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My self-summary
Human, outgoing, polyamorous, queer friendly, heteroflexible, sex-positive, married to an amazing woman, kinky, engineer, newly in love with reading. Enjoys hiking, backpacking, rock climbing, drinking fine (and not so fine) spirits, conversation with strangers, and geeking out on whatever interests you.

I've been told I look different in every photo. This is because I change my style pretty often; it keeps me from getting bored. To combat this, I've uploaded a metric fuck-ton of pictures.

Long form:
I'm confident, forward, and open, sometimes a tad immodest. I hold strong beliefs, but try to stay open to hearing the other side.

I'm a kinky D type sadist, but not super active in the "community." I enjoy it when that sort of dynamic emerges in a relationship, but it's not important enough a factor for me to build my social network around. I do have a profile on Fetlife, but would rather you ask me for the link than post it here.

I think I'm a hermit at heart who learned how to be outgoing. I drink more then I should, but not too much more. I love to go out and party with friends, but also enjoy a quite night in.

I'm an actual nerd, and avid gamer. I don't mean trendy pseudo-nerd, but actual software engineering, technology loving, must know how everything works, nerd. I promise not to dominate the conversation with stories of my latest digital conquest, unless you're into that kind of thing...
What I’m doing with my life
I work, a lot, and I love my work. The unfortunate reality is, it can really eat into free time.

I also love to hike, rock climb, build fires in my back yard, and drink whiskey. I'm also convinced that some combination of these is the perfect date.

I spent last Christmas climbing at Red Rocks in NV. Highlight of the year.

I'm also pretty passionate about personal growth. Not in the new-age neo-hippy sense, but in the "What don't I like about myself that I can change?" sense.
I’m really good at
Being a little bit too honest, over-sharing, solving problems, inventing problems to solve, logic.

Sometimes I seem to be very good at understanding others, but some of you still perplex me.
The first things people usually notice about me
After they notice that I'm tall and thin, I think they noticed that I'm making eye contact with them. I'm afraid this tends to make people uncomfortable.

Beyond that, I'm going to hope they notice my trustworthy face and mischievous smile... but they probably just notice that I've been wearing the same jacket for 6 months.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read in binges. Sometimes no books for 9 months, then 1k pages in 3 weeks. When I do find the time to sit down with a book I love it. I'm not going to list all the high-school classics. Sure their good, but everybody loves them.
Dance Dance Dance and Norwegian Wood by Haruki Murakami
The Prophet by Khalil Gibran
Story of O by Pauline Réage
A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers
Angle of Repose by Wallace Stegner
Rifters Trilogy by Peter Watts (recommended by a lover, Thanks Capra for my first Sci-fi)
Riddle Master Trilogy by Patricia A. McKillip (recommended by a lover, Thanks Aurora for my first Fantasy)

I read the first 80 pages of 50 Shades of Grey and thought it was awful.

Movies are easier:
Requiem for a Dream
Die Hard (all of em)
Gladiator (don't judge)
Star Trek (all of them +the series)
Lord of the Rings Trilogy
Dancer in the Dark (but I'll never, ever watch it again)

Music is the easiest, tends to be fluid, and I'd rather talk about what I've been listening to this week instead of my favorites. My taste is super broad.
The Mountain Goats
Aesop Rock
Frankie Boots and the County Line
The six things I could never do without
Sex Positive culture
Unlearned knowledge
Kozmo and Toshiro, my corgi pups
New, interesting people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Don't ask, it's forbidden to know, what end
the gods have granted to me or you, Leuconoe. Don't play with Babylonian
fortune-telling either. How much better it is to endure whatever will be!
Whether Jupiter has allotted to sink you many more winters or this final one
which even now wears out the Tyrrhenian sea on the rocks placed opposite
— be wise, strain the wine, and scale back your long hopes
to a short period. While we speak, envious time will have fled
Seize the day, trusting as little as possible in the future.

Present day:
lol, YOLO!
On a typical Friday night I am
Either at home being a hermit with Star Trek, or out in Ballard or Beltown getting hammered with some friends and coworkers. On an occasional Friday night, I'll be pitching a tent at a trailhead in preparation for an adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm finally getting around to updating my profile which was ancient. This part is real hard now, because all my secrets have become common knowledge. The closest thing I to private I can come up with is that I wish I was more gay. I've played with a few boys and had fun, but only in the company of women I'm involved with, and even then the pheromones just don't do it for me. This makes me sad.
You should message me if
You're poly and want to share your experiences, trials, and tribulations.

Or, you're kinky and want my fetlife profile link

Of, you want to discover the best coffee shop in Seattle
(Actually, my favorite coffee shop closed, so now you need to tell me where I can find the best coffee in Seattle)

Or, you know anything about the Seattle rave scene and will share your knowledge

Or, you simply want to chat about how fucking ridiculous everything is.

I try to respond to every message, simply because I like talking to people. If I keep showing up as viewing your profile, it's probably because I think you're cute. This is also a reasonable reason to message me.