (even though I agree that sometimes life is best done by action rather than thought). I'm very theoretical at heart, and I love taking apart tangible things and exploring the meaning behind them. I can be extremely over-analytical, which has its benefits and downfalls. I'm working on curbing the latter somewhat, but it's been a useful skill and has generally served me well throughout my life. However, I'm also extremely goofy and find myself not taking things TOO seriously most of the time. (Side note: I answered a question on here that asked if I was intense or carefree, and I was disappointed that I couldn't check both... It's a weird combo, I know.) So yeah, I'm "intensely carefree". I'll let you figure that one out, because I sure as hell haven't.

I think meaning might be one of the most important things to me. I was definitely that overly curious kid growing up seeking explanations for everything under the sun ("But why, Mom?"). I'm never satisfied intellectually, and I'm always seeking more and more knowledge about people, about the world, about ideas and concepts, etc. I would absolutely love nothing more than to find someone of a similar inclination to explore these realms with me. It's also one of the reasons (I think) I've never been able to do the whole hookup scene or just casually date people. Companionship is great, don't get me wrong, but for me, things usually fizzle out pretty quickly if there's not something deeper going on.

Also, for the record, I'm not the most traditionally romantic person out there; I've found my "love language" is almost universally service-oriented (both giving and receiving). To me, one of the most romantic things someone can do is to go out of their way to make someone else's life easier. I'm definitely working on being better at developing other means of demonstrating affection, but I'm also realistic enough to recognize that I'm never going to be the most sentimental and touchy-feely guy out there. That being said, it perhaps makes sense that I've found I connect best with people who possess a strong independent side (as I do) and are in many ways emotionally self-sufficient.
What I’m doing with my life
I spent a lot of time in school, about 8 years full-time and 2 years part-time. After undergrad, I spent 4.5 years in grad school seeking a PhD in sociology (perfect for the overthinking type, no?), but I eventually grew disillusioned by the nuts and bolts of academia and decided to leave before I finished. Now I'm an in-house accountant/Jack-of-all-trades at a small company, and for whatever ridiculous reason, I actually really like my job.

I'm a long-term idealist but short-term realist, so always trying to balance lofty ambitions with the day-to-day necessities I frequently overlook. I get a little too ahead of myself sometimes, but my friends seem to be pretty good at reining me back in to enjoy the present. Life is pretty good, though I'm always working toward making it even better.
I’m really good at
Being really dry and cynical (in an amusing way, of course).

Questioning assumptions, particularly my own.

Advice, or so I've heard. I'm not always the best at emotional support, but I'm damn good at picking apart a problem and finding unbiased solutions.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile. I've been told it's simultaneously goofy and a smirk (while being entirely genuine), which, in a lot of ways, pretty much sums up my personality. I'm usually lost in thought, though, so you might notice some distant gaze typically associated with such things.

I'm also tallish and wear glasses 99% of the time, so it's hard to miss me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My tastes pretty much cover the whole spectrum with most of these, as long as it is quality or seems like a good time. Everything has its place. I do, however, tend to prefer books, movies, shows, and music that have some deeper meaning and/or point. Yeah, that's totally oversimplifying any sort of notion of taste, but that's the gist, for the most part. (Sorry for being that guy...)

Let's see if I can do a basic rundown of the high points, though:

Books: Love Steinbeck, Hemingway, Kerouac. I read a lot of nonfiction nowadays (thanks, grad school). Travel writing is a personal favorite, as well as stuff with a personal development bent (guilty pleasure).

Movies: Foreign/indie, documentaries, and classics mostly. Huge film noir buff. I'm definitely down for blockbusters and other fare as well, though.

TV: Arrested Development, HIMYM, The Newsroom, Parks and Rec, 30 Rock, 30 for 30 documentaries, I actually haven't had cable in, like, 7 years, so I'm pretty bad about watching shows regularly. My friends also make fun of me for the fact that I've probably seen at least the first 2 episodes of every major binge-worthy show out there but then trail off or get distracted by something else.

Music: I go through phases, covering pretty much every genre imaginable. Been in a weird post-punk/alternative/trip hop mood of late. Last month I was on a huge soul kick (love me some Al Green and Otis Redding). I'm sure I'll be on to something new by next week. Two favorite bands are Death Cab for Cutie and the Beatles (Modest Mouse is a close 3rd). So yeah, I'm all over the place here.

Food: Everything, duh.
Six things I could never do without
1. Friends/people/love/community 😄 ❤️
2. Sophomoric humor and/or dry wit 💩 🔥
3. Coffee ☕️
4. Nature/Hiking ⛺️
5. My cat, LC 😸
6. Microsoft Excel 📊📈🤓
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I'm going to do with my life; Ways that I can make the world a better place both for myself and others; Random, inconsequential, theoretical things that I have no business messing with (mental masturbation, if you will); What I'm going to eat for lunch/dinner; the appropriate level of seriousness for a given situation (I'm always either too serious or goofy, rarely in-between).
On a typical Friday night I am
doing whatever I'm in the mood for. Sometimes that's just hanging at home by myself, sometimes that's dinner with a friend or two, or - very rarely - I'm actually doing something super social like going to a bar or concert or something like that. I have to say, Friday nights have changed considerably as I've gotten older; doing nothing doesn't really bother me anymore, but I still relish those opportunities to get out and interact and connect with folks (as I do any night, for that matter).
You should message me if
you're cool, fun, confident, energetic, and outgoing, don't get stressed easily, think that your friends are more important than your work, are more extroverted than me, and, most of all, are happy, content (at least in an ontological sense), emotionally self-sufficient, and intellectually and physically adventurous.
The two of us