General stuff: I am a fat-positive, liberal, kinky, genderqueer, pansexual tomboy-femme of color who believes in relationship anarchy, feminism, community, and consent culture in all aspects of life, not just sex.
More specific things: I'm very affectionate. I tend to inadvertently flirt. I surprise myself with how comfortable I am with socializing naked. I really REALLY love dancing and have been told I'm good at it. When I walk around, I have to actively resist checking out my own sexy reflection on storefront windows.
Sometimes I do strange or possibly stupid things just for the sake of a story. I have a face that makes strangers want to tell me their secrets, and often times I'll listen because I really like knowing and discovering people.
PLEASE READ ALL THE "YOU SHOULD MESSAGE ME IF" SECTION BEFORE MESSAGING ME TO AVOID ANY CONFUSION LATER.
I have lots of friends in the city, but I'm looking to find a community that affirms my identity. Might try to jump in on a cool artsy, queer project or something where i can put my passion for community building and activism to work.
Looking to go to grad school for social work and law in a few years.
Getting a whole bar of strangers to dance with me
Chillaxing in the nude
Cooking without a recipe
Starting random conversations with people on the street
Talking about art
Hiding the fact that I'm shy
Putting my foot in my mouth.
I can talk up a storm about very specific things like racial and queer politics, the penal system, theater history, theories on the adaptive nature of political parties, language psychology, child psychology, families in America, perceptions of mental health in the US, women's history, social theory, the history of drugs and addiction in America, the history of the weird and scary institution of marriage, etc. I like being challenged and debating about these topics and love to learn new things.
friendships and relationships
sociology thoughts: power structures, capitalism, ANGST
how awesome I am
what if the whole world was queer and/or relationship anarchists?
the relationship between culture, media, and individual behaviors or expectations.
-Please message me with more than just a greeting and/or a compliment about my body and/or a weird question about my sexuality. I really don't understand why you think that's a good idea. Either I will delete your message or respond with something mean if I'm feeling cranky.
-Okcupid won't let me put this in my settings, so the sort of people I tend to be attracted to are queer whatever their gender may be. If you are a straight cis-man who somehow ended up on my profile despite my settings AND you actually have something intelligent to say, then feel free to send me a message.
-If you message me and your settings indicate that you are only looking for friends, I will be confused and unlikely to respond because I am not using okcupid for that.
-If you aren't really interested in the whole messaging formality of okc and just want to meet in person over coffee, I am so game for that. I feel like there is almost nothing you can really find out about your compatibility with a person through a few conversational messages. Not saying you have to take this strategy, just that I'm not against it.