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My self-summary
I am ethically non-monogamous…

Which is to say I have more than one partner, they know all about each other and there is no cheating. If you are looking for a "discreet" partner, perhaps you should look elsewhere.

I am bisexual…

I am partially "out" to select people, for personal reasons as well as professional. This increases some risk to my partners, so I am communicating it up front. I am also not interested in shoehorning anyone into something they are not interested in. If you think you like something let me know, there is not too much off the table; and I will let you know if I cannot do something.

I am safe…

I only play safely with my partners and would find it necessary to discuss history as well as safe practices with anyone who is interested. Again, if this does not interest you, then perhaps you should look somewhere else.

I am sober...

I have been 2 and a half years without alcohol. I promise not to get all 12 steps on you, but its probably better to know ahead of time. I have no problem if my partners of friends want to drink. Think of me as a guaranteed designated driver.

I am

A musician, a writer, a father, a professional, a lover, an experimenter, a mentor, a student, a gamer, a reader, a would be master of his own life, and an interesting sidekick for another’s life.
What I’m doing with my life
Living it as fully as I am able (limiting factors are of course money and time). I write for a non-monogamy website called Life on the Swingset. I play several musical instruments. I exercise every week, running 5K 2-3 days a week. I play Magic the Gathering and have done so for almost 20 years (nerd). I am enjoying the warmer weather and motorcycle riding. I work two jobs, and enjoy both of them immensely. Life is far too short to hate.
I’m really good at
Listening, I love hearing people’s stories about who they are and how they have come to this point in their life. I tend to listen more than I talk, although I love hearing the sound of my own voice once I get going. I write about my experiences, good and ill, and some of that writing is published online. Anything personal I will ask permission before writing about it.

I am also a member of a trivia team that participated and won the national championship. I am only one of six on the team, but we won by only one question, so every bit matters.
The first things people usually notice about me
I look like a complete nerd. I am lucky to live in a time when nerdy is not only ok, but occasionally hot!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books I love: Cloud Atlas, Foucault's Pendulum, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, The Tao of Sobriety, Opening Up, Watership Down, Dune, The Last Unicorn, Kimchi Cuddles!

TV: Game of Thrones, Masters of Sex, Boardwalk Empire, Archer, Mad Men, House of Cards

Movies, The Hobbit, Sucker Punch (a guilty pleasure) A Clockwork Orange, Pink Floyd The Wall, Seven Samurai, In Bruges, American Beauty, Breakfast Club, Inception,

Music: I am all over the place, I love and play rock especially progressive, Pink Floyd, Yes, Genesis, Rush, Jethro Tull etc. I love jazz and classical but cannot play it. I occasionally go to NYC to see electronic shows I cannot see in New England. I have seen Shpongle, Desert Dwellers, Glitch Mob, Ozric Tentacles, I just returned from NYC Electric Zoo to see Chemical Brothers. (another bucket list item checked)

Food: Sushi, BBQ, Hot and Sour Soup, Something I cooked, Pie
Six things I could never do without
My children, though they are near grown
Music, I believe life should have a soundtrack (and sound effects)
Exercise, it may have saved my life
My computer, it is a Swiss army knife for me
My instruments, seldom a day goes by without touching and playing one of them
My motorcycle, cheap transportation when it is warm.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Music, I am one of those annoying people who always has something playing in his head. I sing in a fair tenor and can whistle fairly decently. I am self taught except for 6 weeks of piano lessons. I play keyboards, guitar, sax and woodwinds with much experimentation, trumpet trombone and French horn (but not for a long while). Mostly I play my mac with professional grade synthesizers and samplers.
On a typical Friday night I am
Recovering from a work week, visiting sexy friends old and new, playing Magic the Gathering.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You should message me if
Life is for experimenting!

If you have ever tried something once, didn't like it, and then tried it a second time to make sure you didn't screw it up at first.

If you are open with your partners, I will not participate in cheating.

If you have reached this point and not looked away in terror or disgust, perhaps you should look closer.
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