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My self-summary

I am presently (and happily) out of the dating pool/quagmire. However, I do enjoy being a moderator and I'm always looking to meet new and interesting people and broaden my diverse community or wonderful and weird people.

Things about me:

Connections, conversation, community are really important.
I seek meaningful experiences.
I love laughter. And Love.
Kissing and touching fuels my soul.
I love paddling around lakes with cocktails.
I can't abide the willfully ignorant.
If you make fun of my tofu, I'll fucking moo at your burger.
Always looking for live music in a small club/venue or outdoors
I am working on being/staying/getting more fit.

I am active working on making our communities better places to live.

I love my people.

And if we like each other, I want to love your people and I want you to love mine.
What I’m doing with my life
Living it as spectacularly as I can.

Running a food security non-profit start-up and working on making Portland a better place to live for everyone.

Being a good father and friend to my adult children.

I write-- mostly poetry, spoken word these days, but have written media critique columns, political essay, fiction (novels, short stories and screenplays) and all kinds of stuff. I belong to an immensely talented local writers group.

I also write haiku. Sometimes smutty ones.

I spend a good deal of free time working with others to attempt to make this world a slightly, if not significantly, better place. It needs all the help it can get.

Seeking more of everything.

Continually trying to become a better version of me.
I’m really good at
Kissing. Really. You should be too. Let's do it. Lots.
Alcohol infusions.
Parallel Parking™
Keeping drama in my life to a minimum.
Making time stop.
Finding amazing, fun and talented people to add to my circle of friends.
Being a good friend.
Being present even with messages flying all about.
Making Frittatas.
Back, foot, and butt massages.
Learning a partner's body and needs.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and smile.

My voice which has been described as a cross between "Porno" and "Nicholas Cage". I am undecided how I feel about this.

I am told I "smell nice." But unless we meet sniffing each other, that probably won't be the first thing you notice. Although I am open to an initial sniff- if that's your thing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Writers: Vonnegut, Atwood, Gibson, Dick, Bukowski, Cummings, Milne, Fuentes, Lessing, Aristophanes.

Movies: Casablanca, Blade Runner, The Hunger, Scorsese, Coppola, Kurosawa, Cohen Bros, Lumet, Marx Brothers, Documentaries

Musics: Marvin Gaye, The Who, Kiesza, The Replacements, REM, 16 Horsepower, Sade, Coltrane, Heather Nova, Polly Harvey, Tom Waits, Emmylou Harris, Blondie, Reverend Horton Heat, The English Beat, Elvis Costello, The Ramones, Bob Marley, Radiohead, ELO, The Circle Jerks, etc.

Television: Luke Cage (Holy shit), Steven Universe- Not too much else right now. Inspire me into watching what you like and lets get on the couch and check it out and wind up making out for three hours anyway.

Older favorites: Greg The Bunny, Firefly, Stewart/Colbert, Deadwood, The Wire, Battlestar Galactica, Extras, Max Headroom, The Larry Sanders Show, Home Movies, Daria, Ghost In The Shell, Treme, Ricky Gervais, PBS, Nat Geo, Cowboy BeBop.

FOOD: BRUNCH!!!! Italian! Mexican! Asian! American! Anything (almost)! Spicy please.
I don't eat meat, fish or poultry. That doesn't mean you can't though and honestly there's almost always something for me somewhere except for a ribs joint or steakhouse. I may pass at that.

Slow or at least lethargic food only please. Raw, locally sourced, and fresh desirable!
Six things I could never do without
(No particular order)

My kids
Amazing food
Amazinger cocktails
More Kissing

Bonus Round!

Breezes lakeside
Quality Toilet paper
Clear night skies in the middle of fucking nowhere
Mutual Release
Still more kissing
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why trees are just so fucking beautiful.
What my next adventure might be.
How to make the world a better place.
How to make the pearfect Pearjito.
What my next poem will be about and how to improve the ones I've written.
How to see as many friends as possible as often as possible.
Trygaeus' conversation with Hermes in Aristophanes' "Peace" as to why the Gods have abandoned humans.
On a typical Friday night I am
Cleaning up so I can meet friends for cocktails, music or both
and figuring out brunch plans for the weekend.


Fixing dinner and getting ready to settle in- saving energy for a fun weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When we had the ice storm several years back I worked from home and twice daily melted and re-filled the hummingbird feeder as a small army of very very cold hummingbirds diligently waited.

I have a hard time deciding between Cucumber-Melon and Gardenia body wash. Rosemary-Mint is mandatory.
You should message me if
If you want to have a great conversation and hopefully laugh a lot.

You're a really good kisser and you like to do it a lot

If you'll crack me up.

The spirit moves you, let me groove you good
let your loooove come down! (If you like Marvin Gaye)

You are equally comfortable with intelligent thoughtful discussions and goofiness.

You are genuine and loving and enjoy sharing experiences regardless what they are and where they go.
The two of us