39 Tucson, United States
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My self-summary
Until recently, I'd been travelling all over the world for work (I worked in Television making terrible reality shows). This left me little time to establish a lot of social ties locally. On the upside, I have been named "honorary mayor" and "the ambassador" in some of the cities in which we've filmed (it doesn't take much: I hired locals and bought a lot of drinks for the people signing our film permits.) The downside is that I'm sort of starting from scratch in the social life department here.

I am a generous, reasonably smart, educated, and well-mannered man. I have strong ties to my family and friends, and tend to gravitate towards people with ambition and drive.
I'm probably a hard man to really get to know, but I don't mind trying when I find someone worth it.
What I’m doing with my life
I've come to a place in my life where I'm on the cusp of attaining everything I've been working for, but haven't reached the top yet. I work in Film and Television as a Production Manager. I mostly love what I do, but I don't live for my job, and I don't define myself by what I do. In my free time, I volunteer at animal shelters trying to find homes for abandoned pets.
I’m really good at
Reading strangers, listening, pretending to listen, and ruining movies by figuring out how they end 30-45 minutes in - although I have learned to control my urge to blurt out my predictions for the sake of others. I also consider myself a competent cat and dog whisperer. Occasionally, I let my warped sense of humor surface and it usually makes people laugh ...and only sometimes provokes an "omg wtf is wrong with you??" The same sense of humor also makes me very adept at avoiding serious questions with jokes and sarcasm - something that is not so good to be good at, perhaps, and part of the reason I'm here.
The first things people usually notice about me
The beard. I was just trying it out at first, but it gets a lot of compliments.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I've read many many books in my lifetime and have a healthy collection, but making time to read hasn't been high on my list, admittedly. I've been reading more now that my schedule has become less chaotic - mostly "practical" books (home wiring, Excel Skills, etc.) Boring conversation but good stuff to know, I suppose.

I have a very open mind when it comes to trying new food. . . usually leaning towards dishes I am not responsible for cooking. Seriously (and with the utmost respect), if you can cook that is a huge plus. I can do all the heavy lifting, painting, carrying, saving you from bugs, opening of tough jars, and reaching things on the top shelf in return.

I have everything in my music collection. I tend to shy away from brooding emo and inflammatory polka, but otherwise have an unhealthy collection of classical, jazz, funk, classic rock, 80s metal, 90s grunge, electronica, a couple of old country songs, and lately, a lot of dubstep. I know my taste in music isn't for everyone, but I also have something for everyone.

Too many to list but recently
"Breaking Bad," "The Walking Dead," "Game of Thrones."
Anything really funny.

I really loved "The Wire" and the "Battlestar Galactica" remake.
The six things I could never do without
My family
My sense of humor
Ctrl+V and Ctrl+C.
My guitar
A really awesome pillow. It's seen better days but it's like a pet to me I just can't bear to give it up.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I really want out of my life and what kind of contribution I can make to the world, other than TV shows nobody has ever heard of. Volunteering. Where I would like to go next in the world.
Mostly I am thinking about what is going on right now in my life, how I've gotten to where I am, and what the universe might have in store for me.
I don't spend "a lot" of time thinking about anything but how to make the most out of the time I have on this planet. Lately I've been spending a good deal of time trying to envision a "not-single" life.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm just as likely to be working as I am to be enjoying the company of friends. Sometimes I get to do both at the same time. Other times, I need to relax and stay in. I'm 39, not 20. I no longer feel like going out, getting hammered and trying to pick up girls is a valuable use of my time. Maybe I'm just not as strong as I was back then, or they are heavier than I remember.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am really attracted to dominant Women - who let me pretend I wear the pants in public, but in private not at all. Of course I will defend or fight for my significant other to anyone but at home, alone, I would rather not be the alpha. It's taken awhile to realize that about myself, and it is a tad scary to post it given societies expectations on couples etc. I know it isn't for everyone but the right person might come along and see this and hey, it's worth a shot! If I find an alpha female who wants a confident, courageous, and strong man who is nonetheless subservient in the relationship, then it will be worth sharing this.
You should message me if
You will take the time to actually say something and not shorthand every other word. Sorry. . . it hurts my eyes when I get "hey wut up? ur cute LOL!!1!"

You want to meet at some point. I'm not really up for a pen-pal only.
You are over your exes, and the baggage is minimal.