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My self-summary
Life should be fun. Always trying to improve in some way or another. I just completed my Focus 3 life training. My contract with myself is this: I am a loyal, bold, passionate, generous man. If you haven't been thru Focus that won't mean much to you, but I put it out there just in case you have. Plus the fact I'm proud of it. Live for truth, create integrity.

Anyway, I have lots of friends and yes, some are girls so when you see them on my profile rest assured they are dear friends and nothing else. We talk about everything. No holds barred and no filters.

I don't have very many pictures of me in the professional mode so you'll have to deal with my 'out on the town' pics.

I'll trust you until you give me a reason not to. Having said that, trust is everything.

I'm definitely not the controlling type. I try to stay versatile...the guy that can do a formal, classy, sporting, get crazy and all kinds of other events. I even shape my wardrobe accordingly.

I'm looking for the one I can't do without. When I say that I'm not talking about "what you can do for me, cooking etc..." but rather, "who you are both mentally and physically". Someone who knows me and all my good traits as well as the bad ones and can accept me for who I am. I know you're thinking 'how can this guy possibly have any bad traits', but it's true, I do. That was a joke :-) but for real it's got to be the right girl. I'm in no hurry to settle down with anyone unless we have a bulletproof connection/relationship. This may sound totally gay, but I love seeing the 70 ish year old couple, that's been together forever, holding hands and looking so happy. That's where I want to be when I'm that age. Easy, right?

What rings my bell is a girl who's:
• rich on personality and spirit
• light hearted
• cute. Yes ladies, physical attraction is a player. I wish it wasn't like that for me, but it is and I've come to grips with it.
• affectionate-physical touch and words of affirmation
• fun!
• can talk about anything and is not easily offended-I say that because my friends and I sometimes have no filter
• strong and confident enough to trust even though you may have been burned before. We've all been burned, but in my opinion, when you let it take away your ability to trust you've given your power away, and surrendered to the one(s) who've hurt you
• opens doors for me and likes to buy me chocolates and flowers.

Ok, so I was kidding on the last bullet point, but the rest of it is exactly what I'm looking for :-)

Those were the basics. If you want to read more here you go:

I've been a software developer for years. I've recently taken a job as a technical business analyst at a company very close to me in Lee's Summit.

I have friends I go out and do things with. They're important to me. We all have our own ideas about what type of relationship we want and mine is one where I want to take you out with my friends and you want to take me along with yours too. Take note: you don't have to include me in your fun time, but WANT to...Are you the type that wouldn't mind coming out with or meeting up with us?

I also enjoy the quiet evenings. Like I say, I have several pics of me out with friends, but that's only because people don't pull out their phones and start taking shots when I'm sitting at home doing laundry :-)

I love kids, but don't have any of my own. I'm very close to my niece and two nephews. They're 12, 10 and 8.

My friends and family are important to me and our get togethers usually involve a few cocktails :-).

I'm not going to list all the things I like to do here because we don't have to be exactly alike. It's the core things that matter.

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What I’m doing with my life
I've been a mainframe/SQL server developer for years. I'm not the smartest man on the planet :), but my best skills are the ability to bridge the gap from technical to people who are non technical. You know, explain it in ways that regular people can understand. I've recently taken a job as a business analyst at a company very close to my house in Lee's Summit.

I have no kids. I'm very, very close to my niece and two nephews. They're 12, 9 and 7. I love kids and enjoy their company, so if you have kids it's no problem...actually I consider it a plus for me. If I was 20-30 I'd say that I wanted to have my own kids, but at 42 I'm thinking I don't want to be 60+ when they graduate from high school.
I’m really good at
This question is trying to get me to brag about myself :)

Whatever, here we go. I'm good at relating with people, always searching for truth, disciplining kids w/ love not anger, working out 3 to 5 times a week, drinking beer w/ friends, used to be good at playing drums but haven't played in awhile, making you laugh, playing golf, spinning negative to positive, having FUN, learning-technology fascinates me so always learning about that but also other things. I bought some tools and am getting sort of good at home maintenance...there are some other things but that's what I'll start with.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm easy.

As long as you're a good person you can do anything in front of me: Cus, smoke, vent, drink or whatever else you want to do :)

I do a fairly good job of disarming people. I try to ask a couple of questions, listen to what they say, and more importantly watch their reactions/gestures, then take my best shot at putting myself in their shoes...feel what they feel type thing. Usually after that we're good to go :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music is a big part of my life. I haven't played in years so I don't consider myself a musician anymore, but I love to listen and find all kinds of good music. As long as it moves my mind in some way I'll like it...doesn't matter which genre.

Movies-I typically find myself interested in action/adventure or comedy. I don't really go to the theatres though. I'm more of a watch a DVD at home with a glass of wine type of guy :)

Food-Love it all.
Six things I could never do without
Truth: There isn't anything that I can NEVER do without. Here is my list of what I don't want to do without

Family-especially sister
Niece and nephews
Spike and Brody-puppy wuppies
Friends-No offense, but mine are the best in the world
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Ways to get better...at EVERYTHING :)
The past, the future, and connecting the dots between the two.
On a typical Friday night I am
Either going out with friends, or having friends over. I have lots of divorced friends, both male and female, coincidentally their parenting schedules are synced up so if they have kids we'll usually get together at someone's house and let the kids burn off energy together. If it's a 'no kid' weekend we usually go out somewhere so the parents can burn off energy together :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes I pee in the shower.
You should message me if
You should message me if you're interested.
I will probably like you :)
The two of us