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My self-summary
Hello! My name is India.
General stuff: I am a fat-positive, liberal, kinky, genderqueer, pansexual tomboy-femme of color who believes in relationship anarchy, feminism, community, and consent culture in all aspects of life, not just sex.
More specific things: I'm very affectionate. I tend to inadvertently flirt. I surprise myself with how comfortable I am with socializing naked. I really REALLY love dancing and have been told I'm good at it. When I walk around, I have to actively resist checking out my own sexy reflection on storefront windows.
Sometimes I do strange or possibly stupid things just for the sake of a story. I have a face that makes strangers want to tell me their secrets, and often times I'll listen because I really like knowing and discovering people.

What I’m doing with my life
Just graduated from a small liberal arts college with a BA in Child Psych. About to start my term with this Americorp program called City Year.
I have lots of friends in the city, but I'm looking to find a community that affirms my identity. Might try to jump in on a cool artsy, queer project or something where i can put my passion for community building and activism to work.
Looking to go to grad school for social work and law in a few years.
I’m really good at
Giving massages
Getting a whole bar of strangers to dance with me
Chillaxing in the nude
Cooking without a recipe
Starting random conversations with people on the street
Intellectualizing everything
Talking about art
Hiding the fact that I'm shy
Putting my foot in my mouth.

I can talk up a storm about very specific things like racial and queer politics, the penal system, theater history, theories on the adaptive nature of political parties, language psychology, child psychology, families in America, perceptions of mental health in the US, women's history, social theory, the history of drugs and addiction in America, the history of the weird and scary institution of marriage, etc. I like being challenged and debating about these topics and love to learn new things.
The first things people usually notice about me
My boobs tend to get a lot of attention which I find mostly annoying. Otherwise, maybe my racially ambiguous appearance? Freckles? I don't know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I never really care to read what other people write for this question (half the time I don't know what people are referencing), so I'm not going to bother. Ask me in a message, if you want.
Six things I could never do without
My amazing friends
Physical intimacy
My journal
I spend a lot of time thinking about
my future
friendships and relationships
sociology thoughts: power structures, capitalism, ANGST
how awesome I am
what if the whole world was queer and/or relationship anarchists?
the relationship between culture, media, and individual behaviors or expectations.
On a typical Friday night I am
Chilling with friends. Parties sometimes, but I prefer them if I know most of the people. Occasionally drugs and alcohol, I am not aggressive about either.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a switch but people keep treating me like I'm exclusively a top or a dom because I'm good at it and it's my default, so my bottom/sub side is often neglected. If you are an actual switch or if you are inclined towards dominance, then I'd be very interested in meeting you. I am satisfied by variety and being overpowered is something that I don't have enough of in my life.
You should message me if
-I assume nonmonogamy as a default. So if you are down with that, cool. I'm pretty flexible about it though and depending on circumstances willing to change the terms of my nonmonogamy.
-Please message me with more than just a greeting and/or a compliment about my body and/or a weird question about my sexuality. I really don't understand why you think that's a good idea. Either I will delete your message or respond with something mean if I'm feeling cranky.
-Okcupid won't let me put this in my settings, so the sort of people I tend to be attracted to are queer whatever their gender may be. If you are a straight cis-man who somehow ended up on my profile despite my settings AND you actually have something intelligent to say, then feel free to send me a message.
-If you message me and your settings indicate that you are only looking for friends, I will be confused and unlikely to respond because I am not using okcupid for that.
-If you aren't really interested in the whole messaging formality of okc and just want to meet in person over coffee, I am so game for that. I feel like there is almost nothing you can really find out about your compatibility with a person through a few conversational messages. Not saying you have to take this strategy, just that I'm not against it.
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